[genderwav]

About:

i’m jules, polaris, or octave. i’m 22, white, and queer. i follow from @magarula!

this blog has historically been centered around nonbinary people, love between nonbinary people, etc. but people who aren’t nonbinary can follow! i have changed a lot since i made this blog and even though i don’t identify as loveless, sometimes i get into moods so i’ll probably post less lovey-dovey stuff.

BYF:

i have too many followers to prune super carefully, but generally speaking here are my guidelines for what gets you blocked. i block liberally, sometimes its for something not here either. since this is a sideblog, sometimes i forget to block from my main and this one too.

- racism, antisemitism, islamophobia

- radfem beliefs

- transmed beliefs

- exclusionist beliefs

- if you choose to label yourself an anti-anti

- not really something that will get you blocked but just so you know i don’t tag queer if it’s being used as an identity (the same with other lgbt+ identity slurs) and i would prefer you not do it either on my posts. if my blog’s not for you there are other options!

i don’t want to debate these with strangers

Discord Server:

i also run a discord server! unlike the blog itself, the server is exclusively for nonbinary people (it is also an appropriate place to question being nonbinary). there’s a carrd for the rules and information about the server, but the same details are in the server itself if you want to join to read them that way. it is all ages and i’m very careful to keep it appropriate, but it does trend 17-22ish

https://discord.gg/8XPbXR67wH

https://genderwave.carrd.co/

Notes:

if the askbox is open, feel free to send something! discourse will be deleted but if you have a genuine question about my stance on something that is the line between you feeling comfortable or not, please send off-anon. DMs should always be open, so feel free to shoot me a line that way.

finally, i don’t necessarily follow everyone i reblog from so keep that in mind. reblogging from someone doesn’t mean i support everything they’ve said (especially because i probably only took a cursory glance at their blog). please talk to me off anon if there’s a problem! i’m not going to take a random anon message at face value and post it, and if i cannot find evidence myself i’m going to assume it’s not true.

[genderwav]

this is for trans people who can't relate to the dominant narrative of what being trans is: your life is worth talking about. your story is worth telling. if being trans is a small part of you, if coming out is irrelevant, if you didn't always know, whatever the case may be. that's all part of what the transgender community looks like

[kingstylesdaily]

Resources:

abortionfinder.org

abortionfunds.org

lifebeat.org

plannedparenthoodaction.org

[pansyfemme]

[ID: two tweets by Planned Parenthood Action that read as following.

BREAKING: The Supreme Court has taken away our right to abortion and overturned Roe v. Wade, opening the floodgates for states across the country to ban abortion.

The court has failed us all — but this is far from over.

We know what politicians want because it’s already happening: to ban abortion state by state—& eventually a national ban. But, like generations before us, we’ll fight for each other. If you or someone you know needs an abortion, reach out: 1-800-230-Plan & AbortionFinder.org

end ID.]

[genderwav]

im gonna make a pinned post and rename my blog please hold. i really want to use this blog again to be honest so let's try this out

[gay-fae]

hey shout out of recognition and validation to all the queer people who didn’t exhibit many queer behaviors or have queer many experiences when they were young!! shout out to trans women and trans men who didn’t feel bad about or uncomfortable with their AGAB when they were younger and didn’t gravitate toward the “opposite side of things”. shout out to nonbinary and genderfluid ppl who felt content with their AGAB all of their childhood or even teen years. shout out to lesbians who didn’t have any crushes on girls growing up and liked traditionally feminine things and shout out to gay men who didn’t have any crushes on boys growing up and liked traditionally masculine things. shout out to bi and pan and omni people who only had hetero attractions growing up. shout out to aros and aces who thought they experienced crushes or attraction or whatever while growing up and didn’t feel excluded by being surrounded by allo people. shout out to literally any queer people who didn’t “show the signs” growing up because that can make you feel invalidated or worried that you’re faking it and you shouldn’t feel worried about that! When we say that everyone’s journey and experience is different, that includes you!! Happy pride month <3

[genderwav]

i did sort of disappear off the face of the earth but i'm still very active in my discord server (which has been renamed recently and rebranded a bit!).

server link will be in the reblogs along with a link to the rules! those will get more specific but we are supportive and understanding of all good-faith identities.

[genderwav]

here's a carrd with all the rules! if you cannot use carrd for any reason, these are also available in the server (although this is a bit easier to navigate if you can use it!)

gender.wav rules

rules for the genderwave discord server

and here is a link to the server!

https://discord.gg/8XPbXR67wH

[genderwav]

i did sort of disappear off the face of the earth but i'm still very active in my discord server (which has been renamed recently and rebranded a bit!).

server link will be in the reblogs along with a link to the rules! those will get more specific but we are supportive and understanding of all good-faith identities.

