i am on hiatus

max.

[repecca]

Part 2/3 of O Theo, my visdev project based off of Vincent and Theo van Gogh’s life feat. Paul Gauguin

[whitepeopletwitter]

[stuffedgrapeleaves]

i can’t believe we’re all young professionals and academics and we’re still logging on to tumblr.com every single day to clown on ourselves. who let this happen

[trainstationgoodbye]

Anne Hathaway in Ocean’s 8 (2018) Dir. Gary Ross

[valntinemorgenstern]

The Great Unanswered Question:

What the hell happens to every country on the planet that isn’t the US in YA dystopias

[hungrylikethewolfie]

#maybe all ya dystopian futures are just highly localised#and every other country is busy doing their thing#‘do you think the US will be attending the olympics this year?’#‘I don’t know; I think they still have that hell-portal open’#‘I’ll put them down as a maybe’ (via archnemeton)

[galahadwilder]

This aged surprisingly well

[takethisnight-wrapitaroundme-de]

“I wanted a happy queer couple. I felt the audience needed to see, here are two people who, if not for this, probably wouldn’t have found each other. They have what they have because they have this gift. They meet killing each other, and only within that discovery that they can’t do it are they able to put down all this bullshit about religious hatred, about these cultural mandates, and look at each other and be like, ‘You know what? You are magical to me. My blessing isn’t that I get an eternal life. My blessing is I found you.’”

— Greg Rucka on the importance of Nicky & Joe’s relationship in The Old Guard

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

Thinkin about how as kids parents told us to clean our rooms without having ever shown us how to themselves, taught us any organizational skills, spatial management, or any other knowledge necessary to know how to efficiently tackle a mess without getting overwhelmed and then got exasperated when we as ten year olds didn’t just……figure it out

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

This is not a dunk on my parents for the record. I had wonderful parents growing up and still have an amazing mom. I think this is just one of those smaller and common things of parenthood that I think addressing would be monumental in reducing a very common household stressor. If parents led their children in cleanups and helped them reason out plans to manage their time and stuff, especially neurodivergent kids, the entire household would be a lot more calm, streamlined, and overall happy I think!!!

[tractorgoth]

I’ve got one 7 year old perfectionist (possible ADHD) and one sweet 5 year old hurricane (DEFINITE ADHD) and me (also brain full of cats, despises prolonged supervisory things). Here’s some things I’ve learned specific to that that are also generally good for teaching kids to clean. (Or yourself.)

1. If you want a kid to clean, first you have to teach them to even see mess. They don’t! But it does stress them out.

“Okay, let’s look for something out of its place. If it’s on the floor, it’s out of place. If it’s on your bed and it’s not a blanket, it’s out of place.”

2. Go by category, it’s easier to find stuff to put away if your search engine has a specific target, and it’s more satisfying and efficient to put away a big chunk of mess at once.

“Got something? Ok, are there other things like it? Let’s find all the BOOKS. I will HELP YOU.”

3. Important!! Don’t walk away from a kid with focus issues expecting them to instantly learn a task and finish it! You are setting them up to fail! The first several times you need to be there for the whole process and demonstrate by helping. That motivates them. They feel less panic that you’ll bail and they’ll be stuck alone not knowing what to do next. Narrate what you’re doing, too. Help and supervise less as they seem to need you less.

“I’ll get the books on the floor, can you help me get the ones under your bed? I can’t fit!”

4. In my experience most kids, but especially kids with ADHD would walk to the fucking moon to help you, they just need a clear plan, keep the criticism light, short, and to the point, and ffs PRAISE THEM when they do things right, cause we’ve all (I hope) seen the statistics on how much more negative interaction they get compared to other kids (and rejection sensitive dysphoria is a motherfucker). But more than praise you need to show them how what they did was good for THEM. Do nooooooooot take this opportunity for an ‘I told you so’ or a ‘finally’ or you will suck out all their accomplishment.

“Hey, great job, you found that horse you were missing because you cleaned! And your room looks so nice! It’s really comfortable to play in now, and you did that.”

5. Emphasize it does not have to be perfect or complete to be worth doing. I don’t want to will my kids my paralysis of inaction because I can’t start part of something unless I can do all of it.

“We don’t have time to do the whole room, but let’s pick up the legos before bed so you don’t hurt your feet. And then it’ll already be done tomorrow!”

Other small but important things: make sure everyone is fed and not cranky when you start, including you. Do what YOU need to be in the right patient headspace for this. Put on music. Get coffee. Take breaks! Take dance breaks, tickle breaks, whatever. Make em short, set a timer, keep it consistent. Stop completely if they’re getting overwhelmed or stressed and be prepared to finish another day. They may complain and flop around a lot the first few times. Stay tooth grindingly positive and keep at it, it WILL get better. If you mess up, start again. It’s ok. It’s never too late.

[mylove-isnot-fragile]

I’m an adult with ADHD who finds cleaning their room a STRUGGLE, so I APPRECIATE THE HELL OUT OF THIS

[iamhisgloriouspurpose]

I would like to go back in time and give this to my mother. She didn’t define her expectations when she said, “Clean up your room”. It was a guessing game, and I got it wrong for years. Had she said, “Do these three things to start”, that would have made it infinitely easier on both of us.

