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All eyes on me

Acrylic on canvas

9/4/2022

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a moment of peace during the war

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Disney + Gasping!

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Minnesota, 28/05/2020

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Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe (Benjamin Alire Sáenz) / Orestes (Euripides, trans. Anne Carson) / Guardian (Alex London)

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Shedd Aquarium in Chicago let penguins explore and visit other animals after it's closed to humans

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Rhodotus Palmatus.

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Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

Signs that you’re living in abuse:

Behavioral patterns of living in abuse

Was I abused? Checklist

Not knowing you are a victim

Signs your family is abusive

Making excuses for your abusive parents

Experience of living in secrecy

What they taught you was abuse

Emotional experiences of living in abuse

Shame and guilt: how abused children feel

What makes parents abusers (actions)

Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist

Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist

You are not allowed to mention the past

Why you still love abusive parents

Parental behaviour that isn’t normal

Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you

Experience of “not belonging anywhere”

Red flags for abusive parents

Healthy vs Abusive Chores

Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?

Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)

Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:

“This is my house” rule

Start living in the real life!

Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home

Common abuser hypocrisies

Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?

Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless

Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour

Why your abusers are not good people

Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change

Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?

Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”

Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)

Incorporating trauma in raising children

Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse

Signs your parents are narcissistic:

Stuff delusional narcissists say

Shit narcissistis parents say

Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents

Examples of narcissistic behaviours

Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents

What children of narcissists go thru

Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:

CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms

Signs you might have endured CSA

Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist

Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:

How to tell if a friend is not a friend

Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist

Manufacturing insecurities

Red flags for abusers

Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist

You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel

How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships

Recognizing abusive friendship

Signs you’re struggling with trauma

Trauma processing information

Experiences of traumatized children

Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse

Things abuse survivors think/say

Thoughts of victims of child abuse

Your brain on trauma

How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)

Ups and downs of trauma

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“I do not feel like healing because in the back garden there is a graveyard for all of the things I wasn’t allowed to feel. Betrayal and Pain toss in their graves and Anger screams like a banshee from the top of a tree, ‘I HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL THIS WAY.’ Resentment festers like a maggoty wound beneath the surface. I cannot let go of this, because it has yet to let go of me. I should have been allowed to purge myself of poison. Instead, I was made to swallow it. And now the soil is rotten. But it’s not my fault. Not mine. ‘Talking helps sometimes,’ they say but my voice is nothing but thorns and no roses. So many dead emotions that weren’t allowed to live. They wail from beneath the ground. They are fighting to crawl out. They refuse to be subdued again. No, I do not feel like healing. I feel like hurting. Take a knife and cut off the hands that are holding me back. Dig up the skeletons and embrace them. I am human and I am allowed to feel these cut-up, violent things. I promise to get worse before I get better.”

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Reparenting Affirmations for an Inner Child

I am so glad you were born.

You are a good person.

I love who you are and am doing my best to always be on your side.

You can come to me whenever you’re feeling hurt or bad.

You do not have to be perfect to get my love and protection.

All of your feelings are okay with me.

I am always glad to see you.

It is okay for you to be angry and I won’t let you hurt yourself or others when you are.

You can make mistakes - they are your teachers.

You can know what you need and ask for help.

You can have your own preferences and tastes.

You are a delight to my eyes.

You can choose your own values.

You can pick your own friends, and you don’t have to like everyone.

You can sometimes feel confused and ambivalent, and not know all the answers.

I am very proud of you.

– Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

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I Am Not Okay With This (2020- ), Titanic (1997), Stranger Things (2016- ), Silver Linings Playbook (2012), Black Panther (2018), The Breakfast Club (1985), Sex Education (2019- ), The Walking Dead (2010- ), Bring It On (2000), Derry Girls (2018- )