Healing The Child Within

Reparenting blog Just trying to heal from childhood traumas over here. Asks and messages are welcomed. Also feel free to submit your reparenting journey through the asks ❤️

[jay-rayart]

FLY guys ! I started making FLY because I wanted to tell a story where black boys love eachother and they aren’t afraid to show it. The kind of kids who are never too cool to hug or cry in front of eachother. I think if we want the world to be safer for black kids we have to start in our own communities.

Help our story take Flight and follow FLY on Kickstarter. Launching June 9th !

Coming soon: FLY : A Magical Black Boy Series - Pilot Animatic

A coming of age story about Black kids who finally have power to fight back against systems designed against them.

[levelupdoll]

Guide : Start becoming that girl

Stop dreaming. Start acting.

It’s time to stop fantasizing about the life you want and actually start building it.

Grab a cute planner—digital or paper, whatever works for you—and begin visualizing your dream life. That’s how it starts.

✨ And remember: you don’t have to do everything perfectly from day one. Becoming that girl takes time. It’s a process, not a race.

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Step 1: Build your foundation

🥗 Nourish your body

You don’t need to completely change your diet overnight. Just start with small, sustainable changes:

• Drink more water and green tea

• Reduce processed sugar and saturated fats

• Listen to your body and feed it with care

🧘🏻‍♀️ Move your body

Working out is one of the most powerful mindset shifters. Yes, it’s hard at first—but it’s so worth it.

Start with short, gentle Pilates sessions. Here are some creators I love:

Nicola’s Pilates, Hinafit, Shirlyn Kim, and Celamarr — their videos are beginner-friendly and super motivating.

Aim for 20 minutes, 3 times a week. That’s more than enough to feel a difference.

🧖‍♀️ Skincare is self-care

You don’t need a 10-step routine. Start simple:

• Cleanse and moisturize twice a day

• Cerave is a great, gentle brand

• Pure aloe vera works wonders for oily/acne-prone skin

• Always remove your makeup before bed—your skin deserves rest too

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Step 2: Boost your hygiene & wellness

🪥 Brush your teeth and your tongue twice a day. Use a mouthwash (but check the instructions—some are only once daily).

💤 Prioritize sleep. This is a non-negotiable.

Try to get 7–8 hours of sleep per night. You’ll feel and look the difference.

Avoid screens before bed—read a self-development book, a glow-up guide, or even a cute romance novel. Just something you enjoy.

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Step 3: Plan. Romanticize. Level up.

📔 Planning helps you feel in control and motivated. Use a planner you love looking at—it makes a huge difference.

🌸 Romanticize everything. The process, the tiny steps, the “boring” parts.

Fall in love with your aesthetic and your goals.

Be obsessed with your glow-up—not in a toxic, perfectionist way—but in a beautiful, empowering way that fuels you.

🎧 Watch inspiring content (The Wizard Liz is a queen), listen to “bad bitch” playlists, and surround yourself with energy that makes you feel unstoppable.

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Final reminder:

You can be that girl too.

You deserve to feel good in your body, your mind, and your life.

Just start. The rest will follow. 💖

[milkoomi]

inner glow up. ᥫ᭡

while we focus on our physical selves to glow up, we tend to forget about our minds and hearts. we also need to focus on letting more light come into ourselves. the way we think, the way we love, the way we expend our energy; all of that can have this aspect of “glowing up” too! in this post, we’re going to discuss how to glow from within and let that beautiful new energy radiate outwards.

let’s begin …

୨ৎ — the mind

deep clean your thoughts

meditation:

take a moment, even if it’s just for 5 minutes, to sit and clear your head. focus on breathing exercises, concentrate on the rhythm of your heart, listen to the ambient noises of your surroundings. meditation is a fantastic way of clearing your mind and removing those overwhelming thoughts that are piling up in your brain! you also don’t need to be sitting, you could also meditate while in the shower! i have an entire guide on how to do so! you can also take meditative walks and focus on your surroundings.

