@nextshark :
A newly-married Asian man shared on social media how his father eventually learned to accept his African wife.⠀
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Clarence Tan, a half Hongkonger and half Singaporean man living in the United States, recently tied the knot with his girlfriend Edna Sophia, a woman from Ghana, West Africa.⠀
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In a post on the Facebook group Subtle Asian Traits, Tan shared his father’s initial apprehension, and eventual acceptance, of his fiancée.⠀
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“As you can imagine, dating a black/African woman isn’t always welcomed with open arms in Chinese/Asian culture. And sure enough, when I started dating Edna, I had kickback from my parents— especially from my dad,” Tan wrote.⠀
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“My dad is a great father and I respect him a lot... it was extremely upsetting when he told me he didn’t approve of Edna.”⠀
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Tan noted that his father’s reasons for his disapproval of Edna were the following:⠀
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1. Having different cultures will be “bad for marriage” and cause them to encounter a lot of difficulties in life.⠀
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2. It would be challenging for Clarence to set up a business in Asia.⠀
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Tan’s father then told him that despite his reservations, it will be his choice.⠀
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His father added that if he did choose to marry Edna, he won’t give his blessings and he may not attend his wedding.⠀
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“I started bringing her home to see my parents every now and then, which was extremely challenging for both Edna and parents (mostly dad).”⠀
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This created tensions between the couple as Edna and Clarence would argue over his efforts of pushing her to visit. Sometimes, he would even lie to her saying that she was invited by his parents. However, his plan somehow worked as his parents finally warmed up to her once they got a chance to get to know her more.⠀
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Tan’s parents soon fell in love with her and eventually gave their blessings.⠀
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“After three years of dating, we finally tied the knot with my family’s full support— especially my dad’s... He had the widest smile I’ve ever seen when Edna said ‘Daddy, yum cha’ during the tea ceremony, and he even played saxophone for our mother and son dance.”⠀
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“It was difficult but 100% worth— she’s the one.”⠀
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@kmusicandblackwomen ⠀
