You can't learn what men are by asking one. You have to work where female objectification is part of the job description to really understand them.
There's a brewery/restaurant place near a baseball stadium, which is near where I live. All the waitresses there used to be sexy as shit when it first opened last year. A guy I know was complaining to me today that the girls aren't as hot there anymore. I told him, duh, the tips probably suck now that a better place opened up with a huge outdoor beer garden area just like 200 feet down the street. My point is that those waitresses know the truth.
But if you really want to see into men's souls u gotta work in the sex industry. It'll take a while to understand it, because guys still hide shit, even from strippers an whores, but we get to see what they are and what they like. what they are is the same shitheads you see in any anonymous internet place like Tumblr. I mean that affectionately, because I like knowing that about them. Not all men, of course, I'm sure there are some honest to God male feminists, but, we now know Aziz Ansari likes to fishhook on the first date, and he's pretty woke on feminism issues. I doubt I've ever met a man who didn't keep down some shit he wouldn't confess to his girl, or even to his guy friends.
The thing is that eventully deep inside I think almost every man has some primal shit going on. I was going to say sick shit but that's wrong. Your rape fantasies aren't wrong or sick. Your race based degradation fantasies aren't wrong. Your humiliation fantasies are not wrong. Neither are you submissive fantasies. Nothing wrong with wanting a dildo violently shoved in your hairy ass while a girl tells you to clean your room and writes down ur ATM pin.
Its wrong to rape someone, I'll be offended if u call me a racist slur, but to think that shit? Tbh by now I think that's pretty normal...