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@formykeyholder
“It would be best if you accept it. Chastity is an integral part of you now. I’m never going to let you out to cum, not anymore. You can cream your cage. Trust me I never need your cock big and hard. It’s not good for your mental state. Stay soft, wet and creamy. This isn’t an option for you to be with me.”
And when I say kiss, I mean make out
It is good for you. You need this. Embrace the ache.
Honey, I told you more sex would come from locking yourself in chastity. We have it almost every day now. Would you really go back to maybe twice a month? Your cock is locked up tight and so is my schedule for sex.
Daily intimacy is the best. Even if it means you lose freedom to access to your dick and orgasms.
One millimeter. You choose. Length, girth, or ring.
Eventually you’ll be upset if I let your penis stretch out and get hard before I press fit you into the new smaller cage. Maybe you’d beg me not be cruel to remind you. Maybe I’ll train you to want to forget.
Once you stay soft and small we’ll stop shrinking it.
Five years to go from 57 35 50 to 40 30 42
I can't even begin to describe how sexy, powerful, and confident that it makes me feel to know I have absolute total control over him this way.
Some of our readers may remember that my wife would often lock me for long random periods, so we never bothered keeping track of dates or anything. Neither of us know when my "permanent" situation started because it started off as just another locked period after a little break; it really took over two years before my wife talked herself through whatever she was feeling about it living this way forever. It started in February or maybe March of 2018, but since we don't have the exact date, we picked April 1 as the anniversary (Lockiversary) because it's easy to remember.
Happy Lockiversary, @mrs--edge. Thank you for eight years of keeping me devoted and focused on you. 🔒💖😘
Hi Mrs Edge. You and I used to chat a few years ago before Tumblr banned my blog. Really, I just signed up again so I could read your blog lol!
Since we last chatted I made the decision to keep my own husband "penetration free." He has been in chastity for maybe eight or nine years and quite frankly, as you probably noticed yourself, the longer you leave them caged the more it messes with their ability to last in bed. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the toys and having him go down on me, but I also enjoy getting fucked, so I took your advice and ordered a Vixskin Ranger like yours. Within a month I decided that my husband would no longer have "pussy privileges."
Unlike some of the other women that have written in to you, I really did not feel guilty about this. I've always been a bit on the dominant side and my husband has always been willing to follow my lead. I explained to him that he gives me a lot more pleasure wearing his replacement cock, and the caged one just is way too out of practice now. I told him that regular sex with him was just not pleasurable enough for me because of how long (or not!) he lasted and my needing to clean up after. And yes, I also told him that the Ranger is bigger which was also a factor in my decision. So like with you and your husband, only the Ranger will have pussy privileges - his own dick will be penetration free.
Yes, I understand that he was upset by this for a while. He felt sexually frustrated (hah! so did I!) but he also felt embarrassed that he could no longer last long enough for me. Worse, he realized that this was his fantasy - well, at least part of it, since he begged me to be more of a dominatrix in the bedroom. But he also saw that wearing the "replacement" gave me a lot of satisfaction and he learned how to use it really well. Eventually he got over not being allowed pussy privileges anymore, and now he feels proud that he can wear me out.
I have not decided - yet - to keep him caged permanently. Right now I am unlocking him monthly and giving him a quick hand job. I read a comment from your husband on another post that said something about wearing latex gloves so that it would be a reminder to him that he no longer gets to feel me. I'm planning to try that to see how that works out. As long as he gets to come he may not even care. You know how men are lol!
The truth is that I could unlock my husband and let him fuck me, but the feeling of being in control of such a basic male thing is a huge power trip for me. I love my husband very much, and I know that he loves me. This is just one aspect of our relationship that just happened to work out in an unconventional way.
To any of the women reading this who feel guilty about denying their husbands, I just want to say that it's important to check in with your husbands, but it's also important to be firm with them. They WANT to please you, they really do! Yes, they miss activity with their dicks, but you can figure out ways around that. Or not - apparently Mrs Edge here never touches her husband at all, and they seem to have an amazing relationship!
Thanks for letting me tell my story here. And as I told you in the DM, I'm posting this anonymously because I'm tired of the pervs sending me messages.
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Hi Ms Donna, it's nice to hear from you again. I remember some of our chats and trying to explain to you why I didn't feel that the way I denied Tom was too extreme. I guess somehow I got into the mindset that the Vixskin was "him" and so it never felt to me that he was denied penetration... and Tom never really said anything about feeling denied that way, so I've just never really looked at it that way.
