the heart is all fire

20 | bi

[headtoowise]

I think one of the things that makes me angriest about the whole “gender neutral language to describe female bodies” thing is that there’s just no way to convey to male-bodied people exactly how humiliating and dehumanizing it is. There is zero way that I can explain to any man exactly how terrible it feels to be referred to by parts of my (female) reproductive system. Like, I could call a man a “penis-haver” and maybe that gets *close* to conveying to him what I feel when I am called a “vagina-haver,” but it’s actually just not the same because he’s spent his entire life laughing at dick jokes and seeing dicks drawn on every available surface and having his penis celebrated by all of society, and I’ve been taught to be ashamed of the fact that I have a vagina since before I even really understood my own anatomy. I could call him an “ejaculator” and maybe that might make him understand *part* of what I feel when I am called a “menstruator,” except that male ejaculation is—again—seen as perfectly normal and is often discussed and joked about in a positive manner, and menstruation is always regarded as shameful and disgusting, something embarrassing, something to hide.

And it goes on. “Uterus-bearer?” What’s the male equivalent there? There really isn’t one, but okay, sure, let’s just pick something and say: “testes-bearer,” maybe? No man has ever been reduced to or exploited for his testes in the way women are reduced to and exploited for our uteruses every single day. No man’s reproductive system has ever been stigmatized and regulated and abused the way women’s have been for thousands of years. Even if “gender-neutral” language for male bodies WAS used in the same way it is for female bodies (which it almost never is, and let’s be honest, probably never will be on a regular basis), it wouldn’t have the same impact on the people it was used to refer to because there just isn’t the same amount of shame and stigma surrounding the male body as the female. No man has ever been ashamed of being male in the same way women are taught to be ashamed of being female.

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Do you ever just feel overcome by utter astonishment & disbelief that people even demand proof that porn is harmful in the first place? Like here are thousands upon thousands of videos showing 25 men penetrating one woman in her vagina, anus, & mouth, calling her a dirty slut & a cum bucket, & ejaculating on her face & body while she grimaces or cries, but what do you mean this is misogynistic? Rape & abuse, haha what are you talking about, she loves it! Why don’t you PROVE these negative effects, huh?? But even when you do show them all the research, statistics, & testimonies in the world, they don’t care. It’s like people’s brains just fall out of their heads when it comes to porn.

[aurieva-blog]

What I find amazing is that these same people cry about TV shows perpetuating harmful and misogynistic stereotypes, rage at the slightest hint of abusive behaviour but apparently with porn it’s different. Porn, you know, overt fantasies of abuse: hitting, spitting, literal pissing and shitting on women but who gives a fuck HAHA I mean if there’s an orgasm at the end of it?! DUH. After all it’s ~fantasy~, yes “fantasy” but of course you’ll wah wah at the representation and misogyny of ACTUAL fantasy (which btw is completely valid, but does nobody see the irony?)

Also does it not disturb that there are sick minds out there actively seeking out footage of women being beaten and told that they’re trash, but because they “consent” to it, that’s fine. Whether they “consent” to it or not (which is sketchy as fuck anyway, especially evidence with former porn stars testimonies it doesn’t add up even) but regardless of that, why is this okay? Why is there such a huge divide, please explain to me the difference between say a Robin Thicke song singing about the blurred lines of consent being so terrible, but footage of women being literally shat on, told they’re “daddy’s little sluts”, gagging and slapping them is just harmless fun?! I just don’t fucking get the justification for that.

Why are men and women getting off to a fantasy of stereotypes of the systematic abuse of others? Why is it socially acceptable to dress up as a “kinky school girl” and nobody blinks an eye? Nobody sits and thinks “well actually, this is a little fucked up. Why are you getting off on the thought of fucking an underage school girl?” How can people claim that they’re feminist, anti-paedophilia, bemoan the injustice of racism in the world and yet indulge in porn where titles like “teen slut gets destroyed by monster black cock!” is not out of the norm like does nobody see the correlation here? As for “Lolicon” and that whole sub genre I literally can’t even fucking get into that.

