🐦‍⬛🪾 mikal weelr 🍂🐈‍⬛

I write things sometimes • any pronouns • lesbian • 21 • ao3 • 💛💙

[gaysforbyler]

Intro post!!

About me

Pen name: Elzie, El, Elz, Elizabeth if you’re feeling formal

Nickname: Raven. Call me whichever you’d like

Identity: Lesbian, (gray) aroace, unlabeled gender

Pronouns: They/she preferred, but I’m chill with any

Age: 21

Super duper socially anxious. Sorry if I don’t reply

Account information

I post about byler, writing fanfics, and my life

DNI: Mike or Will haters/Will or Mike solo stans, anti bylers, gen AI users, people who hate cringe

Secondary: waven-n

Ao3: gaysforbyler bc I’m unoriginal

My tags:

Raven rambles— posts about my personal life

Wring stuff tag— updates about my writing

Ghb!— all posts about get him back!

Ojea— all posts about Our Jagged Edges Align

Arom— all posts about a reflection of myself

Ojea asks— asks about ojea

Ojea spoilers— posts about upcoming ojea chapters/sequels

Mason Montoya— Mason pictures

Isabella Montoya— Isa pictures

tpoffair- my smau

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Being asexual in the byler fandom is like being gay in Indiana in 1983.

For years, you think that you and your friends are on the same page. Girls (sex) are gross, and none of you want anything to do with them. You’re all perfectly content playing pretend in your friend’s basement.

And then one day, everything changes. Your friends are suddenly girl crazy, and no matter where you turn, you can’t escape those conversations. And why would you want to? You’re not a freak, are you? Liking girls is NORMAL. Why are you complaining about that?

Your friends aren’t WRONG for liking girls, but that doesn’t stop this change in attitude from hurting. You used to be equals. Your friends used to be your safe space; the only people on earth who you were never scared to be around because you KNEW they would never talk about something that made you so uncomfortable. They weren’t like your other peers. They were LIKE YOU.

But it turns out that they were never like you. They were late bloomers, sure— but they DID bloom. This whole time, they were itching for the moment that they could finally talk about girls. And that’s the difference between you guys. You ARE a freak. And suddenly, everything you’ve bonded over for the past ten years feels childish and insignificant to them.

You just wish that everything could go back to the way it was. You just want to play dnd in the basement, but your best friend is chasing after some stupid girl.

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Sometimes I wish that my depression would manifest as sadness rather than anger

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I fear I’ve become insufferable because everyone in the fandom is making jokes and references and caring about things that are so STUPID to me. Everything is infuriating because I WISH something so simple could make me that happy. Those posts are supposed to make me happy but they DON’T. Nothing makes me happy anymore. And that is so frustrating that I want to take it out on the people that are enjoying it.

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Don’t shoot me for that one

[lyxchen]

Don't come at me for saying this but I do believe that the reason, the actual main reason why people usually see Will as the more feminine and submissive part of byler and usually put him as bottom is because he's gay. That's it. Will is canonically gay so he has to be "the girl". It's all homophobia. Like it comes from homophobia and gay stereotypes. Will is gay in canon so he has to be "the woman" and feminine in a way that feels derogatory and insulting to him and relies on disrespectful gay stereotypes and misogyny (because according to misogyny the woman has to be submissive to the man). Mike is not canonically confirmed to be gay and so in the fandom that makes him "less gay" than the confirmed gay character and therefor less feminine too. Cause he's only "technically gay". So he is "the man" of the relationship and has to be the dom top because heteronormative misogyny.

People also never let Mike enjoy gay or overall queer experiences. He doesn't get to wear crop tops or makeup or want to feel pretty or sit on Will's lap or be a little girly and fuck around with his gender. Mike doesn't get to be feminine, he doesn't get to be gay because he's straight in textual canon and so he has to be the man who never shows any genuine emotions and never has any desires other than to fuck this other guy who is actually gay. Mike isn't allowed to be involved in gay culture, he doesn't do gay culture. Mike doesn't get wanting to be taken care of or wanting to submit or wanting to bottom because that's Gay and Mike Isn't Gay. Will is gay though so he Has to do all those things!!!! That's what people sound like when they get pressed about bylers who like or prefer bottom Mike btw. They think making him bottom is emsaculating for Mike and therefor that's bad because he isn't gay enough to be emasculated or whatever.

I've seen many explanations as to why this specific dynamic for byler has become so much the norm and is being so agressively pushed on everyone, when, if you actually watch the show, you'll see that Mike is much more of a caretaker (stereotypically feminine trait) and behaves more "submissive" around Will, literally physically putting himself below Will multiple times, and both of them show signs of experimenting with gender and being more gender non conforming. But I do think that, out of all the reasons this could have, it all boils down to the fact that in textual canon Will is gay and Mike isn't. And gay men are always more feminine than straight men, according to homophobes. And I'm not saying bylers are homophobes, but I do think that that is the underlying issue we need to work on here, the reason for why this intense need for Will to be sub bottom and Mike to be dom top exists in this fandom.

The show tells you that Will had to deal with period typical homophobia, being called sensitive and queer and literal slurs, being called girly things and weak just because they think he's gay. That's how he's being introduced to viewers. And fans just go along with it (even though not too long before that they saw a whole scene of Will being very brave and strong, knowing how to use a literal gun!! but whatever that doesn't count I guess). They—likely unconsciously—use this exact thing to justify why Will has to be submissive, why he has to be bottom. And then what they're actually doing is using the homophobia that Will has faced for so long against him, to police his sex life and act like their view of it should be only correct one, when queer sex is so much more than lazy heteronormative dynamics.

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When my therapist asked if I was actively suicidal/self harming and I had to lie because my dad already sounded like he was going to cry when he was relaying my past attempt

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Ocd vs a theme park. Who will win? (Ocd)

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Hanging with 60 y/o lesbians

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The problem with kinning male characters is that you start thinking that you’re genderfluid or transmasc

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Counterpoint: you mistake the feeling for attraction and spend your childhood thinking that you have a crush on Michael Wheeler when you really just want to steal his comfy sweaters

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When all of the likes on a post of mine are from my mutuals I never know whether my take is actually good or if everyone is just agreeing because I was the one who posted it

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I know I just said that I don’t buy clothes anymore but I just bought the cutest Mike-core sweater

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I’m so bad at this

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I will never understand the societal push to propose less than a year after you start dating someone. Engagement comes after 2-3 years MINIMUM. Marriage after 3-4

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Old man Mike would wear this

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I lost all respect for Eddie two seconds after meeting him. Wdym you can’t move a CLUB date for a sports game whose schedule was determined by the SCHOOL DISTRICT. I’m sorry but a literal required PE class > optional clubs. Lucas cannot skip the match. He’s getting graded on his attendance.

[gaysforbyler]

I wish that I could reblog posts from the Mike appreciation club bc omg that’s so true! Eddie is not an anti-conformist, he just wants people to conform to HIS version of normal. You’re thinking of Argyle and Jonathan!

Mike does not wear clothes that his mother bought for him. He wears clothes the HE picked out but felt insecure when Eddie called him out on it so he blamed his mother