[genderwav]

Pronouns don’t always equal gender so I think it’s cool that a cis person is figuring themselves out! Don’t let anyone giving you a hard time get to you you’re valid :)

nothing to add but yeah!

[genderwav]

Hey, so, I’m an autistic cis girl, who never had any issues or confusion with faer gender. But recently I’ve suddenly felt a lot more connected with neopronouns, and a lot more disconnected to she/her. Growing up I’ve always felt a bit… weird?.. when others would call me “she,” but I wasn’t like,, uncomfy with it until recently. Am I still allowed to use neopronouns, even if I’m cis? And is there a limit to how many I can use (in case I come across more that I feel comfy with)?

i'm going to be honest, you would get a lot of different answers from different people. i, however, am in full support of everyone using whatever pronouns fit best. i think literally everyone in the entire world should be free to play with gender/pronouns. Neopronouns are more common among trans people, but there's nothing wrong with enjoying the sound of a different string of letters more than she/her.

practically, people are going to tend to stick to a couple main sets of pronouns when referring to you. however its totally okay to have as many pronouns as you want and just mix it up over time!

[tiptapricot]

Gender is just like yes I wanna be a surfer, yes I want to be a greaser, yes I want to be a cowboy, yes I want the energy of a 70s disco dad, yes I want to be a rockstar, yes I want to be a clown, yes I want to be a young boy in the 80s, yes I want short hair, yes I want long hair, ye—

[tiptapricot]

Reblogging bc this post got derailed by assholes: gender gets to be whatever you want it to be actually! Whatever clicks right for you, whatever feels good and comfortable, embrace that! Express that! Gender is epic and beautiful and weird, complicated for some people and easy for others, but in the end everyone deserves to have fun with it and enjoy it, and literally no one has a right to tell you how to define yourself.

[cozycreaturescorner]

good afternoon specifically to people who are t4t

[virgoesarchive-deactivated20210]

honestly trans people being in love with each other is the most wholesome thing in the universe trans couples deserve everything

[kittyfags]

being t4t is so uniquely intimate and wonderful and theres such a lovely level of just.... understanding each other... theres such a comfort in knowing that ur partner will unconditionally support u in ur transness and ull support them and theres just!! a specific feeling of safety and familiarity and being home and being understood when u date trans people as a trans person!! nothing for me will ever match the sincere level of comfortableness and trust i feel as a trans person when im w other trans people bc i kno they see my body as my own and not as my agab 💕✨

and to make this post as explicitly clear as possible, this INCLUDES trans women, nonbinary ppl and trans ppl in 'hetero' relationships!!

(tr*scum/transm*ds, exclusionists, etc dni!)

[emothes]

Gay Thinking!

WLW : NLN : MLM

Okay To Use, Credit If Repost!

[lesbianb]

nonbinary people in love with each other………..  🥰

[genderwav]

What are the rules to joining the server? I see you have a couple of things in your blogs general dni but I’d just like to know if there are any other other rules (like age or media consumption or something)

to be 100% honest, there’s not a lot in the rules that isn’t already on my blog. it is an intentionally all-ages server (people need to be upfront about their age, though, and nsfw content rules are heavily enforced).

as far as media consumption goes, the server mostly self-moderates. its the kind of community where it is appropriate to share issues you have with a media and its appropriate to ask things to be blacklisted. there are a very few select things that moderators may deem violations of these rules from the server itself: “racism, ableism (including eugenics), any form of lgbt+ phobia, antisemitism, etc. will not be tolerated”. it’s sort of on a case-by-case basis, so if you want to ask about something specific it’s fine to dm me or join the server and ask there

this is the actual server introduction (there are other rules that are specific to channels that don’t have to do with whether you are welcome or not)

this server is for nonbinary people and those who do not belong to a single binary gender to meet eachother! we are accepting of neopronouns, aro/ace-spec inclusive, and non-dysphoric friendly (that means please no transmeds)

racism, ableism (including eugenics), any form of lgbt+ phobia, antisemitism, etc. will not be tolerated.

this isn't a safe spot for any p-dophile/map. if there's a problem we promise we will address it as soon as it comes to our attention

questioning people are welcome, but please be respectful! if you end up not identifying as nonbinary after joining the chat, you are more than welcome to stay in our community.

[genderwav]

hi! Is the discord server supportive/accepting of ppl who use gender micro labels/xenogenders/etc?

yes absolutely!