“Unlike using a strap-on or dildo toy, my hand can feel every motion. It’s incredibly intimate and really sexy. If the chemistry and connection with my partner is strong, can literally come from penetrating someone with my hand!” - Jiz Lee on International Fisting Day
What comes to mind when you think of a fist? Do you think violence? Do you think of solidarity? Do you think of the letter E in sign language? For many people, the sight of a fist makes them a bit horny making them think of some of the most powerful orgasms and intense connections they’ve ever had.
Yet at the same time fisting has a bad reputation. It’s seen as extreme, possibly dangerous, even illegal in some areas. That’s just not right, as anyone who’s watched PassionateU’s fisting videos can attest. Luckily, international award-winning porn stars Jiz Lee and Courtney Trouble have taken matters into their own hands and created a day to not only celebrate but also increase the awareness of just how great fisting can be.
Here’s five reasons that you should either celebrate fisting or at least explore it a bit more:
1. FISTING IS EGALITARIAN. Some people fist vaginas. Some people fist asses. For some it’s prostate stimulation, for others it is fantastic stimulation of their g-spot or a-spot. As long as you have a hand that fits and a body opening that consents, you can participate in fisting.
2. FISTING IS SENSATIONAL. Some of the most sensitive nerve endings on the body are located around the vaginal opening and the anus; meanwhile, the hands are obviously sensitive. This means that there can be an amazing connection during fisting, with both the fister and the fistee receiving amazing sensations and feedback from their partner.
3. FISTING IS EASY TO BE SAFER. All you need to practice safer sex when fisting is a glove (and lube, of course, but that should be obvious; if it’s not, you really should watch some of the fisting videos on PassionateU). No worries about the size of condoms, dental dams, and it’s really easy to peel off the glove after and dispose of it quickly and easily.
4. FISTING IS ADAPTABLE. Just listen to what Jiz Lee has to say: “I’ve held the hand, fingers locked, with a lover while the two of us have fisted a friend. I’ve also had both my fists inside two different lovers at the same time, while they kissed intensely. I’ve 69′ed with fisting, and I’ve even fisted myself!” While fisting can be satisfying in and of itself, it also lends itself to many other enjoyable sexual activities. Fellatio and fisting? Nipple play and fisting? Cunnilingus and fisting? Whatever your favorite sex technique is, it’s a good bet that you can enjoy fisting in conjunction with it!
5. FISTING IS SUPPORTING DIVERSITY. Anyone - heterosexual, queer, gay, whatever the orientation - can enjoy fisting in some form. But the fact is that for some it is their primary expression of sexuality. Why should such a common and meaningful act have the reputation of being some kind of scary extreme? By engaging in fisting and (at the very least) talking about it, you’re helping our culture more mature sexually and enabling people to be more accepting of all expressions of love between consenting adults.
Queery Bradshaw notes the importance of celebrating a fisting with its own day. “We need to talk about how healthy it is so people stop seeing fisting as this thing that people do to degrade and dishonor another.” It’s unfortunate that many men are frightened of the idea, thinking that it has to hurt or that it in some way decides whether they are het or gay or something else. Women are sometimes concerned that it will stretch them, or that their body can’t handle anything “that big.”
It’s not as if any fist can fit inside any body. But it’s worth exploring, and even if you only get to fantasize about being filled by (or filling) your lover. Fisting is simply an act, not a label, and like any sexual act it can run the spectrum of “it just feels good” to “this is how our souls connect with love.” So take part in Fisting Day, even if it’s just to visit Jiz Lee and Courtney Troubles Tumblr page at FistingDay.Tumblr.Com.
“Fisting Day is a sex-positive, feminist, porn-positive and personal global event celebrating and debunking the stereotypes of fisting, a sex act that uses the entire hand!”
As our part of this celebration, all of the videos about fisting here on PassionateU will be free to the public on October 21st. So enjoy as educators such as Dylan Ryan, Sarah Sloane and Shanna Katz show not only how to do it safely but how to do it AWESOME.
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