A universal love language
I realised something today, and it may seem obvious but it stuck to me.
Everyone has different love languages, words of affirmations, physical touch, gift giving, etc…
However, there’s one love language we rarely talk about. This love language is universally desirable, everyone wants it.
It’s simpler than you think..
It is being soft. Softly spoken, soft at confrontations, soft when angry, soft all over. This especially applies in relationships, with your children, with your lover, with your friends.
However, being soft isn’t easy at times. That’s why strong people are soft. Some people think being soft is weak, that it’ll make people take advantage of them. Actually, it’s quite the opposite. Being harsh, being mean, being rough, that takes a toll on you beyond comprehension. That drains you, and then the reciever too. And it doesn’t grant that respect you want.
However, soft strong people are able to set boundaries in a gentle, calm way. A way that demands respect , in silence. Not asking for it, not begging for it and certainly not forcing it.
I realized, that for men especially, being soft towards them is something they value deeply. I always knew that but today, it hit deeper for some reason. You know how men spend their entire day in their heads, worrying, building, focusing. When they come home to a woman, all they want to do is step out of their heads—even if they don’t want to admit.
They want to step into their emotions for once, even if it means arguing. They enjoy being emotional with their partner. However, for it to be clean, you’ll both have to work around the system.
Confront, but softly. Be upset, but softly. Love, but softly. Assert, but softly.
And a gentle reminder, soft may come after having a harsh front. you aren’t birthed soft, you’re birthed through your mother’s pain, the first message you give the universe is your cry. The first lesson you learned is how to detach from your mother—the only source of safety you ever knew. So, no, we won’t always be soft in our nature, but, after so much harshness, the universe may one day grant you the gift of embodying that softness. it granted me that gift today 💗