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merry christmas to the people who have to pretend to be someone they’re not for their families, who don’t have family to celebrate with, who have bad past experiences with the holiday, who are having a rough year and just want to reach the end of it, who couldn’t afford gifts this year and feel guilt over it. merry christmas to everyone but especially those of you who are feeling down.

holdmyhopeinyourhands

Okay, sending this question into the ether hoping it reaches its intended audience aka the non f1 fans. Here we go:

From the little you've come across about the f1 fandom on tumblr, what do you think of us?

bauliya

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

darkshrimpemotions

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

tzikeh

Here have a newspaper comic from 1993

m0on-boys

"Then why do i still feel guilty?" Because ur Catholic matt.....that's literally it ur just too fuckin Catholic

#im not even THAT catholic and i feel guilty akll the time #metts on a whole other level

mauxanhduong

okay wait. are u all a “i have one huge playlist that gets shuffled” kind of person or a “i have 72340 different playlists, each for an extremely specific mood” kind of person

gray-or-grey

one for every month babey

mattmurdeaux

Matt Murdock always understands the slut assignment!

pastafossa

I need to know 😭 will Elektra be another problem or we won't suffer as much? because— we've seen how he gets when Elektra is involved,,,,,

So, without spoiling too much, Elektra will cause drama but not the same type of drama really as is canon, so I won't put everyone through the same kind of suffering! Some factors that change things up: -Jane/Reader basically living in the apartment now. -Matt being so solidly, wildly, madly and wholly in love with you. This is not a, 'we just started dating' thing, this is him feeling a, I have loved you yesterday and I love you today and I will love you for a thousand thousand more kind of love. Trying to drive a wedge between that will be a lot more difficult. -Reader/Jane also knows about the sheer weirdness and wild shit that goes down around Matt, since you know he's Daredevil. Oh, crazy old jackass dude is here along with Matt's ex recovering from being poisoned by ninjas? Not that unbelievable also elektra's on the couch and not the bed because TRT matt respects boundaries and now we have Guard Hound looking to protect Matt from Stick. -We will still have some drama, just because that's what tends to follow Elektra. But we'll be focusing more on Matt not knowing how to say no to someone trying to manipulate him into helping, regardless of whether the request is toxic or not, regardless of whether they don't actually need his help. The major plot of Matt's arc in S2 is trying to be everything for everyone, refusing to ask for help, and then failing miserably, and I think we can explore that drama in a new way! -There will also be jealousy because this would obviously be a sore spot (someone who's lost a lot does not generally do well with someone trying to Take The Special Thing) but in a, 'I know you won't leave me bUT I STILL WANT TO BITE AND MARK MY TERRITORY' and Matt definitely not vibrating at the intensity required to shatter glass at the thought of you biting him and marking him up before maybe letting him do that to you in return.

so that's where we're going, pretty much!

gray-or-grey

the RELIEF i just felt

tallsaint-deactivated20221218

tomorrow when the employees find this freak of nature, they will take photos of him and call animal control. but tonight he is alive in the chicago quiznos by the soda cooler and when he looks up at the counter, there are twice as many sandwiches as usual.

assdare

Soon™

assdare

realshinjiikari

Reblogging this a year in advance

is-destiel-canon-yet

Is Destiel Canon Yet ?

11/5/2020: Yes.

thebossbaby-official

Can you explain that post about the Belle doll collections I don't get it

oak23

seeing people’s Disney’s Belle doll collections nowadays

afloweroutofstone

COVID-19 was not “created” by anyone, but the conspiracies that China made it in a lab are funny when you remember that the count of non-consensual biomedical expermiments on US citizens by the Chinese government in history is zero, while the count of non-consensual biomedical experiments on US citizens by the US government is well into the double digits