These same feminists moan about their body being seen as a commodity, about breastfeeding being sexualised, about street harassment and being treated like less than dirt. Where do you think these stereotypes may come from? Where do you think this behaviour is ingrained and learned? Porn may not have everything to do with it, but can you really say it helps? Fun feminism is a fucking sham. I’m so embarrassed I was ever a part of the “sex pozzi” community. Fucking gag.

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Right on. I’ve known feminists who would go on about how Twilight is awful, irresponsible media representation for young women because it romanticises abusive relationships, and then turn around & say porn like you described above is totally healthy & consensual & encourages women to ~explore their sexuality~. It’s unbelievable.

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[gingerling]

Female sexuality be like *feeling immense guilt for being horny* *being confused* *being told you MUST be straight* *facing objectification* *being shamed* *being told you must cater to male feelings* *performing femininity* *performing for the male gaze and approval* *hating your physical being* *exploring yourself in secret* *listening to female artists* *escapism-esque dreaming* *gazing at women* *yearning* *not being allowed to be lesbian or bi or anything at all in peace* *craving liberation* *remembering that one lyric/quote or verse that hits home* *eating cereal* *thinking of all the women that came before you* *being touch starved* *desiring pleasure* *wanting sisterhood + companionship* *contemplating about the concept of love* *eating more cereal* *dancing alone* *thinking "i hope i'll be loved dearly one day"* *longing for nature itself*

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[e-sadg]

There’s this fucked up idea I keep encountering that essentially boils down to, “female gender non-conformity is internalized misogyny” and I think it comes from this misunderstanding of what femininity is. Most things aren’t assigned as feminine randomly. Most things are assigned as feminine in order to sexualize or restrict female people or in order to position them in some way as better reproductive and domestic laborers. Wanting nothing to do with that isn’t in any way an expression of self-hatred.

[sundazesun]

[whitepeopletwitter]

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hey, so, I’ve been seeing a lot of people complaining about heterophobia! so, I’ve decided to raise some awareness! In red, I highlighted the countries where straight people are oppressed because of their sexuality. please reblog to spread awareness of this injustice!

[butterflypeaflowertea]

you're laughing. trump and melania literally have covid and you're laughing. AND I'M LAUGHING TOO

[analbeadbracelet]

[applyburnheal]

RISE

[kabaks]

sometimes i think about gay people who lived centuries ago who thought they were all alone who imagined a world where they could live openly as themselves who met in secret spoke in code defied everything and everyone just to exist and i’m like..i gotta sit down. whew i gotta sit down

[l2g-deactivated20240513]

this is why this sappho fragment hits me so hard

[doomedvoyages]

[phantom-tail]

If this little book should see the light after its 100 years of entombment, I would like its readers to know that the author was a lover of her own sex and devoted the best years of her life in striving for the political equality and social and moral elevation of women.

“The Great Geysers of California” by Laura De Force Gordon, 1879, unearthed from a 100-year-old time capsule in San Francisco, 1979.

[levourdalak]

“Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all our letters could be published in the future in a more enlightened time. Then all the world could see how in love we are.”

Gordon Bowsher to Gilbert Bradley, 1940s

[everythingfox]

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[bookrebelwordwarrior]

😭😭💓💓💓💓💓

[sagihairius]

my hot topic cashier had big buttons that said “ask me about my fursona” and “submissive” on his lanyard but no name tag because thats just too personal i guess

[wetdirtandearth]

[friendlyrejection]

god i wish lesbians in mainstream media werent so sexualized. like… wheres my dorky highschool gfs… wheres my uptight office lesbian and sloppy sweatpants lesbian who shows office lesbian the joys of eating raw cookie dough at 4am… wheres my rich and famous lesbian who falls in love with shy bookish lesbian… wheres my waitress gfs who work at competing restaurants… wheres my mutual pinning neighbor lesbians who barge into each-others’ houses uninvited… like not every sapphic couple is two Sexy Women With A Forbidden Passion… give me my fun and sweet sitcom lesbians

[lesbianyouths-blog]

every time I read a post like this I just get sad bc these don’t exist…

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]