GemmaGems💛

26. Christ Follower. Cuddle Addict. Music Lover. Professional Fangirl.

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“A lover doesn’t discourage your growth. A lover says, ‘I see who you are today, I cannot wait to see who you become tomorrow.’”

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Hi! Saw you guys got Wildest Dreams trending on tiktok, thought you should have my version 😘😘😘😘

http://taylor.lnk.to/wildestdreamsTV

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love triangles can’t exist without at least 1 lgbt person. cishets just don’t know how shapes work

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I’ve created this helpful info graphic

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Most of the characters that people call a love triangle is really just a love corner. And the woman is usually backed into it.

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Reblogging for the last comment

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“I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.”

— Joshua Graham

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girls after saying something smart: So yeah

[skybluelipgloss]

Girls after giving a concise and completely sensible thought on the matter, with well thought out arguments:

... If that makes sense?

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Girls after expressing a personal opinion: if you think that's okay haha maybe

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Girls saying something they know to be absolutely correct and spent years studying: if I remember correctly

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Alternatives for each of these to practice:

instead of: “so yeah” -- silence or “do you have any questions?”

instead of: “if that makes sense?” -- “does that make sense or can i clarify further?” or “do you have any questions I can help answer?” 

instead of: “if you think that’s okay haha maybe” -- “that is my recommendation/opinion, though I am open to further discussion” or “Does anybody have reservations about this course of action/decision?”

instead of: “if i remember correctly” -- “to my understanding” or “I have found, through xyz”

the goal of these alternatives is not to shut down dissent, but to change the level of confidence and authority you give yourself in discussions. 

the original statements essentially position your opinions and knowledge as by default “probably incorrect” and seeking confirmation. 

the updated statements position your opinions and knowledge as being confirmed by you considering the information you have available-- others can voice their concerns and disconfirm, but this requires them to logically explain with facts/evidence why they disagree with you. 

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Do you want to go to the park and sit on the swings yes or no

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cardigan // willow

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