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chronically ill, autistic, bi

[witchybitchinc-deactivated20221]

Bi Awareness Week: Day 2

Bi-fact!

A study examined the effects of media representations on the mental health of Bisexual individuals. The authors found that poor media representation was a factor towards biphobia, which negatively impacted on mental health. (Johnson, J.H. (2016) Bisexuality, Mental Health, and Media Representation. Journal of Bisexuality, 16(3), 378-396.)

It is no secret how Bisexual individuals are portrayed in the media. Often the image is of someone who is sexually promiscuous, confused, greedy, or experimenting. They often don’t call themselves Bisexual.

[xurrr]

I just watched this episode of mystery diagnosis and this woman complained of a persistent cough, night sweats, and weight loss. Doctors dismissed her as anorexic and basically attention seeking. Her family eventually did the same thing and said they thought she was "just depressed." I was thinking it sounded like tuberculosis because those are hallmark symptoms. Did her physicians test her, you think? Of fucking course not. But then she had this for 3 more years. Ditched the previous male doctors and found a female doctor that took another x-ray and immediately saw Hodgkin's lymphoma. One x-ray is all it took.

I'm infuriated. I found out she died not long after due to how advanced it was. Your chances of remission decrease as the cancer progresses. I honestly cried because of how many women suffer and die because of misogyny within health care. I always call out people's subtle misogyny at work but I've handled them far too delicately. I'm vowing to be even more blunt when calling them out because this is SO unacceptable and so pervasive.

[addictedtocaring]

How many women have died because their doctors decided they were "attention seeking," do you think?

[notyourgoodwoman]

“Do you really believe … that everything historians tell us about men – or about women – is actually true? You ought to consider the fact that these histories have been written by men, who never tell the truth except by accident.”

— Moderata Fonte, pseudonym of Modesta Pozzo (1555-1592). She was an Italian writer from Venice who wrote religious and romantic poetry. Modesta is best known, however, for the posthumously published The Worth of Women: Wherein Is Clearly Revealed Their Nobility and Their Superiority to Men (via hereticnarrative)

[someemochick]

Let us not forget the greatest real-life bard of all time.

[justanotherwriter69]

Reblogging this because people need to know about the original Badass Bisexual

[is-it-mungojerry-or-rumpelteazer]

She did that. She was also so extra she had to be pardoned by the King of France… twice. -The first time it was because of the aforementioned “breaking and entering a convent to flee with a novice while also putting a dead nun in her bed [that she had previously dug up from the nearby cemetery] and setting fire to the convent just in case”. -The second time it was because she went to a Royal Ball and spent so much time flirting with a high society girl so overtly that three of her suitors challenged her to a duel. She fought the three of them at once and then went back in to continue flirting with the girl. She apparently hadn’t considered the small fact that duels were outlawed, and that maybe having three duels on the Royal Palace gardens wasn’t the best idea ever? Luckily for her Louis XIV found her hilarious and he pardoned her a second time. -She also gained her living for a while by doing ‘singing and dueling demonstrations’. As in dueling and singing mocking songs about the guys she was dueling at the same time. - Apparently, during her time at the Opera, she challenged to duels all the nobles who tried to molest the chorus girls. When she realized they went around saying “they had been mugged by a gang” to cover for the fact that they had been crushed by an opera singer, she started taking small objects from them and returning them in front of everyone, “you forgot this when I beat you up” style. - When the woman she loved the most in her life died, she apparently retired from public life… to a convent. She died at 33 (37 according to other sources).

If you want more details about Julie d’Aubigny, aka Madame de Maupin, and you speak Spanish, there is this twitter thread that gives all the information above and more. Warning, though, it uses quite a lot of slang.

[anyskin]

Ladies who rode: Elsie Knocker and Mairi Chisholm, who rode in local trials and endurance events in the 1910s, before heading off to Belgium in 1914 (with their motorcycles) to set up an independent triage station a few hundred metres from the front lines.  Great photos of the ladies with their machines here: https://thevintagent.com/2018/11/11/the-angels-of-pervyse/

[gluten-free-pussy]

I wish people would realize that just because I’m bisexual it doesn’t automatically mean that I’m interested in EVERY man or woman who crosses my path. I’m allowed to have boundaries and standards just like everybody else.

[saturnineaqua]

This is the shit that makes me keep it to myself. Ppl treat you like some kind of animal

[gluten-free-pussy]

Men and women alike. Suddenly people either don’t want you around anymore or treat you like you’re some kinda pervert who’s down to entertain whatever sexual whim they have. It’s wild. I’m super picky with my partners and it always gags them

[wehadfacesthen]

Bette Davis, 1935-36

“I am just too much.”

[lookingbackatfashionhistory]

• Woman's hooded cloak (Woman's riding hood).

