Soft But Not Subtle

he/him | 26 | on this godforsaken site for escapism | disabled, in a sexy way

[floralfawning]

I’m in love! I’m in love! I’m in love!!!!!!!

[unicorn-meat-is-too-mainstream]

Erwin wurms fat sculptures

[rosieandthemoon]

Bulgaria

[lemonpurins]

🥭🍊🍈feeling FRUITY🍉🍑🍓

fruit felt photo holders i made for my dear friends :)

[byjove]

[academic-vampire]

𝔱𝔦𝔪𝔢 𝔦𝔰 𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔶𝔬𝔲𝔯 𝔢𝔫𝔢𝔪𝔶

[littleorangemushrooms]

Spotted longhorn beetle Rutpela maculata.

Back in the same rose bush as last year. I love it when that happens: my small friend has come back!

Field margin, Wales

[sobcat]

[fortuneaday]

[isuggestyouthliberation]

it's hard to overstate just how intertwined disability advocacy and youth liberation are. abeleism and adultism function on such similar axes as to be, in many cases, one and the same. and it's for that reason that i'm consistently disappointed to see disabled adults discussing their oppression with appeals to their own age.

'i'm a grown adult i should be able to control my own sleep' or 'i'm a grown adult i should be able to read curse words in subtitles' - both of things are clearly true, but why are they exclusive to adults?

much of ableist oppression functions via infantilization, but the solution to this is not adulthood, it is youth liberation

[lzbth-deactivated20150219]

swag won’t pay the bills but apparently neither will your degree

[jamausis]

pressed flowers blue edition

[floralfawning]

I want to be curled up on my bf rn :-(((

[sorryiwasasleep]

the kids in hsm2 shouldve unionized that country club

[walker-diaries]

[bigskycastle]

barn owl

[mxbutchtwink]

I actually love kinksters so much

[mxbutchtwink]

Learning from every source in your life that sex is disgusting and sinful, that you should be ashamed of your feelings, thoughts and desires and then having someone in a dog mask tell you, "No, it's all cool, actually," is mind-blowing lol

[vintageandroid]

In the comments seeing a lot of aces saying "Yeah I appreciate that kinksters are often accepting of ace people" and that is because there are many asexuals in kink! Sexual attraction or behavior is not essential to kink/BDSM.

My spouse and I are both a-spec kinksters who do a lot of Kinky Activities and exactly zero traditional genital-involving sex. I write about being nonsexual kinksters professionally as well.

[hoothalcyon]

"One funny thing: At most of the kink parties Selena went to, no one was doing anything that seemed to be sexual. People would say, 'I'm tying someone up, that's sex,' but much of the time it didn't seem to feel sexual and nobody could explain how this made sense. Was tying someone up really sex, or was it a rope and some trust? Selena didn't care about sex, but she did love rope, so it was unclear exactly what was happening here, and what she actually wanted.

Intimacy, it turns out. Selena cared about intimacy, and kink was a way for her to be intimate with others. Intimacy and sex are not the same. Intimacy can be in service of sex or sex can be in service of intimacy, or they can be completely separate..."

-Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex

[keepin-it-trancey]

Oh my god-

I never thought of it that way

[tramtheram]

Kink is allowing folks a space to be weird and unconventional, its in that space that questions can be asked and explored in a way conventional space wouldn't normally allow.