stuff that pisses me off

self victimizing loser (it/its)

[godsconsumeyou]

yo trans men can be lesbians if they want and trans women can be gay men if they want too im really sick of seeing arguments

[godsconsumeyou]

if y'all can pretend to fuck your sister and be dogs then a trans man can be a lesbian

[godsconsumeyou]

yo trans men can be lesbians if they want and trans women can be gay men if they want too im really sick of seeing arguments

[tormented-collective]

Incels when a mentally ill woman isn't a cute "femcel" with black clothes who will call them daddy for them to jerk off to and is just a mentally ill woman:

[genderkoolaid]

hey everyone. if you haven't seen it, ansel @transfaguette posted a queued post on his blog, stating that he is likely deceased now after taking his own life. there is a chance he is alive and simply hasn't been able to access his blog, but he stated he was confident in his means, and that his attempt would've been about a week ago. if he is alive, i hope he sees this and knows how much he means to me and many others.

i am deeply saddened by the loss of him to our community. i wish i had been able to know him better personally. i admired him a great deal. i am thankful he was here. i am glad we were both around on this earth for enough time to know each other. he made the world a richer and better place by having been here at all. i can't thank him enough.

suicide is an immensely personal and final choice. he was unhoused, disabled, and without options for a life that felt meaningfully survivable. it was his right to choose to end his life, he expressed this himself. as painful a choice as that choice is, i am glad he felt able to make it with an appreciation for life and a genuine belief in our ability to fight for a world where disabled trans people never have to make this decision out of desperation again. i am glad he went with a sense of peace and love for himself and the world.

His final words on his last post are: "Keep fighting comrades, and never lose your compassion for yourself and others."

if anyone needs it, Trans Lifeline is a suicide support hotline for trans people which will not call 911 on you without consent, and Project LETS has a collection of non-carceral resources. take care of your grief however it needs, take care of yourselves, and each other. he is gone but not forgotten.

[genderkoolaid]

its been about a month.

i feel like its important to share some of ansel's posts from April and May, to provide context in his own words:

i'm sharing this because i myself am a disabled trans person. i have family support, but have also dealt with neglect, being blamed for being a "moocher," and struggling to access official resources and do things the "right way." i've feared how little the people in my life seem to understand how precarious everything feels for me being disabled and trans. how easily i could end up homeless and unemployable. every time i saw him posting about this i thought, that could be me.

please think about disabled trans people. please care about us. please fight for us.

happy pride, ansel.

[genderkoolaid]

Update: Ansel has been confirmed deceased, having been found in Chittenango Falls State Park on July 2.

I really loved this reblog by @selenethevampirequeen and how she commemorates him. He truly left an impact on so many people and will be profoundly missed by all of us. I wish everyone affected by his death the best. Send some kind words to his sister.

[riseofthecommonwoodpile]

i don’t think i’m exaggerating when i say that the average height for women in the US would increase by at least an inch if teen girls were allowed to eat as much as teen boys are

[riseofthecommonwoodpile]

and not to bring my own clocky bitch ass into this but if cis women weren’t so consistently starved their entire lives you’d see a lot more cis women with the kind of bodies that we currently associate closely with trans women. the amount that the standards of feminine presentation are culturally defined by malnutrition is crazy

[godsconsumeyou]

thinking about how my wife called on a friday, and immediately got a vasectomy appointment for a tuesday. 10 minute operation. thinking about how they didn't even pressure her out of the operation or ask her if this is what she really wanted, no clearance from medical personnel needed, no doctors notes or referrals. thinking about how someone with a uterus doing the same exact thing has to jump through a million hoops to prove they don't want kids whether it be total hysto or just getting tubes tied. thinking about how people with uteruses must prove WHY they 'need' the procedure/don't want children and may be denied care unless they already have 2/ have 'tried' before. thinking about how people with uterus' bodies are owned by a hypothetical man that would be soooo disappointed if they were sterilized.

