yeah you gave me your heart, now i'm here for your soul!
foxidol - an dash-only canon-divergent roleplay blog for the kumiho renai, better known as kimura ren romance saja from kpop demon hunters, as beloved by kira (30, she/her, est)! a study in the immortal's dilemma, unending devotion, offering pieces of yourself in place of those you love, "a pet is only a part of your world but you are the entirety of theirs", hiding behind silken masks and glamoured dreams, pink-furred fox tails and sharp fangs, finding beauty in the brushstrokes, loving in the face of destruction, a glittering pearl teased between lush lips, and desiring to be human so badly you can't rid yourself of the taste on your tongue.
hmm, we keep meeting like this...
carrd - for rules, about, and verses! askbox tag - for easy icebreakers/interactions! interaction calls - for any starter, inbox, plotting, or similar calls! wishlist - for highly desired plot/interaction concepts blog role - @manekied (maneki neko trainee oc), @levinsteed (eutrope - hiatus), @idoliized (kpdh multimuse - private)
dearly beloved by bren (@theflexorcist + all blogs), catt (@romanticsaja + all blogs), freddie (@leadersaja + all blogs), tee (@teeth-and-temptations), poli (@queenrumi), and partners like you ♥
blog re-established 06.01.2026 original blog established 07.27.2025 pinned post last updated 05.25.2026 carrd last updated 06.01.2026
you're mine, you already know that - you are the one i've been dreaming about!
MOBILE USER GUIDE
This is the user guide for foxidol, a dash-only canon-divergent portrayal of the kumiho Renai, better known as Romance Saja from Netflix's Kpop Demon Hunters. Replacing a more traditional "rules" section, this guide is meant to detail a little more about how I run this blog and why I run it that way, since that feels just a little more functional and realistic than expecting everyone to remember my exact rules months after they read them originally and when they're trying to keep up with everyone else's rules at the same time.
▍ ❝ DISCLAIMERS. In addition to the obvious running themes of the Kpop and K-Ent industries and foxes and humans with fox traits to be expected from a blog for a kumiho Romance Saja, Ren's blog also features regular themes of animal neglect, manslaughter + (survivor's) guilt, revenge + mass killing, seduction + serial murder, dubcon sex work + ownership, addiction + recovery, unhealthy relationships + extreme devotion, among other heavier themes that I have little to no intention of shying from despite not wanting to romanticize. If any of these things bother you, please do not follow my blog!
I am also not Asian, and while I do try to do some of my due diligence in regards to researching and respecting the cultures I touch upon, I do also balance that against what feels right for Ren's characterization, the wider context of a Kpop-oriented movie made for a largely Western audience, and that this is ultimately a hobby space. I am not always going to get it right, and that's okay, because I'm not trying to.
▍ ❝ GETTING STARTED. I am vetted followers only, meaning that I will only interact with blogs that are currently following me and either that I have followed back in turn (aka we're mutuals) or that I have liked their pinned post (indicating that I have read their information and am willing to interact even if I am not following their blog).
I try to check new followers within a week of them following and either follow back if they are a KPDH rp blog (solo or fandom-specific multi), like their pinned post if they are a crossover blog (solo or multifandom multimuse), or softblock if I do not intend to interact. The sole exception to this is hub blogs, as I do not follow the actual hub blog, only the relevant sideblog(s), but obviously will not block the main blog that any sides are attached to.
I do not roleplay with any muns under 21 and/or do not clearly indicate their age somewhere on their blog. This is non-negotiable for me, as someone who works in the court system. If I find out someone has lied about their age, I will immediately hardblock them.
I also do not roleplay with anyone who knowingly uses AI or engages with Real Person RP (RPRP). These are also both hard lines in the sand for me and I have no desire to engage with anyone who does either.
I block personal blogs, roleplay search blogs, ask blogs, and roleplay group blogs on sight. It's nothing personal, I just want to be able to keep my activity feed and tracked tags functional for me to use.
It should go without saying, but if you have hardblocked me on another blog (or I've hardblocked you on another blog), I am going to hardblock you here too. If I've hardblocked someone, it's generally for a good reason, and I have no interest in trying to evade a hardblock myself or engaging with someone who's doing the same.
If you already have an exclusive (or extremely close main) Romance, please softblock me. I hate feeling like I'm wasting my time or competing for second place in someone's regard, so yeah, uh, please don't.
That being said, if you are another Romance blog, I am more than happy to follow and interact with you! Ren is happy to go by "Renai Saja" instead of Romance, and I've never had a problem with the Saja Boys being more than five members.
Under a similar vein, while I am crossover-friendly, I am a little bit selective for muses that don't have a modern verse that's easy to tie into Ren's wider verse. I just don't like straining and stretching to make an interaction, so if I just don't feel like there's one there, I'm not going to stress myself out to find one (or expect you to!).
