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Homosexual woman tired of being told her sexuality is bigoted. Mid 20s, from Eastern Europe. I'm looking for respectful, nuanced conversations and try to approach them with an open mind. Not a fan of name calling, bullying or misgendering. I'm some kind of mix between a liberal and radical feminist, and my feminism focuses on people of the female sex. I'm supportive of trans people no matter if they are FtM, MtF or nb, and I'm also an ace inclusionist. I don't have to agree with everything someone posts to follow, like or reblog them. Anyone can interact.

[anonymous-les]

My feminism is a mix of liberal and radical feminism. I shamelessly just take what I believe is the best parts of both.

I focus mostly on the liberation of people of the female sex from the patriarchy, but I don't care who people include or exclude from their feminism. I think it's great that there are different kinds of feminism that are focusing on many different kinds of women or gender minorities. Ideally these branches of feminism would work together and learn from each other.

I'm centre-left politically, I don't particularly like capitalism but I still believe that regulated capitalism in a welfare society is the least evil. I know that capitalism hurt women the most but I'm also Eastern European, my relatives barely survived communism and plan economics. This heavily affect my politics. And since radical feminism is strongly rooted in Marxism and I'm not a Marxist, I feel like I cannot be a radfem. Not to mention that I'm not against including trans women in feminism either.

I believe it's important to respect someone's name and pronouns, and I always try to use the ones they prefer. At the same time, obviously biological sex is still important. When an amab person is violent towards an afab person I think it falls under male violence against women regardless of what the gender is of the people involved.

[user87262893]

It is a dangerous and ill informed idea to conceptualize the men who are incels/red pills/alt right/rape threat senders/online-vile-woman-haters as neckbeard losers who live in their parents basement who's only interaction with women is their waifu body pillow.

This may be true for some of them.

But the rest are our peers. They're teachers, and hiring staff, and HR, and managers. They are healthcare workers, and therapists, and handymen, and bartenders. They're policeman, and politicians, and judges, and policy makers.

Their lives are not without direct impact on our own. They exist among us, and their decisions inform our opportunities, environment, and quality of life.

These men are not outliers, and they deserve our full criticism and concern.

[radfemme-rage]

these disgusting men forcibly impregnate their wives and force her to give birth to more children than he can provide for

so now there’s an epidemic of afghan males trafficking their daughters (and it’s always only daughters) to pedophiles so that they can feed their sons instead

[euryale-far-roaming]

The wife and daughters should sell *him*. He's without a doubt the one eating the most food and starving those girls. Trash.

[programmerhumour]

Once upon a time…

[friendly-neighborhood-ehrhardt]

[thebeanestbad]

[personification-of-anxiety]

I really wish the overused sentence “You either die a hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain.” was less relevant but here we are

[triassictriserratops]

[its-funnytwittertweets]

[lizardywizard]

i love this because it's like. why did paleolithic peoples paint the hunt. perhaps to celebrate and honour brave deeds that kept the community alive. perhaps to bring luck for future hunts. perhaps to instruct those who came after how to slay the beast. perhaps to remind us we can: that the mammoth is not unkillable.

this graffiti, too, serves those purposes!

[evilrosamundpike]

What I have noticed is that men are so deeply in the trenches of learned helplessness that they think things just happen by magic.

They see women's homeless shelters and emergency hotlines and think pieces about the violence we suffer at the hands of men, and wonder why men don't have the same resources.

Not for a moment they think that, if they want all of that support, they have to create it themselves. They truly think that female shelters and support networks are born out of nothing, with no work or thought behind them.

[womanwithoutname]

somehow men are the original inventors of every single thing on the planet because they are far more intelligent than women, but they can't prop up male exclusive shelters or hotlines..

[lieutenant-fuckface]

Men don't think women's shelters/orgs appeared out of nowhere, they just assume The Men in Charge created these institutions in response to women "whining" about our problems, which are actually trivial and insignificant compared to *men's* problems. It's proof the we live in a tyrannical matriarchy.

That is verbatim what I've seen MRAs claim on sites like reddit and the chans. It's not that they don't think about it, they just invent male supremacy historical fanfiction that they share amongst themselves instead of reading a single article or book that doesn't flatter their worldview.

[9puppiesdrowninginapool]

Ken was created from Barbie’s rib

[secretmellowblog]

> I am recommended a feminist historical romance

> I ask whether it’s actually feminist, or whether it’s a story about how patriarchy is good as long as the patriarch is benevolent

> they don’t understand

> I describe the common trope in faux-feminist historical romance where the female lead is able to “escape” the sexism of her time simply by marrying the rare good man who respects women— as if patriarchy is a problem of abusive individuals, rather than an inherently abusive system. As if all the issues in patriarchy go away if the man you marry is Nice. As if “patriarchal systems can actually work well when the patriarch is kind and loves you uwu” is a bold feminist statement, instead of the cornerstone of inherently reactionary tradwife beliefs about gender roles.

> they laugh

> “it’s a feminist historical romance”

> look inside

> it’s a story about how patriarchy is good as long as the patriarch is benevolent

[baraphalloplastyclinic]

I actually do think we should discourage women from becoming housewives. Do not become financially dependent on a man. That's how a lot of women ended up dead over the years. A man gets violent suddenly and you have to choose between homelessness or potentially dying at his hand because you have an enormous gap in your resume and no degrees or certifications or anything that will help you pursue a career that will allow you to be financially independent. He owns your bank account. His name is probably the one on the car. Try and leave and he can report it stolen. Where will you go then?