[trans-girl-nausicaa]

We need to standardize clothing sizes. This is fucking stupid. Pass a federal law or something. I’m sick of this shit.

[warcrimesimulator]

[riseofthecommonwoodpile]

i don’t think i’m exaggerating when i say that the average height for women in the US would increase by at least an inch if teen girls were allowed to eat as much as teen boys are

[riseofthecommonwoodpile]

and not to bring my own clocky bitch ass into this but if cis women weren’t so consistently starved their entire lives you’d see a lot more cis women with the kind of bodies that we currently associate closely with trans women. the amount that the standards of feminine presentation are culturally defined by malnutrition is crazy

[godsconsumeyou]

y'all i don't think referring to trans women generally as 'baeddels' is a good thing at all actually

[redhairandpronouns]

yall are so fucking weird about gnc people. a woman wears a suit and she's "conforming to the patriarchy". a man wears a skirt and he's Secretly A Trans Egg. have you considered It's Fabric

[vinterfeminism]

You would not believe the things I have heard as a transfem butch.

[dumbdogdiscourse]

I once said something along the lines of "why does everyone assume that every gnc cis man is an egg" and was harassed for it and sarcastically told that obviously the treatment of cis men should be our biggest concern and that I didn't know anything about egg culture (I do). You do realize that gnc people are queer too, right? You realize I can concern myself with "smaller" problems, because I love gnc people and am concerned about their well-being? You realize that telling people they must be trans because of their presentation is just as bad as telling someone must be cis for the same reasons?

I'm never going to shut up about how shitty the queer community treats gender non-conforming people, especially gender non-conforming men.

[redhairandpronouns]

also the treatment of gnc cis men tells me a lot about how you'd treat gnc trans men. like, you think that if a man likes feminine clothing he's secretly a woman? do you know how many people have told me i'm not "actually trans" because i like feminine clothing? stop reinforcing gender norms i am Begging

[redstonedust]

some people like to get mad at disability benefits because they think its unfair people who dont work get a payout from the government while they have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week. but if you tell them "yeah that sucks i think you should also get a universal allowance and not have to work 50 hours at the human suffering factory every week" thats apparently the wrong answer.

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

"But can you feel it?" Post-phalloplasty sensation explained.

By @ kashcolegrove, Kai Asher Colegrove (he/him).

[clonedroids]

Because I feel like kids of color don’t hear it enough: domestic abuse is not a part of your culture. 

A lot of us were raised with the idea that “its normal for wives/children to get hit! it helps them learn– only white folk don’t get beaten when they misbehave”. That’s not true, white people aren’t the only ones who deserve a safe and abuse free environment. Black and brown people can and do have loving families. 

If you’re in a situation where you are enduring abuse and people use your culture to justify it, I want you to know that what they’re telling you are lies.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

as someone who studies this: statistically speaking, child abuse (including “spanking”, because all forms of hitting children are abusive) is pretty much equally prevalent in households of all racial, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. so yeah, don’t let people use the “culture” excuse on you, but also, don’t believe others are experiencing it less just because it’s less normalized in their culture to talk about it. we all gotta work together to fix this shit.

[northstareclipse]

There's a recurring online tendency to aestheticize consensus itself. The imagined future village is full of emotionally compatible people who enjoy communal gardening, conflict resolution circles, acoustic folk music, mutual aid potlucks, and repairing bicycles together at sunset. Which is nice for the people who genuinely enjoy that lifestyle. But plenty of humans are solitary, prickly, obsessive, urban, nocturnal, sensory-seeking, technologically attached, contrarian, novelty-seeking, private, or just plain difficult. Those people do not evaporate after the revolution. They do not get Left Behind while you are Raptured into the Utopia. They become your neighbors.

[penumbralwoods]

[wiltking]

so you're telling me the fifa world cup is all men? its all men's teams? and so is the superbowl? and all the sports teams that states are known for and make copious amounts of merch for are also men's teams? and only 5 women have ever entered formula one since its inception in 1950 and only two of them were able to compete? and this is normal? its acceptable?