[catchymemes]

Credit: @mrnigelng

[butterflypeaflowertea]

my favorite thing to do in this christian society is to pretend that i don’t know a SINGLE thing abt christianity. like sometimes people will mention things like going to church with their families or upcoming holidays & i’ll act utterly clueless abt all of it even though i know absolutely everything ever just bc it’s funny to see people fumble to justify + tell me abt things. if i constantly have to explain my religion and practices to ignorant people, y’all are gonna have to do the exact same thing

[butterflypeaflowertea]

like one time i asked this girl what christmas was with my blankest possible expression & she looked at me incredulously & slowly said “it’s jesus’s birthday…” and i was like oh that’s cool! who’s jesus? :-) & she froze for a good fifteen seconds. i think i gave her brain damage it was great

[omghotmemes]

I Love When They Think We Don’t See Them

[harrysdimples]

Harry Styles, December 2019.

[wondersmith-and-sons]

full offense but hozier did not release several songs saying “fuck cops, fuck capitalism, fuck fascism, fuck settler colonialism, white liberalism is useless, and also FUCK COPS” to be reduced to colonial cottagecore aesthetic by white women and be compared someone who uses tepid high school metaphors to talk about the Democrats like jfc

[wondersmith-and-sons]

the problem here isn’t a white woman releasing a cottagecore album and being compared to hozier, it’s how hozier’s previous work and political messages that were specifically written to be about non-white and/or non-Western communities are ignored in favour of what white audiences can consume. Jackboot Jump was about state violence, and it specifically draws attention to non-American events when most artists would refuse to even acknowledge it. Foreigners God and Run are about Irish colonialism by the English. Be is about inhumane immigration conditions. Nina Cried Power was a long tribute to historical activists and Black artists. these are absolutely definitive as part of that canon of work, but they are ultimately ignored in favour of songs that can be pitch-shifted to create a ~wlw love song~

this is obviously a larger issue than swift vs hozier, but it is emblematic of how white audiences consume and, in turn, ignore media that makes them uncomfortable or challenges their paradigms of systemic privilege. the problem is that when creators of colour make political narratives about ourselves, we are ignored; when white creators take time to include radical political narratives about BIPOC, they are are cherry-picked or overlooked for messages that are more palatable. artists that take inspiration from radically progressive politics and use them in their works are constantly watered down when they make white liberal audiences uncomfortable. 

hozier’s music is reduced to “forest king fae wizard” because it’s more comfortable to consume and reckon with and relate to, and because it’s easier to draw similarities to another conventional white artist singing about conventional white middle-class womanhood than accept the revolutionary messages and acknowledge the sheer depth of influence that Black artists and activists have had

[strawberrywoong-deactivated2022]

what do u guys call ur moms ??? idk why this is so fascinating to me but in english i call my mom “mom” but in romanian i call her “mami” mostly or if im annoyed then “mama” ??? most ppl ive met call theirs mom though

[summer-doodles]

[foiblepnoteworthy]

op teleported in my room and made me do this

[tsunflowers]

also I learned about this project called “queering the map.” the idea is that in the past gay neighborhoods and gay spaces were very clearly defined bc it just wasn’t safe to be yourself anywhere else. as lgbt+ people become more visible and accepted many feel that we are losing our connection to those spaces

so every dot on this map is basically someone’s queer experience: coming out, meeting their future wife, seeing another gay man in public for the first time, anything you can think of that truly left a mark on them

it started in Montreal and is primarily English-language with most pins dropped in the US, Canada, and Europe, but there are people all over the world who’ve shared their experiences. it’s great to look at places near you but it’s also great to see that even people in places you thought were the middle of nowhere are happy with themselves and finding community and living their lives

[sazandorable]

It’s here and it’s SO SWEET?? Just clicking around it’s very personal stories, in first person and a lot of them addressed to a specific “you”, and sooo many in extremely poetic language. It feels like an art installation and it’s so beautiful. ;W; Thanks for sharing!!!

… there’s also a lot of really silly ones (like gay sharks in the middle of the ocean)

[coolnpc]

[captainlordauditor]

I looked at Jerusalem and immediately found two favorites for entirely different reasons.

[chibigikochin]

Things I found from the queer community of japan:

It’s no secret to the Japanese that Shinjuku nichome is the gay district of Tokyo but about half the pins left there are for the same club in that area named gold finger. Definitely a place to check out if you’re looking to get involved in the Japanese queer community for whatever reason, it seems.

I have a sneaking suspicion this submission is a haiku when written in Japanese…

This guy got the scenic view I guess

Is this how people feel while reading deep romantic poetry because wow I’m moved.

Honestly the best feeling is learning we’re not as alone as we’ve been led to believe

These are all super poetic oml I appreciate every single one of them

[phuk-ewe-deactivated20221207]

There are none in my town. Guess I’ll be the first

[isabelofwraithmarsh]

I went to my old, STAUNCHLY conservative town and saw “There are a lot more of us here than most would think, past and present” and I nearly cried

[chaz]

like yeah cool we follow each other but when are we gonna date