A Guiding Hand

Control starts in the mind Structure keeps it steady Consistency does the rest Asks & DMs open

[guidinghanduk]

50s | UK | Dominant (He/Him)

Calling me “Sir” is earned

Focus:

People who want to learn and understand themselves better

Those new to dynamics and exploring safely

Online and distance connections

Discussion around structure, discipline and D/s frameworks

Supporting growth within existing dynamics

Structure, consistency and attention are my language.

Tasks, routine, and accountability matter - even at a distance.

I’m interested in how people think, respond and grow over time.

I pay attention to patterns.

Most people don’t realise how predictable they are.

Guidance isn’t about pressure.

It’s about understanding what works for the person in front of you.

Not everything needs intensity.

But when it’s there, it’s built on trust, communication and consent.

Distance doesn’t prevent discipline or learning.

It just requires clarity and consistency.

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[softcorekissing]

I love having my tits treated like this and saying thank you, thank you for making it hurt, use my tits to punish me, thank you

[guidinghanduk]

Bound and pulled hard. Lovely

[guidinghanduk]

One of the questions I was asked recently was simple.

"How do I know what I like?"

The honest answer is that most people don't.

At least not at the start.

People often think they need a list of interests, limits and fantasies before they can explore. In reality, most of that is discovered through curiosity, fantasising, reflection and experience.

Pay attention to your fantasies.

Not because they are instructions, but because they are clues.

What themes keep appearing?

Is it serving someone?

Being looked after?

Giving up control or responsibility?

Feeling desired?

Structure?

Attention?

Challenge?

Sometimes what attracts us isn't the activity itself. It's how it makes us feel.

You also don't have to decide everything at once.

Try things slowly.

Read

Ask questions

Observe your reactions

Afterwards, ask yourself:

Did I enjoy that?

Did I feel comfortable?

Would I want to explore it again?

Remember that "I'm not sure" is a perfectly valid answer. You are discovering.

Exploration isn't a test you pass.

It's a process of getting to know yourself a little better.

Most people discover far more by paying attention to their reactions than by trying to predict them in advance.

[guidinghanduk]

I love you. You are my favourite dom blog, everyone else just seems misogynistic and fucked up.

Thank you for creating a good space!

Oh wow, thank you. That's very kind.

There are a lot of extremes here on tumblr. With plenty leaning into the mysoginist kink, though seemingly more than just a kink lately.

I just try and give some general guidance & experience to my small audience.

Thank you for being part of it.

[thewolfatethesheep]

Friends let friends bruise their butts

[guidinghanduk]

Such a pretty galaxy of colours

[guidinghanduk]

It’s going to be very hot this weekend ☀️

So this is your reminder to be a good girl and take care of yourself properly.

Drink your water

Eat something decent

Don’t sit overheating in a dark room scrolling for hours

Open a window

Get some fresh air

Slow down for a bit

You’ll feel better for it, even if you pretend otherwise at first.

Sometimes the most obedient thing you can do is look after yourself before you’re told twice.

[guidinghanduk]

Older Dom perspective

The weather changes and people change with it.

More sunlight.

More energy.

Less hiding indoors with your thoughts spiralling at 2am.

Some times we genuinely need:

water

fresh air

a slower pace

to stop living entirely inside your own head.

Having just done this myself, it helps.

Go outside for a bit.

Walk properly

Lift your head up

Feel the sun on your skin for a few minutes

Then come back and tell me if the world feels quite as heavy as it did before.

Sometimes the most effective form of care is much simpler than people expect.

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[ankitameee]

meeeeee

[guidinghanduk]

There's a lot going on here, and I'm here for all of it!

The fingers in her mouth, drooling so much, a quick slap and then squeezing her tits.

Overload, overstimulated

[goodgirl-for-you-deactivated202]

I really need daddy to bend me over and spank me.

[messages-from-subspace]

it's not proper technique, unless there's jiggle...

[guidinghanduk]

I hope that's just a warm up.. 😈

Building to harder spanks and some marks so she remembers

[guidinghanduk]

Older Dom perspective

People sometimes underestimate self care tasks because they seem too simple.

Drink water

Eat something

Tidy your space

Get some rest

Step outside for a few minutes

None of that is exciting.

But when someone is overwhelmed, anxious, or drifting, those small things matter more than people realise.

That’s also where accountability can help.

Not because a sub “can’t” do those things alone, but because structure and check-ins make it easier to stay consistent when your own head is fighting you.

Sometimes hearing:

“Go do that properly and report back”

is enough to interrupt the spiral and create momentum again.

Small tasks.

Steady follow-through.

That’s how people start feeling more grounded again.

[unconventionaldom]

No daddy, no!!!

[guidinghanduk]

Using the belt can be very effective for marks and correction.

[middleagedmisogynistisback]

Dopamine

Even mean old men who dominate and abuse younger women enjoy the dopamine rush when a younger messed up slut starts to follow them. I appreciate you all.

[guidinghanduk]

Everyone loves dopamine!

[bunnydoll04]

all drooly after choking on you 💕

throne in pinned <3 ~ comments/reblogs welcome!

minors and ageless blogs dni

[guidinghanduk]

A messy, drooly girl is always a welcome sight.

[guidinghanduk]

Would u like to give me task pretty please? Im trying to be a good girl

Of course anon.

Pause what you're doing.

Sit up properly

Shoulders back

Feet flat

Steady conscious breathing

Hold that pose for 2 minutes. Concentrate on your breathing in and out.

Then carry on with your day

[guidinghanduk]

Uhm Hi!

I think I am a bad girl, I dont know anything about myself, im just wet, horny and needy mess. I hope You would like to help me with my problem

Well it sounds like you're in the perfect place. Tumblr can help feed that horny brain and expand your horizons as a needy slut.

[guidinghanduk]

Good evening,

Just stumbled on your blog and I was wondering if you like training mutts to be good boys for you?

Hello and thanks for the ask.

It's not something I do sorry, but hopefully someone will be able to help you be a good boy

[guidinghanduk]

Older Dom perspective:

There will be days where a sub doesn’t feel good about themselves.

Low energy.

Self-conscious.

Not wanting to be seen or do anything at all.

That happens.

In those moments, the instinct is usually to withdraw.

A good dynamic doesn’t force that away.

It adjusts.

Smaller tasks.

Simpler expectations.

A clear check-in.

Something manageable that brings you back into yourself.

Not to push you past your limits.

But to stop the spiral and keep you connected.

Obedience, when it’s chosen, creates momentum.

And over time, it teaches you that discomfort doesn’t have to control you.