OK since the phrase TEHM has gained popularity HELLA fast, I decided I would put my two cents in because why the hell not amiright!?
First and for most I’m gonna say what it means; a TEHM is a Trans Exclusionary Homosexual Man, i.e a gay man who refuses to see trans men as actually men. This DOES NOT apply to gay men who don’t feel attraction towards trans men.
This term ONLY applies to gay men who don’t see trans men as men. However, you are not a TEHM if you won’t date a trans man but still think they are men.
You don’t have to be attracted to trans men (or trans people in general) but you should still see them as the gender they identify as.
My opinion:
The term TEHM is long overdue and really should’ve been a thing a while ago. If TERF is a thing then TEHMs should be a thing.
TEHMs are transphobic and don’t seem to get that no one is forcing them to date trans men and can’t fathom the idea of trans men wanting to be seen as, well, MEN.
It takes 0 seconds to respect people’s identities and pronouns, but it takes minutes, hours, days, and sometimes years to be a hateful asshat advocating against something that isn’t harming anyone.
I’ve seen a lot of hate go to @spill-the-gender-tea and other people because of this phrase. Stop reducing people to their genitals and let people be themselves.
Tbh it’s incredibly stupid. The equivalent to terf isn’t a transphobic gay man. This term specifically targets gay men
If you have to repeat that it’s not ALL gay men multiple times then the term is trash and it’s homophobic
Terf means trans exclusionary radical feminist. Not trans exclusionary lesbian
One of my Anons said a more appropriate word, if you want a word that fucking bad, would be something like TAM (terf aligned male)
Your term should encompass a political ideology. Not a fucking sexual orientation
Or JUST SAY TRANSPHOBIC
OP, just say transphobic.
It’s incredibly homophobic to use TEHM. Stop. It’s so fucking stupid.
This is the most ignorant homophobic thing I have ever seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen.


