Don't become a housewife.

[apersnicketylemon]

I want to make something really clear that I think Anti-Choice people have failed to understand that Pro Choicers definitely saw coming.

An exception for Rape, Life of the Mother, and Incest mean nothing when you have to prove it in a court of law, or get a team of lawyers and judges to sign off on it which can take weeks or even months.

Weeks a person dying hasn't got. Women are now dying. Actually dying. Because hospitals legally could not save their lives until they could wake up a judge and get their lawyers, and another sides lawyers awake and up and figured out if it was actually necessary or not. All people with no understanding of medicine, and no attatchment to the person suffering who simply doesn't want to die.

There's a lot more I could cover, like the increase in illegal abortion, abortion tourism, the massive increase in infant abandonment... but I'm going to leave it here.

People are dying. People who should be alive. Who would be alive if abortion was legal and the hospital could have simply treated their patient without waiting for a dozen men with no medical experience in another building to decide if their patient actually needs treatment or not. And yes they do have to wait. Because if they don't they get charged with murder for trying to save a life.

Your policies are killing people. Not theoretical people. Not fetuses with no conscious thought or pain. Adults with lives. Teenagers with a whole life ahead of them. Mothers with children who need them. Real people with conscious thought, with fear, with pain. People who meet every definition of personhood.

[daughterkos]

Abortion is morally neutral and women should have access to it at all times for all reasons under any circumstances including the simple decision to not be pregnant and not procreate.

[mini-wrants]

The thing that’s always missing from the “women didn’t fight for the right to work they were already working they fought to get paid” is that many women also very much wanted to work.

Women wanted to be lawyers and engineers and chemists. They wanted to use their brains in challenging and interesting ways. They wanted to get the satisfaction from solving problems and inventing new shit and getting attention for it.

I know not everyone is born with intellectual curiosity or drive or determination but some people are and many of those people are women.

[barbienefertiti]

[pro-birth]

it’s even worse when people try to spin it as a privileged role, rather than an unpaid job that may or may not have been forced into the woman due to limited resources for childcare, poor protection of maternity rights, and other issues.

No, it’s not a privilege to be the unpaid labor that enables someone else to gain financial resources; it’s a vulnerable place to be that can go VERY badly VERY quickly. People will flaunt “behind every successful man is a woman” until they realize it stipulates the unsupported work of a homemaker.

Being a homemaker is not a privilege — but men and other workers are privileged to have a homemaker enable their success.

[rohirric-hunter]

Another thing about light pollution and adjacent things is. They threatened my area with rolling blackouts last winter. Now this was of course largely because the AI datacenters are hogging all the electricity, but in the notifications about it they always specified that that residential areas would be the blacked out areas. Not offices. Not businesses. If you're at home and freezing, well, you can just go loiter in a McDonald's I guess. Never mind that this is extremely difficult for disabled people and often not allowed for pets.

Well, as winter turned into spring, I started biking home from work. A long, circuitous route that took me through residential areas, and past offices and businesses. Offices and businesses that were closed for the day. And yet their signs were still lit up. The lights were still on inside. There were TVs playing in empty breakrooms. All the computers in the school district offices stayed on, their monitors not even going to sleep, all night. Paused to take a break in an empty strip mall once and when I leaned against the glass of a restaurant I could hear the music still playing inside.

Like. There's something deeply rotten about the priorities here. These places that are so flagrantly wasting electricity will never be subject to the rolling blackouts that could freeze you out of your home. Not even at night, when no one is there, when they don't need their lights on. Their waste is prioritized over normal people's life.

[acidbathbunnies-moved]

Scientists mapped all the nerves of the clitoris for the first time

High-resolution X-ray offers a new look at an understudied organ: the clitoris.

'Useless' female organ discovered over a century ago may actually be important for fertility

The rete ovarii, a poorly understood structure connected to the ovaries, may be much more essential to ovarian function than scientists init

some cool articles i found

[acidbathbunnies-moved]

[jakeperalta]

not using AI genuinely feels like the rest of the world is experiencing some kind of mass amnesia. if someone says they never use it, the immediate response is that can't be true because "everyone" uses it to write their emails or answer their questions. saw a comment suggesting that not using chatgpt to write an essay is "like the 90s". girl I graduated in 2021 and we weren't doing that! how is it that everyone has suddenly forgotten that they were entirely capable of doing these things all by themselves for their entire lives up until the past few years!! am I going crazy!!!

[addtothebeauty]

[smashboyfriend-deactivated20260]

the "male loneliness" epidemic is the ultimate recruitment tool for the restoration of patriarchy. by framing male isolation as an "epidemic," they pathologize it, removing it from the realm of ethics. if it is a "sickness," then men are not responsible for the behaviors that drove women away. if it is a "sickness," then women are the "medicine"—and to deny a sick man his medicine is seen as an act of cruelty.

the propaganda aims to create a moral imperative for women to return to the kitchen and the bed. it suggests that women's liberation has "broken" society and that the only way to heal the "suffering" of men is for women to surrender their autonomy. they want a world where women are once again domestic shock absorbers, distributed to men as a form of social welfare