You see but you do not observe

ナオミ | INTJ | She/Her/Hers

[popokko-deactivated20210315]

it could be worse. you could be 5′1″. 

[plutothewitch]

september will be kind. september will be magical. september will bring the missing energy. september will be working towards our goals and self. september will be a month full of growth.

[overblush]

i don know shit yall!!!! im jus out here 

[ineffablescene]

relatable

[kristina100000]

bitches see a man cook his own meal and go he is emotionally intelligent...

[danceintheskies]

strawberry milk don’t taste like strawberry but it sure as hell tastes like pink

[blexinthecity]

tea

[danceintheskies]

girl it’s milk

[federalbureauofislam]

me about myself: interesting concept but poor execution!

[canolaaoil]

so march lasted 20 years but april is going to be 3 days

[canolaaoil]

hey. its april 23rd. did u even notice? no? me either

[hostagetakerandhisgirlfriend]

roan aesthetic poster for @jackryyan

[personsonable-deactivated201908]

me holding a gun to a mushroom: tell me the name of god you fungal piece of shit

mushroom: can you feel your heart burning? can you feel the struggle within? the fear within me is beyond anything your soul can make. you cannot kill me in a way that matters

me cocking the gun, tears streaming down my face: I’M NOT FUCKING SCARED OF YOU

[miaislying]

Hey OP? What the FUCK does this mean?

[personsonable-deactivated201908]

decay exists as an extant form of life

[miaislying]

That’s a terrifying answer, have a nice day

[piscescowgirl]

my only two moods ever are tenderness and hysteria

[witcheshaven]

I am a woman seeking:

⚪️ Men

⚪️ Women

🔘 A moss-covered cottage deep in the forest surrounded by fae folk and botanical gardens

[hedgehog-moss]

If you genuinely enjoy being alone, do you ever wonder if it is an inherent part of your character or if it stems from feeling inescapably lonely in the first place until you taught yourself to enjoy the peace and happiness one can find in solitude? what if the reason you now prefer & choose solitude at every turn is because you were a very lonely child, or teenager, not by your own choice, and that’s how you learnt to thrive and grow, so you no longer know if you can do that around people? There might also be an element of personal pride, an unconscious “you can’t fire me I quit” point when your brain decided to switch your feelings about solitude from distress to relief. I often find myself defending my love of being alone, to people who worry that I can’t possibly be happy to live in an isolated house in the woods; I insist that I do! I really do specifically enjoy the isolated factor and chose to live here because of it, but then I wonder how to differentiate an ingrained love of solitude from an acquired ability to thrive off unchosen loneliness, to learn from it and be nourished by it; to what extent it might be a form of contentment built on a bedrock of resignation.

[kendallroyss]

why would you say something

[fleetnaturals-deactivated202110]

if i say i’m a leftist don’t ask me what branch of leftism do i follow or what old white male revolutionary scholars i have read just know that i want everyone to eat food every day and i’m vibing

[rainbowkarolina]

[disneysuniverse]

Frozen II (2019) dir. Jennifer Lee & Chris Buck

[untitled54184]

No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.

It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.

Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.

[naamahdarling]

I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.

Flawless positivity.

[naamahdarling]

Listen.

I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.

This applies to your relationship with yourself.

If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.

You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.

All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.

So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.

I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.