Uh oh! You ran a minority off their blog/the internet! Let's look into what this says about you!
Okay but they did something really *really* bad!! -> what as it?
They were being (insert bigotry here)!! -> 1. were they actually? re-read once or twice then check back here 2. did you ask them to clarify anything or describe their viewpoints in greater detail? 3. did you give them a chance to learn why what they said could be bigoted and harmful? if so, did they seem receptive to the idea? 4. did you think to either dm them or just simply block them before making a public post about how supposedly bigoted and harmful they are?
If the answer to any of these is "no", then congrats! You're the problem!
They were fetishizing/glorifying/promoting non-consent!! (rape, pedophilia, zoophilia, incest, etc.) -> 1. were they actually? re-read once or twice then check back here. 2. did you ask them to clarify anything or describe their viewpoints in greater detail? 3. Were they promoting actual, tangible harm or something that would definitively and unavoidably lead to harm or in-person action? Or was it a fictional scenario as a means to cope with trauma rather than fetishize or promote non-consent and harm? 4. Did you ask them to take the post down, edit it, or otherwise mitigate any harm it could be promoting or glorifying prior to making a public outcry about how supposedly sexually deviant and dangerous this person is?
If the answer to any of these is "no", then congrats! You're the problem!
They were supporting (known internet bad-take person)!! -> 1. were they actually? re-read once or twice then check back here. 2. Did you let them know that the person whom they supported has reactionary, bigoted, or otherwise harmful takes? 3. Were they supporting the bad takes that this person promotes or did they like/reblog/reference/etc. a post by that person which was unrelated to the harm that they perpetuate? 4. Has this person **personally** stated that they are in support of this harmful person and the harmful things they have done?
If the answer to any of these is "no", then congrats! You're the problem!
They posted untagged/uncensored nsfw/kink content!! -> 1. Did they actually? Check the tags and your censoring settings and be very sure. 2. Did you ask them to tag it/tag it properly? Did you censor the tag if they used something general like "18+", "nsfw/nsft", or any personal nsfw tag on their account? 3. If they refuse to tag kink content for reasons such as terfs targetting those tags or tumblr staff purging accounts who post that sort of thing with those tags, did you check to see that their account says somewhere that it is 18+, an nsft account, that they post nsft, or that it is an mdni account? If so, did you consider literally just blocking the account instead of making it a public issue?
If the answer to any of these is "no", then congrats! You're the bigot!
They (any other bad thing that you for some reason think warrants a whole callout post and campaign to remove them from tumblr/that blog)!! -> 1. did they actually? re-read the post and check here again. 2. Were they causing any tangible harm with it or did you just dislike it? 3. Have you considered just blocking and moving on like any other regular person would??? Especially regarding a group which is already so demonized and treated as subhuman by so many people???
If the answer to any of these is "no", then congrats! You're the problem!
Please learn to communicate with people and understand their intentions!!! Ask questions, ask for clarification, re-read, privately warn others, ask for help regarding the situation, and try to be patient, kind, and respectful!! You don't need to turn everything into a callout post!!
Humans can say things that are upsetting, distressing, confusing, enraging, etc. But most of the time, people don't mean to do this!! Especially neurodivergent people who struggle with comprehension and articulation!! Be gracious and try not to assume the worst of everyone!!
I have made mistakes. I have fucked up a *lot* throughout my life. If I could undo the damage I have caused to every single person that I have hurt, believe me, I would. I would sit down and talk to try and understand what I did wrong, how I hurt them, and how I can do better in the future, especially if they didn't hurt me first. I am a transfem who genuinely struggles heavily with reading comprehension and verbal articulation!! I am partially selectively mute irl from autism and also struggle to make and maintain friendships, so I have a hard time socializing and don't always understand what always is and isn't appropriate to say. Not to excuse any bigotry I spout or perpetuate, but I grew up in a sheltered and very religious conservative community, so had very little knowledge of diversity stuff, especially regarding religious and racial/ethnic minorities! I am always trying to improve as a person and expand my knowledge of these things and be better in a community and with diversity. I appreciate people being patient and asking questions, because I tend to get very defensive and stubborn as likely something associated with neurodivergence when people come out angry, violent, accusatory, etc. and I don't reply in the best or most effective ways.
Do I think the people who decided to harass me for weeks on end deserve my kindness? Fuck no. Would I be open to patient, constructive conversations of what I did wrong and how I can improve without being constantly attacked, judged, or infantilized? Absolutely!
I always wanna be a better and more understanding person, but when people immediately jump to assuming the worst about me and the people I associate with, I tend to shut down.
The next time you see a person who is part of a minority group doing something you dislike, either ask for clarification on the take or just block and move on!! Do not make a struggling person's life harder than it needs to be!!