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This one goes into the same file of iconic words as āDie mad about itā
Weird hill to die on, but at least youāre dead.
Iāve never ONCE seen one of these and not being just likeā¦absolutely riddled with tension, so. Keep passing them around, I guess!
Same tho
Hey, I feel like I've seen you write about how to help someone who's currently in an abusive situation, but I couldn't find any posts specifically about it? Do you have any general guidelines?
My Golden Rule advice on how to help is to try to do the exact opposite of what an abuser would, on a deep level.Ā
(Iām going to useĀ āsheā meaning the survivor for short hand in the following, not to assume gender or pronouns, just for brevity in explaining)
for exampleāĀ
abusers think they know what she needs better than she does
allies acknowledge that she is a smart, competent person who knows her own life and deserves autonomy over it Ā
abusers think for her and tells her what she should think and should want
allies think with her, and ask her what she thinks and wantsĀ
abusers isolate her from other people and decide who she can see and who she canāt
allies respect her decision to see whoever she wants, and donāt enact social punishments for makingĀ āwrongā choices
abusers tell her that her emotions are wrong and she needs to stop feeling them
allies validate her emotions no matter what they are, and reaffirm her right to feel them
abusers argue with her to win, and to establish their version of reality as correct
allies argue with her (as will happen sometimes) with the goal of reaching a shared understanding, and to establish a common reality that makes sense to both your experiencesĀ
These things seem simple, but when you really commit to them, theyāre genuinely hard in practice. Itās tempting when she argues with you that her abuser really loves her to try to assert what you see as the truth (that theyāreĀ abusive) and to assume she needs to be corrected because sheās not thinking right, but all youād be communicating to her is that everyone thinks sheās stupid. Itās tempting to sayĀ āif you go back to them, Iām not going to keep visiting youā in the hopes that sheāll stay out, but it will only end up cutting her off from you as a resource. Itās tempting to imply that she shouldnāt love her abuser because they donāt deserve it, but it would only be implying to her that you donāt respect her emotions and sheāll stop trusting you with them.Ā
The key is not to be the savior who can swoop in and get her out of there (as much as thatās probably the fantasy of both you and her at some points).Ā
The key is to be a force that reaffirms her selfhood and autonomy consistentlyāvalidates her reality, emotions, boundaries, and needs, and is part of a safe, consistent, reliable support networkā so that if and when she decides she wants to leave, she can trust that feeling and she has the resources to actually make it happen.Ā
List of people who could be running the official Spider-Man twitter account:
Tom Holland, in disguise
Zendaya (ācause sheās hip with the youth)
ājake g and his sexy dad outfitā
All three of them, combined
Some Girls. Some Monsters.
YOU WROTE THE RULES. READ THEM.Ā
Conservatives seem to think we have the same blind loyalty towards the Clintons that they do toward Trump.Ā Ā
If Bill was involved, lock his ass up too.Ā
bucky: [takes a sip of a coca cola before spiting it out]
bucky: what the hell is that?
sam: ???? is there a problem with your pop?????????
steve: oh! i know the problem. buck, they dont make coca cola with cocaine anymore
bucky: what the fuck!
Interviewer: Oh my goodness, this is a real relationship. Itās an intergalactic bond filled with superpowers.
So pure
Not all heroes wear capes.
Yes, I do know The Muffin Man.
He eats pussy like a champ.
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people talk about women beingĀ āemotionalā andĀ āoverreacting,ā but you donāt see a woman making an arch-nemesis out of an albino whale and obsessively chasing it down like a lunatic for 585 pages
since i made this post, iād multiple women telling me they would absolutely hunt down a whale for an extended period out of a bloodthirsty desire for vengeance, and i want to apologize for engaging in gender stereotypes
Ahem.
āThanks to Microsoft Wordās āfind and replaceā feature, no stone was left unturned.ā Why is this so fucking funny sdfgjkk
rEBLOGGING AGAIN BECAUSW I SOMEHOW MISSED THAT THE COVER SAYS MOBY VULVA AND IM CRYIN AHSHHDHDHDH
How did I miss this glorious addition to this posts
You missed the chance to say āMoby Clitā and I am so dissapointed
Because then men would never find it
The nameās Gunnā¦
Gia Gunn.
DAY IS MADE!