.How to be friends with someone who has BPD, a quick guide by someone who has BPD
If you don’t plan on talking to us regularly for the next few days or so because of family stuff, or you’re to busy, please let us know or we’ll think that you hate us.
Actually even if we’re in the middle of a conversation and you have to get up to go get dinner, or even go to the bathroom for like 3 minutes, also let us know or we’ll probably think that you hate us
If you’re not equipped to deal with our mental illness because you are in a bad place or its triggering, please tell us instead of ignoring us
If we’re having a borderline rage, please know that if we say anything or insensitive or cruel, i promise you that we don’t actually mean it. Even if we say that we mean it in the moment, I swear on my life that it isn’t what we think of you
Emphasize attachment. Make it clear that you care about us or our brains will say that you hate us
If we ask you to tell us that you don’t hate us, or that you aren’t mad at us, please don’t get upset. It’s not a reflection of you. Our mental illness is constantly telling us that you’ll leave us, or see us as burdens, so please don’t be upset when we ask you
If you’re making plans/are doing something without us, please try and not to let us know. We’re constantly looking for reasons that people hate us, and want to abandon us
