Younger lesbians not understanding the histories of older lesbians
I’ve noticed a lot of younger lesbians (under 25s) simply having no understanding as to why a lesbian would have a history with men. Social/cultural pressure, religious pressure, survival crimes like sex work, living in homophobic families. These things have nothing to do with sexual attraction, but safety.
Of course there’s a massive difference between a woman who says she’s a lesbian but has only dated men, or has been married to one with grown children who says she’s in love with a man. The ability to tell the difference between a bi woman and a lesbian isn’t that hard.
The idea that the only time a woman is a lesbian is if she’s never been with a man is ridiculous, lesbophobic, and shits all over the long history of lesbians surviving through homophobic times.
Originally shared by Single_use_doorknob on r/ActualLesbiansOver25 on June 22nd, 2026 at 11:25 AM UTC.