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Pereval, 2012

Kayotkin Maxim Vladislavovich (born 1972) Pass, 2012

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Maksim Kayetkin, Pass, 2012, Oil on canvas

So weird being back on tumblr for the first time in years and years and years.

Just trying to relive my glory days.

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doctorguilty

This isn’t directed @ anyone specific just a side effect of some stuff I’ve been dealing with lately but for whoever needs to hear it, as a 25 year old who has seen many friendships fall apart in my days, one of the most important social skills you need to learn how to do is approaching someone in your life when you have a problem with something they said or did

I think social media and general internet talking is great and all but it gives way to a lot of really bad habits like, reading a message and getting upset, ignoring the other person, unfollowing/blocking in response, things that would otherwise be noticeable in a face to face interaction

It’s not healthy or productive at all to stew in frustration while the other person has no idea you’re even upset, and when (or even if) you finally let them know days or weeks or god only knows how long later, you’ve given yourself way too much time to dwell into more extreme feelings. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had vicious arguments over things that were as simple as a misinterpretation of what I said and could’ve been solved in 5 minutes had they just said “hey, that hurts my feelings”

I know approaching people can be difficult and scary, but being an adult and maintaining adult relationships absolutely requires this basic communication skill. If you see a therapist, this is something they can absolutely help you with!

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quilt by Chinami Terai

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There is no amount of self annihilation, repression of your instincts, & rejection/denouncement of people materially similar to you that will get someone who fundamentally hates people like you to make a real exception. Not for long. The shoe will ALWAYS be waiting to drop. You will always be anxious and appeasing. It’s psychic death.