I am selective about (and don't tend to interact first for) other fox spirits, especially kumiho + kitsune. I have nothing against other kumiho or kitsune blogs, and I'm happy to follow and interact with them - but as is likely obvious with just a glance, I put a lot of time and effort into Ren's lore, so I'm understandably wary of interacting without establishing an understanding for how their lore is going to work with mine without contradicting it or otherwise creating hiccups.
I do not and will never do passwords, no exceptions. Part of my vetting process is reading your rules and any other blog information, so if I'm following your blog or have liked your pinned post, I've read everything I can access from mobile, I promise.
▍ ❝ UNFOLLOWING + BLOCKING. Once I've followed someone, rather than try to remember and track everyone's individual preferences for unfollowing vs softblocking vs hardblocking, I'm going to follow this general rule of thumb for what I do.
* - UNFOLLOW (OKAY TO INTERACT) : blogs that post a lot of donation/commission posts, blogs that shift into something I would not otherwise follow (ex: a solo blog becoming a multifandom multimuse) * - SOFTBLOCK : inactive blogs (no posts and/or active hiatus for 2+ months), blogs that have moved to new urls * - HARDBLOCK : blogs I was actively interacting with suddenly softblocking me, blogs that vaguepost about me rather than discuss an issue with me privately, blogs that I've otherwise had major interpersonal issues with
Additionally, since I've found from experience that if I don't keep my dash fairly closely curated to blogs that are within my little niche and/or actively interacting with me, I genuinely struggle with being active and present on the dash, I also tend to unfollow active blogs that I've been following for a month without meaningfully interacting with them and to softblock active blogs that have been following me for more than 3 months without meaningfully interacting with me.
And of course, as a vetted followers blog, I'm happy to refollow any blog I'd unfollowed if they do initiate an interaction or to try again with any blog I've softblocked if they follow me again! It's genuinely not a problem and there's no hard feelings about it, I promise.
▍ ❝ BASIC EXPECTATIONS. I roleplay using the medium (default) text and do not bold or colorize speech. My eyesight is just not that good, and while I can see the small text okay, sometimes the effects or colors make it a little harder to read.
I am not currently using icons in my posts. I have no problems with people who do, I just can't be bothered to spend the time making graphics like that.
I post ask submissions as new threads, move asks into new threads, and cut my posts using xKit Rewritten. It just keeps the dash a little cleaner and makes it a little easier to track interactions.
I only use the content warning format of "tw. [trigger]". I try to get most common triggers, but I'm not perfect and I'm not going to go out of my way to grab every single mention, especially if it's for something that I consider "part and parcel" for my blog, or more uniquely personal triggers (since I just can't keep track of and remember everyone's individual trigger lists, I'm sorry).
As a heads up though, since it is a fairly common trigger, my current crack tag does mention mpreg, since it's a quote from yeonjun reading thirst tweets. I'm sorry if that upsets you, please block it if you need to, I just think the exchange is too funny to change (that man did not learn English for this).
I do not post visual NSFW and any written NSFW will be tagged. My NSFW tag is nsfw. > romance is the sweetening of the soul with fragrance offered by the stricken heart, for anyone who wants to block it. I do not hide my NSFW under a Read More, since it tends to make it more annoying to try to read back on when I'm trying to reply.
I use my queue to primarily post faceclaim pictures (of my own muse or those my muse has bonded closely to), fanart, musings, and the occasional meme. My general faceclaim tag is fancam. > romance is thinking about your significant other when you are supposed to be thinking about something else, fanart tag fanart. > romance is always about people appearing in a flash out of nothing, and musing tag musings. > like some wines our love could neither mature nor travel, if you want to block those as well.
I do not reblog anything but roleplay posts directly from my partners, only from the "source" (either the original, a resource blog, or an inactive blog), and expect my partners to do the same. It's just common etiquette at this point, since it helps keep activity feeds functional, and while I'm okay with the occasional hiccup, if someone's regularly doing it, I may opt to post a general reminder.
I do not write violence, combat, cheating, abusive, or kink-driven plots with anyone other than close partners. For the most part, these are just topics that I don't feel comfortable writing with more casual partners or as more "introductory" interactions - assuming that I write them at all, at least on my blog - and I have no real intention of touching them as topics unless I'm genuinely close to and trust my partner.
I am a sporadic activity blog. My muse and motivation will wax and wane like the moon - and is honestly at least partially tied to how much interaction I'm getting with the dash - and I've never been the sort to force it. If I'm not feeling the dash, I'm just not going to be around - but I can pretty much guarantee you I'm on Discord, which I'm happy to give out to any of my regular partners.
