#internalised ableism

[defectivegembrain]

Don't know what "I'm autistic and I can do this thing" type needs to hear this but the bullying and pressure to act neurotypical did not help you you just learned to blend in to some degree and the people more obviously autistic than you do not need berating about their social skills you need to learn from them actually it is not sustainable to keep telling yourself it should be easy you need to be kinder to others and yourselves before you burn out and run out of people to feel superior to because you're alienating everyone who isn't doing the exact same thing as you

[jodjuya]

Image originally created by @brieflycleverspoons

[autisticautonomy]

A lot of younger Autistics who aren't that familiar with Autistic rights activism or actual neurodiversity theory know that the Autistic rights movement rejected functioning labels and severity labels, but they don't actually know why they were harmful and so they end up reproducing the exact same ableist assumptions but using support needs or levels without changing anything else instead of actually learning that every single Autistic has different traits and have wildly differing experiences. Instead of actually learning that the spectrum is a colour wheel and not a gradient. Instead of actually examining how some Autistics are raised to assimilate and mask and other Autistics are raised not being taught life skills or given a proper education because of presumed competence and how that negatively effects all of us. Instead of learning how nonspeaking Autistic people are systematically failed time and time again and just attributing bad outcomes and bad quality of life on them being too "high maintenance" to be happy. Instead of recognizing that allistic people also have needs but have their needs catered to and ours aren't. Instead being learning about the social model of disability and becoming angry Marxists like God intended. Passionate Autistic youth having their strong desire for a better world wasted on trying to find out whether you're Autistic enough for this or too Autistic for that instead of fighting to make sure that we all have access to as many resources and as many opportunities as possible, reading the fucking DSM instead of Capitalism and Disability. #SAD.

[charliblueisado]

With the fact that Eridians blood flow and stuff stops when they sleep they would look pretty close to dead so following that logic it must be weird for Rocky to watch Grace since he might talk in his sleep or toss and turn and his body is ALWAYS making sounds.

He takes for granted how safe this makes him feel until they get back to Erid and he sits on his gorgeous mate Ardien to watch them sleep for the first time in far too long.

Then their hearts stop and Rocky can only vividly remember the bodies of his crew and he freaks out and yells for a doctor to save them but everything is fine and Adrien is just asleep and the doctor can't fathom why he would assume they died because no one was there with him when he watched his crew sleep and never wake up.

[ghost-jester-sys]

unlearning internalised ableism is so hard

cus it feels like ur just using people and letting people down whenever u cancel plans because of ur health and disabilities

and it feels like on a good day im faking and any other day im being overdramatic..

but im trying to be forgiving to myself..

[this-is-anti-brain-injury]

internalized anti brain injury is calling ourselves stupid for not understanding things

This is internalised anti brain injury

We need to be kinder to ourselves! It's really difficult to not end up parroting back the insults that get thrown at you, and even just practicing neutrality and acceptance that this is how you function can help

You don't need to match everyone around you in order to be a good person with a meaningful impact on the world. This is who you are and that is okay. It is okay. You are not, and never will be, a problem or burden just for existing as you are 💚

[iammysticalsealion111]

"Do I creep you out?" But it's me dissociating and maladaptive daydreaming so hard during states of internalised ableism that I genuinely started seeing my body as that of a sea lion because I couldn't express how much dyspraxia makes me feel like a flexible and fast animal trapped in a limited body.

[little-bnuuy]

I have only a week or two before I finish uni and I feel so so scared. I don't care about the degree at all because I don't know who I am when I'm not adhering to a routine in education. I'm so fucking tired from all of this and I just want to sleep until september

My mum said she wouldn't kick me out even if I got worse and I couldn't get a job, and she is so kind but I just can't believe her. I feel so guilty about not being able to do such basic things, when I left my job last year I just cried and cried and cried. My manager even said I needed a therapist before telling me I should quit haha

Where do I go from here? Part of me is excited for the summer because I'll actually get to do things for fun, not just work and uni, but I'm really scared of what comes after. I want to be financially and medically independent but I really don't see it happening any time soon :(