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Happy #TransDayofVisibility from an early Hollywood trans icon ;)
Thank you for the outpouring of love and kindness from everyone these last couple of weeks, and especially for using my real name and she/her pronouns. It really does make a difference in my life. Thank you 💚🦕
Hey trans people I just want to remind you that your experience is your own and there is no wrong way to describe it.
If you feel like you were "born in the wrong body", that's fine.
If you feel like you "used to be X gender but now you're Y gender", that's fine.
If you feel like you "were an X gender who chose to be a Y gender", that's fine.
If you feel like you've "always been Y gender", that's fine.
If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel a sense of connection or recognition, that's fine.
If you look at things with your deadname on or pre-transition photos and feel like it's a completely different person, that's fine.
If you feel like you "killed the X gender you used to be", that's fine.
If you feel like "the X gender you used to be is still here but they're Y gender now", that's fine
Personally, I like to say that the little girl is still around, she just lets me do the talking now.
It's your experience and you can describe it however you choose.
official anti terf post
I've said this before but like. As a young butch who had the good fortune of being raised around older butch lesbians I will forever be dumbfounded that the popular perception most people have of butches is apparently "skinny 20-something with short hair and biceps." I mean don't get me wrong, I partially fit that stereotype myself. But I have never considered that to be the norm. All of the butch lesbians I grew up around were in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and built like a fucking freight train. And I don't just mean they had aesthetically sculpted muscles. True muscle strength requires body fat to support it (think bodybuilder vs strongman) and the lesbian community has historically celebrated the things that straight society finds "unattractive" about women's bodies anyways. The pinnacle of butchness has always specifically included fat mascs in my opinion, and it boggles my mind that when a lot of people think of the word "butch" they're thinking of like, Ruby Rose in OITNB and not a 40 year old lesbian with a dad bod who could carry all three of her kids at once if she felt like it
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Yeah like, RR would more accurately be dubbed a Baby Dyke back in my day (and I'm really not all THAT old geez), while who we considered to be Butch women were synonymous with the label Bull Dyke. They tended to be larger women, as OP describes.
Example wise, think Big Boo from OITNB, Jo De Luca from A League of Their Own, and Bertie from A League of Their Own (while the character was Trans rather than Butch their aesthetic is very similar to that of a lot of Butch Women).
Butch and Baby Dyke is a similar dichotomy to that of Bear and Cub.
And while I don’t think there's anything wrong with labels evolving to be more inclusive, I think it's really important to remember, and celebrate, the folks who that label was originally meant for.
I blame the media for not including more Butch characters! Fucking cowards.
And yes, there's always more nuance to this sort of stuff, but this is a general Intro to Butch 101
Because because because BECAUSE !!
ALOK VAID-MENON Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness 1x03 (2022)
Alok’s book report of The Biopolitics of Feeling: Race, Sex, and Science in the Nineteenth Century by Dr. Kyla Schuller
i feel so seen!!
(twitter thread)
Holy shit, this!
I would say I am a cis guy, yes, but I really don’t care. I could see myself being a girl aswell (heck I prefer to play feminine characters in video games that allow me to chose), but not in a way would I consider myself trans. Like, I would be fine with any. Obviously I don’t have the experience of being trans, but there is no dysphoria for me. There are things I don’t like about myself, but I feel like that would be the case in any way.
Gender is such a weird concept to me.
This is so true!
I'm a cis woman, but only by default. My assigned gender at birth is the least amount of gender it's possible for me to perform since it just happens passively while I ignore it, so that's the box I tick when asked, but if nobody ever asked about my gender again I wouldn't even notice. If others were to describe or define my gender, they'd probably call me agender or nonbinary, but identifying with/expressing those labels would require me to actively examine and evaluate my gender, which is way too much work for something I couldn't care less about.
My sexual orientation is very firmly asexual, but my gender is like when you backspace halfway through an online quiz because there are too many questions and you got bored.