I only do longer threads (both in terms of length and developmental consequences) with active, established partners. While I'm more than happy to do shorter interactions and build dynamics with everyone, just so I don't get overwhelmed by threads or paralyzed by the pressure of a longer reply or frustrated by being caught in limbo for an important reply, I'm going to reserve those longer, more developmentally-important threads for partners that I feel more confident in their ability to actually meaningfully progrss those threads.
I try not to vaguepost about my partners and strongly ask my partners to do the same. In addition to just being a bad look, it's one of my biggest pet peeves and is something that I will block someone over if it's over something that bothers me deeply enough. I know I myself am not perfect and sometimes you just have to vent, but the vast majority of the time, I just think it's rude and disrespectful to the person you're vagueposting about not to talk to them privately, so I have an understably low tolerance for it.
▍ ❝ GENERAL OPERATIONS. Communication is key. I know, it feels more than a little cheesy and like a horse we've long beaten to death, but in a hobby that relies so very much on collaboration and communication, there's a surprising amount of people who seem to be allergic to talking to their partners. And I ask that my partners,well, talk to me. Not just because I don't like being vagueposted about but because I'm someone who doesn't like being "blindsided" by major changes and can't fix "issues" that I don't know are actually issues in the first place. So please, just talk to me. I don't bite. And no matter how upset I might be by whatever it is you tell me, I can nearly guarantee I'll be more upset if you don't tell me.
I treat most of my interactions as "dash shenanigans" unless otherwise planned. This doesn't mean that those interactions can't be serious or long-running - just that, for my own mental health and maintaining motivation, I'm not going to stress myself out to try to reply to old interactions if I'm not feeling them, I'm generally going to consider interactions dropped if they've gone more than a month between replies outside of extenuating circumstances, and I'm not going to stress for if an interaction gets retconned as my partner and I get a better feel for how a dynamic works.
I regard all characters as their own unique character. Sure, this might be a whole lot easier with most of the Saja Boys thanks to them being largely blank slates, but I've always been of the opinion that no two iterations of a character are the same, and I stand by that now, to the point that I regard even the more "established" canons like Jinu and Rumi and the rest of Huntrix to each be their own separate iterations and treat them more as unique individual characters than I do one persistent character, the same way I do the other Sajas.
I don't do mains/exclusives, just unique shared "verses" with close partners. At this point in my roleplay life, I've recognized that if I like and am close to someone, trying to differentiate between the degrees is harder for me, and I'd honestly just rather show that bond by just interacting with that person a lot and by sighing loudly as my muse outlines to me all the ways that they've built up an entire world around this relationship and how other mutually bonded muses interact within this world. It's something that just happens when I'm closer to a partner, so please understand that if Ren's started squinting and delicately placing your muse into their own special verse or into one he already has with muses he already likes, it's a high honor and means that we both consider you friend-shaped enough to belong there.
I prefer to play Ren as an idol somewhere ambiguously between the initial Gwi-Ma Audition and Namsan Tower. This doesn't mean I can't play post or pre-canon or that any time periods aside from that window are entirely off the table - just that this timeframe is what I'm the most comfortable playing Ren in, since I feel like most of his pre-canon is difficult for a lot of interactions to take place (since it would be limited to either other demons and/or crossover characters) and the post-canon angst on Ren's end (as someone who would have watched everything he loved disappear on him) just… gets old for me after a while. I also just like where he is developmentally in that space as an idol.
I default to that Ren has pre-established semi-queer-platonic bonds to the other Saja boys. This is not to say that I'm not perfectly happy to adjust (and very much do!) based on my partner's comfort level or the exact characterization of the other Saja Boy(s) involved - just that, well, Ren's default is that he's kind of at least a little in love with the other Sajas (it's why he follows them to become an idol in the first place!) and it's one I generally tend to prefer myself, since it lets me skip through at least some of the buildup to a more established dynamic that can naturally delve into more sensitive topics and just generally feels a bit more comfortable for what's supposed to be a demon boy band in the KPop industry.
I generally prefer to actually build out Ren's relationship dynamic with Huntrix members as opposed to defaulting to anything. While this is primarily directed towards Mira - sorry Mira, it's genuinely not you, it's literally just that you're the "canon" ship for Romance - it does also also apply for Rumi and Zoey as well. For all that Ren is Romance, Ren is also his own character too, and while I am happy to incorporate some aspects of any canon or fanon background and dynamics, I also really just want the chance to feel out how the two characters work outside of the base "you're demons, we're demon hunters" animosity before I jump into any deeper dynamics, even if we're only doing it via in-character interactions (as opposed to out-of-character communications).
Ren tends to come on strong romantically right out of the gate. He is Romance, after all, so it really shouldn't be that much of a shock that if he's in a good mood, he is going to be flirty and suggestive. Your muse is more than welcome to push him off or away or otherwise react negatively, of course, but if it makes you uncomfortable, please just say something to me so I can beat him off with a rolled up newspaper. He's a flirt, not a harasser.