Date: last quarter of the 18th century

Place of origin: Lexington, Massachusetts, United States;Place of Manufacture: England (textile)

Medium: Plain weave wool (broadcloth), plain weave silk trim and facing.

[in-herbones]

Ultimate vintage boot score 🖤🥀

[thehmn]

It’s an old tradition that during a leap year women could propose to men. This was usually depicted as old or ugly women trapping men, but some art focused more on the role reversal and could be quite cute.

I have a soft spot in my heart for the last one because it plays on the idea of “undesirable” people, a tall masculine woman and a shy effeminate man, finding each other but instead of mocking them depicts it as sweet that she could finally ask him because he was too shy and insecure to ask her.

[venusdryad]

i hate to break this to some of yall but bisexual women are not soul less opportunists who all secretly lust after men constantly and dont actually love women... and its not exclusive to bisexual women to leave their partner for another person. if you really believe that youre gonna be severely disappointed later in life lmfao

[venusdryad]

the assertion that bisexual women could just leave women for men and live a perfectly happy and content life is so disingenuous. do yall forget misogyny exists when it comes to bisexual women?? do yall forget that men are the main perpetrators of domestic abuse??? bisexual women have the highest rates of being victims of sexual assault (by a partner) and youre really just gonna sit there and go on and on about how well all just leave a same sex relationship for a man. its like you want bisexual women to admit theyre really bihet handmaidens straight and get in relationships with men ffs

[brownsunbisexual-permarchive-de]

being bisexual does not enable me to “choose men” or leave room for them in my life; being bisexual, in actuality, gives me the option to choose women time and time again, and it is the reason i can love women. 

[woman-loving]

I saw your post earlier and it got me thinking about how desire is left out of that characterization of bi women. (That we’ll ditch women for men once the going gets rough; that we aren’t fully invested in relationships with women or combating homophobia, because we aren’t “forced” to deal with them through lack of “options.”) 

It doesn’t take into account the simple fact that… sometimes bi women fall in love with women! Sometimes a woman is who we desire. Instead, it assumes that bi women’s relationships are driven by ease rather than desire for a specific individual. It assumes all individuals are interchangeable: if we love A but being with her is difficult, it’s emotionally feasibly–and rational–to simply transfer our love to a more socially acceptable candidate (who will of course immediately reciprocate our feelings). But desire and love aren’t simply determined by the path of least resistance. 

Anyway, now I’m reading and this quote speaks to exactly what I was thinking: “Desire, the energy that [Audre] Lorde names as “the erotic,” is incredibly powerful–powerful enough to lead people to behavior that might result in consequences ranging from ostracization to violence. It is important to attend to desire because too often sex is examined as though no feelings are involved.“ (Rosamond S. King, “Island Bodies: Transgressive Sexualities in the Caribbean Imagination,” 2014)

[im-not-an-object-ok]

“A child who’s told she has to do more housework than her brother because she’s a girl, or that she can’t be an astronaut when she grows up because she’s a girl, is likely to say “that’s not fair!” A boy who is told he cannot play with dolls because he’s a boy, or that he cannot be a secretary when he grows up, may find that unfair as well. But the boy who is told he can’t be a nurse is being told that he is too good to be a nurse. The girl, on the other hand, is essentially being told that she is not good enough to be a doctor.”

—

Eckert and Ginet, Language and Gender

[weebisexual]

bisexual women are beautiful

[glamourofyesteryear]

Katharine Hepburn for A Woman Rebels, 1936

[deforest]

THE CURSE OF QUON GWON (1917) dir. Marion E. Wong “The first feature film made with an all-Chinese American cast and an all-Chinese American company, The Curse of Quon Gwon was written and directed by Marion E. Wong at her own Mandarin Film Company, based in Oakland, California. Offering an important counterpoint to racist depictions of Asian characters in other films of the period, the film explores western influence on traditional Chinese society and amongst Chinese American communities, suggesting Wong’s keen awareness of early twentieth-century transnational identity, as film scholar Jenny Kwok Wah Lau has observed. Marion, who was in her early twenties at the time, also played the film’s villainess. Nearly all the actors in the movie are family members and friends. The leading role of the heroine was played by Marion’s sister-in-law, Violet Wong. Family members were also involved in other aspects of the film’s production, including costumes and finance. Produced in 1916-1917, The Curse of Quon Gwon is the earliest example of Chinese American independent film known to exist today.”

[bidonica]

Today’s installment of  why“but it has always been like this!” is a bullshit argument: @nitratediva​ lays down the law about the role of women in early Hollywood

[counterpunches]

#um yeah#when filmmaking began#it was mostly women poc and like former circus people#basically it was people without a lot of power or privilege#because movie sets were thought to be a place for poor and unimportant people#and then white business men realized there was money to be made#and they created the studio system so that they could control the means of creation pretty directly#and push everyone who wasn’t “proper” out#this wasn’t an accident