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“All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.”

— bell hooks (via memoriasconsazon)

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“Next year I will not be the self of this year now. And that is why I laugh at the transient, the ephemeral; laugh, while clutching, holding, tenderly, like a fool his toy, cracked glass, water through fingers.”

— Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals; p. 130 (via readingsylviaplath)

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“He smiled at her. “I am entirely selfish,” he said ruefully, “and always hoping that someone will tell me to behave, someone will make herself responsible for me and make me be grown-up.” He is altogether selfish, she thought in some surprise, the only man I have ever sat and talked to alone, and I am impatient; he is simply not very interesting. “Why don’t you grow up by yourself?” she asked him, and wondered how many people—how many women—had already asked him that. “You’re clever.” And how many times had he answered that way? This conversation must be largely instinctive, she thought with amusement, and said gently, “You must be a very lonely person.” All I want is to be cherished, she thought, and here I am talking gibberish with a selfish man. “You must be very lonely indeed.””

— The Haunting of Hill House, Shirley Jackson

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agnes varda interview (sept 2018)

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“You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy.”

— C. JoyBell C.

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We need to do more things that help our souls breathe.

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ialwaysbelieve

apocryphics

In this short life / that merely lasts an hour / how much — how / little — is / within our / power

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you do not have to want to be a parent or caretaker. but you do have to see children as full human beings with an indisputable and universal right to a safe, healthy, and loving environment in which to grow up. and to be in all the public spaces you are. including the crying baby on the bus, and the toddler on the ipad in the restaurant, and the group of teenagers at the shops who may not be buying anything. and you have to be prepared to be a safe adult in whatever way you can. if you support any social-justice-oriented movement whatsoever—if you profess to be a feminist, or an environmentalist, or anti-carceral, or land back, or antiracist, or anything else—and then say you hate kids, your support for your cause has a great big hole at its center. and this is non-negotiable.

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going further and adding that if you cannot extend care and respect to children you do not have my trust as a disabled person. oh, you don’t like that they’re loud, or don’t speak clearly, or cry? that they can’t regulate their bodies and bodily functions or their emotions like you do? that they need help with things you consider basic? that they don’t make money and can’t live on their own? you think it’s okay to hand their rights over to others and throw away the key? you jokingly suggest that they should all just be locked up somewhere far from public sight? the disabled people around you and the people who love us are listening. and we know so much more about what your words mean than you do (and we’ll act accordingly).

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“I resisted this for years, but I don’t resist it anymore, and it’s probably the reason for a lot of my happiness now: Hard work is salvation. It’s not about where you’re headed via hard work, though; it’s about the work itself. When your brain and your heart are a tangle of recrimination and longing and despair, physical labor is divine. You work for hours, covered in dirt and sweat and bugs and filth, and maybe you’re a little miserable at first, but by the end of the day, you heart is more open. You slide into a hot bath and you say to yourself, ‘At least I did something’. [I]f you lean into your hard work right now, you’re going to learn just what a crisis can do for you, how it can blow out the bad patterns of thinking and feeling, how it can change you from a person who clings and cowers and hides and pities herself to a person who faces the truth without fear and builds a gorgeous life out of the wreckage of the half-broken life that came before.”

— Ask Polly: Why Should I Keep Going? (via logicandgrace)