I am more than happy to play out any kind of polyship. Given that one of the main ships on this blog is a polyship, that's probably not that much of a shock, but one of Ren's favorite places to be is with the people he loves and he has never remotely had a problem with sharing partners, letting partners find romantic happiness with someone else, sliding himself into an existing relationship dynamic, or otherwise just bringing home a "new" partner to one of his other ones. (This doesn't mean he can't do monogamy, just that polyamory is his default and I am never going to protest any ships turning into polyships.)
Ren loves, truly and deeply. I know, I know, more finding fish in the ocean, but this is something that's a deep part of his characterization and shines through about a lot of his "behind the scenes" behavior too. Once he's bonded to a muse, he tends to get discouraged if he feels like he's being constantly sidelined for other ship partners, he thinks about them when they're not around, and he'll genuinely mourn if he ever loses the other muse from inactivity or out-of-character drama. (After all, Ren is a fox, and foxes do mate for life, so for all that he might give his heart away to his beloveds, that piece of him will always, always belong to them, no matter how much time passes or how many other pieces of his heart he may give away, in that "life" or any other.)
▍ ❝ NUANCED TOPICS. Look, for all that I know the Tumblr roleplay community has a lot of touchy issues that are black-and-white for a lot of people - for me, there's a few of those that just have a lot of shades of gray, and in a way that it's nearly impossible for me to actually capture properly, never mind word well in the brief snapshot I get with blog info areas - and trust me, I've tried, multiple times, over the many years I've been roleplaying, and I always feel like I fall abysmally short and have people assuming the worst of me in ways that just aren't true.
For the sake of brevity, I'm going to try to summarize the functional result of these feelings, but where I can (or where I feel like it's warranted), I'm going to link to a "guide addendum" post where I go into a deeper explanation of my feelings.
• reblog karma . While I'm not a stickler for reblog karma, I do think it's generally bad etiquette to make a habit of reblogging the same meme your partner just did shortly after they did if you don't intend to send something in yourself. I just don't think it's fair to expect people to submit memes to you if you're not sending any back to them, so I try not to do that myself and ask my partners to make an effort to be conscious they aren't doing it either.
• low-activity blogs . In acknowledgment of the fact that I just struggle to bond meaningfully with blogs that I'm functionally only engaging with once a month (or less!), I will be more selective with following and interacting with low-activity blogs.
To clarify, I have no issues with slower partners or sporadic replies (I would be a hypocrite if I was!) but rather with an overall lack of mutual engagement both in-character and out that makes it difficult to bond with a partner and/or with a lack of availability to meaningfully progress any threads with deeper long-term development. To put it another way - I want my experience to be excitement to see your blog again on the dash, not irritation that a thread is being held up or ambivalence because I just can't engage with you.
• original characters . + addendum Due to a boatload of bad experiences in the past, I tend to be extremely selective with original characters. Because of this, for my own comfort, I won't be following back any original characters that follow me first unless I already know and am familiar with the mun and, to manage my own anxiety, I ask that any original characters I follow let me initiate the first interaction, since I do sometimes follow original characters that are heavily interacting with my mutuals and pique my interest through those interactions.
• faceclaims . + addendum After a ton of experiences where I've had to deal with "face drama", I've decided that, going forward, once I've come to strongly associate a certain face with a given muse (either my own or someone else's), I won't be interacting with any future muses using the same face unless that association weakens. Italicized names on my list are ones I do use but am okay to interact with anyway!
* - MY FACES : ni-ki, k, felix, hueningkai, sunoo, bambam, heeseung, yeonjun, maki, jo, jay b, jungwon, sunghoon, chrissy costanza * - ASSOCIATED FACES : mingi, seonghwa, hongjoong, san, han, bangchan, wooyoung, nicholas, harua, chungha * - NOTED FACES* : taemin, yeosang
* Faces on this list are ones that were previously "ruined" for me through drama but that I have since obtained enough distance from for me to attempt to reassociate with more positive memories.
• proshipping + moral/ethical blanket dnis . I'll be honest for that I could definitely write entire essays about this topic, but for the sake of brevity, I am just going to say that I'm not interested in engaging complete strangers on the internet about any kind of bad faith assumptions that are being made about anyone's personal beliefs or what they endorse solely based on in-character actions or content (topics, media, etc) that they like without any additional context.
Sue me, I'm just old and tired and I don't want to drive myself insane over someone liking Harry Potter or who they ship from Avatar: The Last Airbender or what they read on AO3. I do not have the bandwidth for that and I'd like to hope my partners aren't going to either.
(But also, just so that it is explicit, given the surrounding KPop industry - Ren is very firmly a 1400+ year old fox demon trapped in a 19 year old human body and has no romantic interest in underage muses. End of statement.)
