Okay, so I'm trans, and I have pretty supportive people around me, but because of Gender Dysphoria, I have anxieties over being perceived as a woman, because I'm not a woman, I'm a non-binary person. What would you say is the best way to deal with those kinds of feelings? ((For the person running this blog, don't worry, I'm in therapy and shit. I just think the character of Jonathan would find this interesting.))
I wouldn't say that any one way can be the "best" way. Being that these things are individual and personal.
My own personal recommendation is practicing radical acceptance of the fact that you cannot change how any one individual in this life will perceive you.
Even if, say, you have arrived at your ideal post-transitional state of being. There will still be people who may accidentally get it wrong, or in some cases, intentionally get it wrong for any multitude of reasons... This applies to any way we try to present ourselves, really.
If you surround yourself with and focus your attention on those around you who understand, accept, and love you and all that--Then the impact of those who do not becomes something you care less about. Granted this is a practiced skill.
The sad, unsweetened fact is that every human being in their lifetime will suffer pain and cause pain. Physical. Psychological. Different kinds and different levels. There will be people who don't like you no matter what you do and people you don't like no matter what they do. It's inescapable and sometimes necessary.
What matters is the kind of person we let that pain shape us into.
It's alright to be anxious or frightened. It's normal and I'm sure you have good reasons for feeling the things that you do. However, the sooner you can find ways to be at peace with people being complex individuals--whether you like them or not--you may find you can more easily be at peace with yourself.
Feel the fear and do it anyway, as they say.
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