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[cheaphalloweencostume]

i hope its macaroni art

[fluorall]

[ID: A Yahoo Mail notification from Spotify which reads "Nine Inch Nails made you something." End ID]

[xhuth]

also like in all seriousness furry hate is 10000% a warning sign as a sort of garden-variety expression of homophobia and transphobia. call me insane or delusional, and pardon the animal metaphor, but furries are consistently one of several common canaries in the coal mine when it comes to Acceptable and Reasonable hatred of Degeneracy. it almost always snowballs from there, too!

[ibuprofengirl]

[catbelle]

FOR THE BETTER!

[fluorall]

[ Image Description: The first image is a line drawn in a circle, pointing to text at the bottom which reads "I need something to radically change in my life."

The second image is the screenshot of Spongebob Squarepants where a shadow is descending upon him, and his arms are waving frantically.

End description.]

[thenightling]

[fluorall]

[ID: a tweet by Adam Howes (@/Howsito) that reads “You are now cursed with the job that the main character has in the last movie/TV show you watched. What's your new profession?” End description]

[pianta]

sailor scouts !! ⚡ (commission)

★ twitter | ko-fi | ig | prints ★

[tilde-heart]

[Image description: Two of the artist’s Sailor Moon fan characters, both of whom are thin people with brown skin, large lips and small noses wearing Sailor Scout uniforms, posing with bows against a light purple to pink gradient sparkly background. The first character has light blue and pink hair kept in fluffy twintails with tiny hairbuns, purple-pink eyes and their uniform has a light blue to pink gradient bow, a pink sailor collar, skirt and gloves, tall pink boots with light yellow chevron-shaped tops, a light yellow chevron-shaped belt around the shirt, a pink long bow on the back of their shirt, and pink star earrings, and they grin and kneel while holding a pink bow and adjusting a light blue quiver full of arrows. The second character has purple to cyan long and wavy gradient hair with twin hairbuns that have white petal-shaped hair accessories with rows of dark purple beads on them, brown eyes and their uniform has a black sailor collar, a lavender to white gradient bow, white gloves with purple tops, a black to purple sparkly skirt, and purple slippers, and they leap in the air while preparing to fire a purple bow with a glowing arrow loaded inside it. End description]

[angeloncewas]

I'm proud of you

[angeloncewas]

If you had a horrible year. If you had a good year. If you're moving away for college. If you're staying in your hometown. If you have too many bad memories. If you can't remember anything. If you're just barely getting by. If you're in the best place you've ever been in. I'm proud of you for all the victories you've managed to claim along the way, and for the ones that lie just ahead of you too. Keep going, you're doing great.

[seaoflove]

bell hooks, from all about love

[imageofvoid]

[ID: ... because our fantasy of true love is that it will be just that – simple and easy. Usually we imagine that true love will be intensely pleasurable and romantic, full of love and light. In truth, true love is all about work. The poet Rainer Maria Rilke wisely observed: “Like so much else, people have also misunderstood the place of love in life, they have made it into play and pleasure because they thought that play and pleasure was more blissful than work; but there is nothing happier than work, and love, just because it is the extreme happiness, can be nothing else but work…” The essence of true love is mutual recognition – two individuals seeing each other as they really are. /end ID]

[jetix]

2021-07-03

[tilde-heart]

[Image description: A white bin filled with plushies of the Pokemon Jirachi placed amid bins of other Pokemon plushies. End description]

[atlanxic-deactivated20250205]

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

[nebet-ren]

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

[enraged-chihuahua]

ur first and last recent emojis are ur gender now. mine is 🅱👨‍❤‍💋‍👨

[werewolfcave]

Trans people what's your actually impossible to reach transition/gender goal (If you have one)?

Mine is being able to turn into a wolf.

[angeltiddies]

the last character you have a photo saved of in your phone is your bestie

[prettypositivity]

i hope you heal from the things no one ever apologized for

[i-dont-believe-in-perfect]

and I hope you heal from the things you don’t want to talk about

[lilbutch]

I hope you heal from the things no one else knows you went through

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

*squeezes your hand* we’ll be alright

[burningmine-deactivated20230217]

Theseus Lake, July 2020

[doomhope]

[image description:

Photo of a lake surrounded by a forest. There’s a single island in the lake. The lake and forest are on a tall hill, and a vast landscape of many other forested hills.

End description.]

[cloverdraws]

first drawing of Kabu

[fluorall]

[ID: Fanart of Kabu from Pokémon, sitting on a dark blue square against a lighter blue background. End description.]

[catchymemes]

[fluorall]

[ID: A clip from the movie 8 Mile, with the Otomania & Hatsune Miku cover of Ievan Polkka playing instead of the original audio. End description.]