I am learning that a lot of men who fantasize about being locked up really have a hard time when their wives or partners take those denial fantasies seriously. Some men manage to live selflessly and to focus on giving their partner pleasure. I'm thankful that my husband is like this and has always been attentive and focused on making me satisfied.
Also I like that you realize that denying your husband privileges could be upsetting to him and are trying to keep your connection to him by unlocking him for regular orgasms. Even if they aren't what he would prefer, the idea that you care enough to touch him that way lets him know that you still care about his pleasure. And I like to think that most of us want to give pleasure to our partners. It's just that pleasure looks different for some of us.
Please let me know how your experiment with the gloves works out for you.
The natural progression. An FLR at this level is psychologically based. Sexual activity is this state becomes 90% mental and 10% physical.
Take the next step and work to own his mind. You now own him and he wants nothing more than to go deeper under your spell. Take advantage of that in a loving manner. Manipulate him in a loving manner. Keep driving home that you own him. Relentlessly remind him of his dependency on you. Reinforce how good he now feels to surrender to you, obey you, and serve you. Tel him how Happy he makes you. Use your power to reach your dream relationship, to improve your lives together, and to bind him to you both physically and emotionally.
I am hers - now and forever.
😳😖👉👈
Ladies, this is a true statement. He will fear cumming from the fear of either directly disappointing you or disappointing you as a result of his drop in submission (it is a given that you have given your permission - it is not even a thought without).
I struggle with this now. I am working on letting go of that fear and accepting that SHE is the sole arbiter of my orgasms and/or ejaculations. If she commands an orgasm I am bound to her wishes and must trust that she knows what is best for her, for us, and for me - in that order.
When you reach this point, be sure to talk to him and make sure he realizes that he needs to accept your authority, your decisions, and to happily accept whatever gift you offer - be it denial, frustrated ejaculation, or a pleasurable orgasm. He is no longer in that decision process and will fulfill your wishes regardless of his fears.
When was it you decided to keep Tom locked permanently? Was it before or after you discovered the Vixskin was incredible for you?
The reason I am asking, we have had our Vixskin for about a year and a half, but she always felt weird using it. I could tell she felt like she was cheating on me even though she did not use those words. But last night was a first. She told me earlier that I might get lucky last night. I have been locked all month so by now hearing her tell me this was quite a treat for me to look forward to.
We were out with friends last night and I told her that maybe we should try and go home by 10, especially if I had a chance to get lucky. She smiled at me and said she didn't mean lucky as in letting me out of my cage but getting to use Ranger on her. I was very surprised to hear her say this because she has always felt weird about me using a strapon on her. She even has trouble with her confidence to tell me things like this, but not last night. I have no doubt that your guy's blogs have helped her become more comfortable.
I have been patient with her to make advancements in her timing and not mine. I learned a long time ago using male chastity, if you push her, (pushing just kills it for her) Husbands need to let her truly decide like we all tell our wives in the beginning, we want it to be her decision. If she gets the time she needs, she will find the enjoyment she wants out of this. I have no doubt this is one of the hardest things for husbands to do. We are so used to being in control this is a hard habit to break, truly giving it to her. We have been exploring this now for 4 to 5 years so maybe that isn't a long time, but if you're caged a lot, it seems long LOL.
So, when we got home, I heated our Vixskin to 98 degrees just like Tom has said he does. I got a massage oil controlled warmer/heater from Amazon. It is perfect to heat it. my wife calls it Roger because she misunderstood the name, we don't have a ranger we have a different model, but I knew calling it Ranger would make her more comfortable as she reads your blogs :). Anyway, I put enough water in it with the Vixskin to keep the air from interfering with the temperature monitor and set it at 98 degrees. It takes about 15 to 20 minutes to get Ranger's temperature perfect for her just to Tom's instructions from your blogs.
Before we started, she told me she wanted to to come in my cage. I didn't, but that was perfectly fine by me getting to give her this was so worth it...... We had some very nice romantic warm up kisses and when it came time I went and suited up. I will be honest, I kind of expected it to fail like the few times we tried before, but I was going to give it a try especially at her request. I don't know what changed but last night it was incredible. She had multiple orgasms, and this has NEVER happened before. There has been maybe one time I almost got her to start a second "O", with just oral and an egg, but it collapsed and never made it even enough to count a little. Last night she had at least 3 full and long "Os". She was so tired afterwards. I was completely fine with being denied; besides, my favorite part is getting to hold her as she goes to sleep after giving her deserved orgasm. It is quite something knowing how selfish I used to be to actually finding satisfaction giving her this and holding her completes the satisfaction for me. I have no doubt a man that has never explored this can't understand this, its just part of the journey that happens.
