For what it's worth, I'd like to make up for failing to mention what I actually referee to: the "including your brother" line. Stefan had him say it. Damon confirmed. But throughout their human and vampire life, I just don't find this to be true. Especially rewatching the first 4 seasons as I currently am. When it comes to Stefan, he knows exactly how to do the right thing, and he does it even if most of the time it goes against him getting Elena.Writers need 2stop denying how much he loves Stef
Well, Stefan made him admit that Damon doesn’t do the right thing not even for Stefan because Stefan is hurt. Just talking about the present situation, Stefan has every right to be mad. I’m not talking about the past, I’m talking about the current situation.
Stefan took the mark for Damon, he sacrificied everything for him, he was on the run for years and all he asked Damon was not to dessicate. He asked him to stay and Damon didn’t. I can only imagine how Stefan must have felt in that moment. Seeing his brother, his only family, not choosing him at all.
Now if we’re talking about the past, I think we should do a different kind of speech. Because in the past seasons and even in the missing years between 1864 and 2009 I think we saw both brothers at fault. We saw them both caring or doing something wrong. I know that Damon appears as the “bad one” or the one who doesn’t care. But if you think about it, it’s always Damon that does speak low of himself. Even when Stefan criticizes Damon is always from a place of being hurt (and then he forgives him and still loves him).
I don’t necessary think the writers dimish how much Damon loves Stefan (otherwise we wouldn’t get the stories of how he defended Stefan when they were children, or how in the 40s he did the right thing for his brother). But this time he was really really selfish.
Between 1864 and 2009 they were at the odds. They weren’t in a good place at all. Most of the times they crossed path it ended up being a tragedy. And despite resenting each other, of course they still loved each other but it was far too complicated. Damon was hellbent on pretending not to care.
But now things are different. They are closer, much closer than they have been in more than 150 years. They are in a better place. There’s no preteding, there’s no “eternity of misery”. They protect each other and they are a team more than ever. So when Stefan is ready to do anything for Damon only to end up being left alone… it’s unfair.
Saying that Damon is uncaring isn’t true. Saying that he’s uncapable to do the right thing is also untrue. He struggles with being good because most of the times he doesn’t believe in his own goodness so doing the right thing isn’t his first instinct. Sometimes he says harsh things about himself. But even so, even if some words are hard and some dialogues make him appear “bad” I think there’s a reason if the audience (or at least part of it) knows that isn’t true. It’s because we saw during the years that he isn’t just selfish. We saw it in his actions, in protecting people, in some stories of the past. All that things exist.
But I think this one time he really was wrong with Stefan. He made a mistake. He can still fix it. He is fixing it. But it’s time for him not to do thing kind of mistakes. Not this big. Abandoning Stefan was hard to watch, I was even hurt myself seeing Damon doing that. As much as I understand he’s in a miserable place (which hurts me as well seeing him like that), watching him leaving Stefan was incredibly sad for me.
But Damon is good at fixing mistakes. So I know he will do better because he is better than that. He just needs to realize it.
