Grapefruit Nie is my full illegal name, 26, queer, many pronouns but don't call me girl or woman. dni if you actually hate anakin. no i don't care about star wars that much, but some of you apparently do and if I get one more person on my posts acting like it was their own real life children that he murdered I might pull a vader too. previously rainbowtrashpile
If you are in WASHINGTON this is not yet law, this initiative will be on the ballot Nov 3 THIS YEAR. VOTE NO. You have the ability to prevent this from becoming law.
Not only is this invasive as fuck, it also serves to discourage/exclude student athletes who are too poor to see a doctor regularly (or have unstable home lives). Who are some of the kids who need sports most.
Who tf is paying for all that genetic screening anyways? I expect it'll cost less than the $600 I paid for my health screening but how is this not an excessive burden on families who happen to have daughters instead of sons who want to play a sport?
Looking at this from a more broad scope than just Washington, this shows the potential for a dystopian future. These barriers in the name of "stopping males in female sports" will obviously drive many girls away from sports in general, and this is what the Heritage Foundation wants.
They're seeking to get rid of Title IX, which prevents sex-based discrimination in federally funded schools. Their logic goes that this would allow boy's sports to be funded more if they're not kept to the same level as girls' sports. If they're not hindered by equality, then boy's sports will have the chance to become bigger and help more young men. At the cost of women, of course.
This push of girls from sports is good to them as they believe it will "increase fertility" and "encourage feminine values". As the Heritage Foundation puts it:
"Moderate exercise supports fertility and mental well-being far more reliably than does the high-intensity, elite model of sports, which, as science shows, produces Relative Energy Deficiency in Sport (RED-S) and elevated rates of menstrual disruption in many top-notch female athletes....... High-intensity exercise increases infertility; moderate exercise assists fertility more than any other approach to exercise assists it.
Many women are drawn to activities that emphasize rhythm, coordination, community, and graceful exertion. A small but significant number thrive in highly competitive environments, and we are a better country for making those opportunities available (which might well have happened even without Title IX). Our goal, however, should be virtue and health grounded in reality and freedom, not the imposition of a male-oriented competitive ideal.".
As always, this isn't about helping boys, it's about controlling girls. But let's see what they say about boy's sports:
"Nor should we forget what happens when we ignore the effects of Title IX on men. Competition is much more central to male identity and sports are a main avenue for the safe but real expression of male competitive drive. Sports are also central to male friendships, which generally are more about doing things in common and less about saying things. Of course, men still compete and still form friendships, but both competitive drive and male friendship have suffered under the weaponized application of Title IX—and limiting the growth of male sports cannot be irrelevant to such inimical developments."
While girls are encouraged to do gentle ladylike activities, boys should not worry about "saying things" and have friendships based around only common activities. We don't live in a world where boys' sports are constantly sacrificed like they claim Title IX does. Looking at the top sports teams in the US, you can see it's not the case immediately.
There's a lot of things I skimmed over/neglected, so I implore you to please read this article by Transitics covering this. It's infinitely more tolerable than reading what the Heritage Foundation wrote, though I advise you read that too.
Turns out it was about women’s sports all along—if getting rid of women's sports counts, that is.
Weird Experience: Comforting people as you explain your Chronic Condition
Empathy can have funny effects when you have to try to get people to understand your diagnosis/life with an Chronic Illness.
It’s like you have to ease them into the idea, and then pat them on the back and try to cheer them up while it sinks in for THEM that YOU have an incurable condition.
Their entire world view is predicated on the idea that “all illness is temporary”. They genuinely cannot cope with the idea that someone will not Get Well Soon. And YOU have to be one to ease them through this existential crisis.
You can’t just say to people, “No I am not doing anything much until the one thing at the end of this month, because I am still sick, and will be still sick for the foreseeable future. Getting into a remission will require a few years of steady slow work which might not have any effect even if I do everything right. I am sick. I shall be sick. This is my LIFE now. I’m sad, yes it’s not what I wanted, but I’m a person not a tragedy so hold off on the pity okay?. No, there’s nothing to be done but what I am already doing. “
And you can’t say this because THEY will panic and be offended by your total bluntness.
You have to protect their emotions about your condition. It’s weird. And an exhausting dance to do over and over again.
I think cis women should be allowed to get top surgery even if its not for a medical reason like breast reduction or cancer. I think they should be able to get it even if they're completely cisgender. Some women are just sick of dealing with them and would be much much happier never needing to wear a bra again
We have this interesting situation where we basically no longer have privacy nor the expectation of privacy, but we also don't have community or meaningful connection with others, so we're all simultaneously both completely exposed and absolutely alone, and please understand that when I say this situation is "interesting", what I in fact mean is that it's "nightmarish and I wish I could wake up"
at some point in your life you are going to do or say something racist, sexist, or otherwise bigoted. Your goal is not perfection, your goal is to be the kind of person that the people you've hurt feel safe being honest with when that happens.
If you are in WASHINGTON this is not yet law, this initiative will be on the ballot Nov 3 THIS YEAR. VOTE NO. You have the ability to prevent this from becoming law.
Not only is this invasive as fuck, it also serves to discourage/exclude student athletes who are too poor to see a doctor regularly (or have unstable home lives). Who are some of the kids who need sports most.
Who tf is paying for all that genetic screening anyways? I expect it'll cost less than the $600 I paid for my health screening but how is this not an excessive burden on families who happen to have daughters instead of sons who want to play a sport?
Like...options to either pay out of pocket for bloodwork (insurance wont have to pay in many cases, and it is NOT RELIABLE) genetic screening (insurance absolutely will not pay, and also intersex kids exist???) or "genital exam".
This is bad for all girls, especially poor girls and intersex girls, all just to be allowed to discriminate against trans girls.
gender essentialism is soooo funny bc it's like "this is what women are like" and you're like "I've met women and many of them, if not the majority, have not been like that" and it's like "well women SHOULD be like that" and you're like "why should women be like that" and its like "because that's what women are like"
the thing they dont tell you about learning to "trust the process" is that you forget and relearn it every single time you make a new piece of art. unfortunately there is no cure either
what I wish people would understand about fundraising for gaza is that while everyone is desperate and I would never say not to fundraise for or donate to individual families-- I currently fundraise to support multiple friends' families-- the overwhelming narrative I see on Tumblr that the best and most ethical thing you can do is send money to individuals and there is no option for anything else is so so incredibly damaging and inadvertently lends support to the marginalization and distrust of any remaining communal social infrastructure. the sameer project, which you should donate to, talks about this in a recent video they put out. the situation in gaza is unimaginable and everyone is in need of a huge level of support, and yet this fundraising discourse by well-meaning people in the west that donating money to individuals is the only moral way reproduces societal divides wherein resources are directed to people who speak English, who have relationships with people outside of gaza, and who have internet access while hundreds of thousands are left behind.
there ARE non-ngo locally based grassroots initiatives working to meet those needs however they can, and your small donation goes a lot further with them because they are able to buy food/water/supplies in bulk at a reduced price and reach more people with less money. again I'm not saying people shouldn't fundraise for individuals because these initiatives are so limited and many people cannot access them -- but as an example, the group I fundraise with is currently serving people fleeing north gaza who are starving and have nothing, and when we fundraise enough to do cash aid distribution there's so much need that our partners can only distribute 100-200 per large family. and then I go online and see people who have absolutely no understanding of this context at all exclusively working towards raising tens of thousands for just a few people when evacuations haven't been possible for months. it's good to do whatever you can but please consider how this narrative being reproduced among westerners trying to help that there are no other options has the potential to damage groups working towards equity and wider reach however is still possible
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