journaling:

just dump all your thoughts onto a page, write down everything that’s on your mind. once you’re done you can even rip up the paper and toss it away! doing these journal dumps can help release those racing thoughts and clear your mind. it may even help to relieve some weight off your shoulders!

decorate your mind with peace & kindness

write down affirmations or go to a mirror and say those affirmations to yourself! fill your head with positive thoughts and calming reassurance.

try recording a voice message & send it to yourself! you can say your affirmations that way or give yourself a motivational mini-speech. this way, you can go back to those messages when you need an uplifting message from someone. and it’s always better to get back up with kindness and love from yourself!

organize your headspace

make room for positivity, peace, and grace and throw out all the negativity that’s tossed around in your head. don’t let negative talk from others, media, or yourself take up space in your head! your mind should never hold a spot for negativity.

distance yourself from those who bring you down

delete social media that no longer serves you or take regular breaks to unplug from your phone

replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations

replace “i can’t” with “i can”

୨ৎ — the heart

nurture your heart

as your mind is an important place to keep thoughts of joy, kindness, and love, your heart needs to feel it!

practice self care

take care of your physical needs (shower, drink water, brush your teeth, eat nutritious and delicious foods, move your body)

write yourself love letters

say “thank you” when receiving compliments

provide protection for your feelings

your heart is scared and access to it should be very limited. don’t let just anyone in. now, i’m not saying you have to put iron walls up around your heart and feelings, but i’m saying that you need to be selective. be picky about who you surround yourself with.

invite people who…

provide genuine & unconditional love

support you and your dreams

encourage you to prioritize your health (physical & mental)

offer guidance when you feel lost

close the doors on people who…

make jokes out of your insecurities

take your passions and dreams as something to laugh about

invalidate your feelings and thoughts

think it’s okay to walk all over you

don’t value your time and space

୨ৎ — letting in the light

i believe our energies attract different things whether we want them to or not. letting dark or bad energy ruminate within yourself and allowing it to consume you can attract misfortune, loss, and sadness which keeps us from reaching our true potential.

let light or good energy flow within you and let that energy be the one that takes up all the space. you’ll attract what you actually want rather than the things you wish to avoid.

light energy can come from…

taking up hobbies you enjoy

listening to music that makes you feel good

spending time with loved ones

going on nature walks

playing with pets

celebrating your accomplishments

final notes —

the biggest take away from this: protect your peace. becoming the best version of yourself comes with knowing how to find peace within yourself and making sure you show yourself love and kindness. the main person you should lean on for that kind of good energy should be you. let your glow up start from within!

with lots of love, faustina 🌷

[scorpionlafemme]

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

i’m going to be okay. i’m going to be more than okay. i’m going to be happy.

[wetheurban]

May you never abandon yourself again, especially for what isn’t choosing you.

[florial]

[loubis-and-champagne]

X

[greelin]

get fucking seen & accepted idiot

[greelin]

“but—” nope! you are loved, you fool. you cannot escape it

[thepeacefulgarden]

[lamignonette]

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

forgive the version of you that didn’t know any better

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

forgive the version of yourself that knew better but did it anyway. forgive every version of yourself. we are constantly learning from our mistakes.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[thepeacefulgarden]

This is non-negotiable.

You gotta have something to look forward to. Every day. It doesn't have to be a big thing, like a vacation or a wedding. It can be something as simple as a warm shower, or the new season of your favorite TV show starting up tonight, or a nice dinner, or seeing your family, or being greeted by your dog after a hard day. It doesn't matter what it is, but it's gotta be something. Something to look forward to, something to keep yourself going.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[selfcarereminder]

you are doing your best in a genuinely complicated world, and that counts. forgive yourself for the rest

[thepeacefulgarden]

And if you can't do any of this? That's okay. Surviving is resistance, too.

They want you stuck in Survival Mode.

They want you fearful and feral.

They want you too busy and burned out to care.

Don't give them that.

[glowcowboy]

it is important to cling to wonder btw