UNDERSIZED

Too little leavening; overmixed; heat too high; pan too large --- he/they transmasc adult purble place

[hazy-daffodil]

✧✦✧✦ WELCOME TO MY BLOG. ✦✧✦✧

This is my personal vent/rant/discourse blog!

You may call me Hazy, or Daffodil, or any other kind of nickname you can come up with.

I am a transmasc adult, and my pronouns are he/they. I'm that one friend that's "too woke." Tis my pride and joy.

I consider myself cringe but free. I genuinely say shit like, "Hey, I'm just a little guy! A little guy with glasses! And it's my birthday! You wouldn't hit a little guy with glasses on his birthday, would you?" out loud to other human beings in real life. I may be an embarrassment to everyone around me, but I am proud of it, dammit!

I'm currently diagnosed with ADHD and GAD; however, my psychiatrist says I likely have OCD (probably of the moral scrupulosity flavor) and Bipolar Disorder, too. I also highly suspect I have BPD.

I don't hornypost because I find that embarrassing (all power to those who do, though), but I do mention adult topics sometimes. Things like that will be properly tagged, so you can filter it out.

I believe in:

Trans unity.

Judging based on actions, not identity.

Getting paraphiles the help they need while not glorifying their conditions.

Harm prevention over punishment.

Different marginalized groups having their own vocabulary to describe their oppression.

Media literacy and reading comprehension.

Telling people when they're wrong.

I have an ego--that's for sure--but if you treat me with respect, act in good faith, and most importantly make sense, then I'm open to changing my mind.

If my ex ever somehow finds this blog, hi! I'm sorry about all the rage in my earlier posts. I've grown as a person and am trying to have a much more positive outlook on life, myself, and other people. I don't hate you.

Anywho, all in all, I'm just trying to get by. It gets better. I promise.

p.s. I do NOT answer donation asks or DMs! I'm sorry! I just can't confirm whether or not they're scams, and I don't want to promote anything that may harm others.

[samglyph]

Funny when someone introduces you to something, you get really into it, and then they lose all interest in it. Oh so you’re just going to abandon me at the party you invited me to. Dude you were my ride.

[werenotreallystrangers]

a lot of your suffering comes from treating your nature like a problem to manage instead of a design to understand

[hazy-daffodil]

Hey uh question how to know if you're hypermobile

My ankles pop out if I run too suddenly (not exaggerating, they get dangly and everything and hurt like a bitch); my entire lower half tends to be in pulsing pain from my ankle to my hip after a long day; I had to be forcefully taught to walk with my feet straight; I roll/sprain my ankle at a ridiculous frequency; I'm double jointed in my elbows and maybe my knees; and a doctor once told me after an MRI that I have the neck of a 45 year old.

Help? Please? Who do I go to about this?

[chonny-jash]

the worst part about having a modern phone is accidentally pressing some cheat-code-ass combination of buttons to bring up the inbuilt AI software, adding to the statistics and making some tech billionaire company freak think I actually want that bullshit

[chonny-jash]

It has been brought to my attention that holding the power button is what brings up Gemini.

That's fucking crazy.

That sucks shit.

Fuck off man.

The fuck are we doing here.

[puffball920]

Settings - advanced features - side button and conk that shit away from there

I hated that setting soooo much too

[chonny-jash]

SAVIOUR

Consider this a PSA

It's an adjustable setting

[o6eiyrskb4hg7rix8hih-deactivate]

toxins and sludge toxins and sludge im a little lad who loves toxins and sludge

[unyieldingsilence]

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[lifeafterpsychiatry]

If you're comfortable accusing anyone of faking disability, you're not a real ally to disabled people

[teaboot]

One time when I was a kid a group of girls and I had to treat another student for hypothermia by ourselves because she had so many invisible health issues that the adults we asked for help didn't believe us. The student in question was actively hallucinating. When I finally ran for help the people I grabbed were slow as shit to respond, casually joking about how "dramatic" the person in question was.

The kid was picked up by an ambulance 30 minutes later.

Now as an adult working in security I get SO MANY folks- upper-middle aged mostly- coming to me to 'rat out' people they think are faking it.

I was once sent into a bathroom because a client demanded that the "fucker won't get out, so go drag them out"- I was NEVER going to do that, so I did a wellness check instead. You know who it was? A person recently released from the hospital after a car accident. They had a hole in their skull and major hearing loss. They couldn't answer the owner because they couldn't HEAR the owner.

Another time about a homeless man who got around town by kicking the ground from his wheelchair. "You know he doesn't actually need that thing, his legs work fine, it's just for pity points"- Oh, so he's not paralyzed, his wheelchair is performative? Funny story Dale, I actually know that guy, he was backed over by a truck and has chronic pain from his shattered pelvis. But sure, let's make him stand up and walk everywhere so nobody feels too bad for him and tries to help him or something.

"She doesn't need that scooter, I've seen her get out of it."

"Look how fat he is, because he just rides around and refuses to get up."

"She doesn't really need that cane- she comes here without it all the time"

Sincerely, truly, from the bottom of my heart- as someone who isn't physically disabled but hears this shit all the time- fuck off

[rimonoroni2]

what people don’t understand about how adhd is disabling is that it’s not just getting temporarily distracted from, like, school work or hobbies. it’s getting distracted/being unable to motivate yourself to go to the doctor, eat regularly, do hygiene tasks, etc. it’s not knowing when or how long it will take you to do something, ANYTHING, and in many cases that thing is taking a shower or keeping your house from turning into a biohazard. it’s about being fundamentally incapable of controlling your attention and focus on anything, even and especially things you need to do to survive.

[hazy-daffodil]

I feel like as a general rule, we should avoid groups that try to tell us, "No one in this world understands you but us." I have never seen a group like this in my life that was not deeply insidious.

[quantumshade]

everyone be quiet. marsha with her snoopy.

[sailermoon]

this is how new yorkers @ mamdani

[sailermoon]

[muppetshow2026]

fucked up in the club asking the dj to play flight of the bumblebee

[balaclava-trismegistus]

you must defeat my several exes which I refrain from passing moral judgment upon out of a place of empathy but whom definitely acted in ways that, although understandable within the context of their life and the forces they were subject to, inflicted a lot of deep wounds I did not deserve to delicate parts of myself which have not and may never heal. if you want in my boy hole, that is.

[oxyisdamoron]

"rEbLoG iF yOu-" silence.

[hotvampireadjacent]

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[the1entirecircus]

Okay so we can all agree that the main message of this movie is that it's best to let go of your worst memories and change for the better because if you don't you'll just wind up obsessing over your memories and keep coming to the same conclusions about them...right? That was the message, right? Because I feel like that was the message.