She has never left me caged for more than 27 days, today is the 2nd time she has pushed me to 27days, and she seems certain that I will be caged at least until the 1st. I don't expect permeant will ever suit us; I am leaving it up to her though. However, after last night I suspect my short lock up periods may be few if the Ranger delivers this kind of performance regularly. I think it likely will. She has seen the light, LOL.
We are like you guys, neither of us is interested in any of the crud you get asked about all the time. Last night was always my goal and I feel certain is hers now too that she has seen it is possible for her. Because of our age almost 60 and it has never happened for her in the past; she had a mental block that it never would be what it was last night. We have had a couple of other mental blocks to beat down for her from her past. We are knocking them down one at a time. She told me during our love making last night that she was pretending it was me. I confirmed to her immediately that this is me making her feel good. She was having those head games I know like before, I also remembered that you have said the same thing, that you now consider it Tom and nothing else. I think last night was our biggest field goal accomplishment during this journey. From here we will probably always find little things to make it a little better but last night was perfect for her and I enjoyed getting her there.
It's funny, in the past I would use the ranger with my hand instead of strapping it on, because of her head games, that she loved the way it felt and then I could see her face as she rejected it because of her head games. Because of this, I knew it was going to work if we could beat the game between her ears telling her this isn't right or she was enjoying something other than me.
Thank you for your blog that is for couples like us, looking for meaningful intimacy without all the worldly stuff. It was so good I suppose, it caused us to oversleep and miss church this morning, that was not our goal. We will do better next time ;)
First, good for you for not pushing her and letting her enjoy it in her own way.
We didn't really have any bedroom toys. The reason we got involved with foxing (my husband wearing the strapon) was because I enjoy PIV, and keeping him locked and de ied made him very sensitive and he had to stop and start too often which kept interrupting my mood. We started off with him using them with his hands but it wasn't the same. That's when we took the next step which led to where we are now.
I think I understand how your wife feels. For a lot of women, we have to give ourselves permission to enjoy lovemaking and sometimes it's difficult to let go enough to just... enjoy all the attention. It took me a few years to really trust that my husband was satisfied with our change in lifestyle, and that allowed me to relax into letting go of any doubt or feeling that I "had to" do something for him.
If your wife is reading this, please have your husband set up a second account for you so you can message me with any questions.
And congratulations to the both of you for working at this and learning how to enjoy each otber.
Worth a read. Important lessons here!
Hubby answers "a little" when I ask him this question. But I think the real answer is, "yes, very jealous.." 😈😈 . Which due to the way we are wired, is 🔥🔥🔥 for BOTH of us. If he (or anyone) thinks I should have a twinge of guilt for enjoying this, well I don't!
I was trying to look back on post and see what brand faux cock you used. It sounds like it works well for the two of you & I know that doesn’t mean it’ll work as well for me & my boyfriend but I was wondering what the brand was & if you had any others you would recommend looking into?
I'm having my husband answer this for you because he is my tech support man. 😅
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🔏 Hi, @that-tom-allen here. Way back in the days we first got into this, we tried a number of different dildos, both the "realistic" and, umm, "futuristic" looking ones. We discovered that the futuristic ones got the job done, but @mrs--edge wasn't crazy about them. We also discovered that many of the realistic ones were made from plastic formulations that smelled weird, or looked strange.
Eventually I ran across the Vixen Creations line. At the time they were very expensive, but the reviews were all very good. I bought a basic model, which Mrs Edge liked. It had a plain round base (ie, no testicles) so it could fit in a more natural position over my cage.
After a few years, they came out with a better, more lifelike version. It was double layered: that is, a firm core with a softer layer of silicone on top. They called this formulation Vixskin. This model, called the Tex, was high quality, felt good, looked good, was a good size and shape, and we used it for years. It was of "average" size, and felt very natural for me to use.
A few years ago, having decided that we were fully invested in keeping me locked permanently, I suggested to Mrs Edge that we look at a larger size. She ended up picking the Ranger, which was an inch longer and maybe a half inch thicker. However, they made the Ranger in their Vixskin X line, which added a third, even softer layer on top. Knowing it was probably the last one we would ever buy, I splurged for the Ranger X. After a couple of weeks, my wife declared that it was "the one" and hasn't looked back.
Note that the Vixskin models are pricey, and the X line even more so. But there is nothing else close in terms of feel or quality.
Vixen Creations
Please note that we do not get any compensation or consideration from Vixen Creations. We are just a couple of satisfied (or in my wife's case, extremely satisfied and worn out) users.