A snake story, based on an experience I had while I was in Florida.
joan didion, “on self-respect”
image text: It is the phenomenon sometimes called alienation from self. In its advanced stages, we no longer answer the telephone, because someone might want something; that we could say no without drowning in self-reproach is an idea alien to this game. Every encounter demands too much, tears the nerves, drains the will, and the spectre of something as small as an unanswered letter arouses such disproportionate guilt that one’s sanity becomes an object of speculation among one’s acquaintances. To assign unanswered letters their proper weight, to free us from the expectation of others, to give us back to ourselves - there lies the great, the singular power power of self-respect. Without it, one eventually discovers the final turn of the screw: one runs away to find oneself, and finds no one at home. end text.
hi! do you have any recs for books that talk about exploring gender indepth and in a unconventional way? preferably with a nonbinary/gnc main characters and in adult literary fiction, but I'm not too picky on genre. sorry if this is too specific, and thanks so much!
Endpapers by Jennifer Savran Kelly is exactly what you're looking for and comes out in just a few weeks. (Handy preorder link: https://bookshop.org/a/2228/9781643751849) I think Vanishing Monuments by John Elizabeth Stintzi and Paul Takes the Form of a Normal Girl by Andrea Lawlor would be great for this as well.
I will say that if you're up for a little YA (or if someone else is reading this and wants the same thing but in YA), I will always recommend Sasha Masha by Agnes Borinsky and Man O'War by Cory McCarthy.
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oh dorianne laux we're really in it now
Here’s a little reminder to trans people / people questioning their gender who are unlearning people pleasing
Ask yourself this: is what I tell people about my gender actually how I feel or am I just people pleasing out of fear of being judged?
I realized a lot of how I based my gender identity early on was based around what would make sense to other people and what would be easier for them to respect, but that didn’t help me at all in figuring out what I actually want or what my gender actually is. In figuring out your gender, it is crucial you don’t let other people define that for you. Think for yourself in full honesty and be kind to yourself. Also be patient because some things might take a while to understand, but you will get it eventually I promise
If you’re not already using it, transreads.org is an awesome resource for our community!
spotify is selling audiobooks now…..once again tapping the sign:
dont give them your money when you could be supporting your local library!
Most people aren't aware of the extent of free stuff -- including on-demand streaming services -- that public libraries now offer! Here's a list of digital media services that are FREE to most public library users in the U.S.:
Overdrive/Libby/RBDigital - Audiobooks; e-books; magazines; comic books
Axis360 - Audiobooks; e-books
Kanopy - Videos (including movies, TV shows, documentaries, et al.)
Hoopla - Audiobooks; e-books; music; comic books; videos (including movies, TV shows, documentaries, et al.)
Flipster - Magazines
EBSCO - E-books
TumbleBook Library - Audiobooks; e-books (for students grades K through 6)
(These are the ones I'm familiar with, but please add more if you know of any others!)
Many libraries also have programs that allow you to use your library card to access some premium streaming services for a certain number of days/views per month.
This is in addition to the physical copies of books, audiobooks, and DVDs you can check out from your local library! And even if your local library system doesn't have something you want, you can often get it from another library's system through interlibrary loan!
Use libraries! They're great! They're free!
listen. aging into your thirties rocks. yes your joints get a little creaky. yes you can’t sleep in a pretzel on the floor anymore after a concert or a convention. and you lose some friends. but the thing is that you sort out who your real friends are and you sort out who you really are. and you get to see your friends settling into careers they like, and adopt new dogs and cats, and you find a job you can stand, and get really good at arts and crafts, and maybe that book you loved as a kid gets a movie deal and it doesn’t suck, and you learn to like new food and bake your own bread, and you realize that the great portfolio of self harm scars you all used to curate are going white with age and not updated, and half your friends are a different gender now and so much happier and maybe you are too, and you know who you are, and that it’s a journey and not a revelation. it’s a direction you’re headed, and you’re enjoying the trip.
reaching your 30′s rocks. and i’m hearing good things about what comes next, too.
i am looking into your eyes, i am holding your hand. i absolutely promise.
if you can just live long enough, your soul will build your body into a home. you will live there and you will find a way to be at peace. it’s worth the time and it’s worth the work. i promise.
it’s not all sunshine and roses but it’s soup and sunsets and cats and not hurting yourself so much it’s enough
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