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30s. INTJ. Ravenclaw. Art. Bellamort. Classics. Feminism. Witchcraft.

[minikaryun]

[turtlesandfrogs]

Listen to me: You get good at things by being bad at them. You learn by failing. You gain competency and a sense of mastery by failing at something many times and in many interesting ways.

The sooner you are able to laugh at your own failures, to enjoy the process of messing up, the easier life will be. Because you'll no longer be afraid of learning.

And once you're no longer afraid of failing, you can learn anything.

[moonwaterandrain]

i wish it were as easy as it sounds

[turtlesandfrogs]

And that's the thing of it, isn't it? Failing and accepting a failure is itself a skill.

And it can be very hard to learn, especially if you come from a family where a failure is a sign that you are a failure instead of a sign that you are learning.

You're going to fail at failing well. There are going to be times when it hurts, times when your brain is telling you that you should just give up and you'll never get it. Times when a failure is going to frustrate you to no end.

And you can still learn to fail well. You can learn to see it as a sign that you're learning, you can learn to give a little chuckle and say to yourself, well, everyone screws up sometimes, I'm just learning.

It is not easy, but it is important.

[moonlit-positivity]

[tinsnip]

Don’t assume malice. Assume ignorance. Life is easier, the world is kinder, and you can educate. Actual malice is pretty rare, I find. 

[froborr]

Always remember Hanlon’s Razor–”Never assume malice when incompetence will suffice as an explanation.”

That’s said, never forget Fred Clark’s Law, either: “Sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.” There’s a certain point at which ignorance becomes malice–at which there is simply no way to become that ignorant except deliberately and maliciously.

[cupandsaucer]

Another way I understand this is:

Sometimes incompetence gets to a point where it will have the same effects as malice, and even if you were not being malicious, you still have a responsibility to own the consequences of your ignorance.

Accountability is necessary for society to work properly and for relationships to grow trust.

If someone who should, doesn’t know something, they still have a responsibility to others to deal with present consequences and do better next time.

Simple interaction I had the other day to illustrate that:

A lady cut in line in front of me at the drugstore.

I decided to let go and wait for her to go first, because ain’t nobody got time for that. A person who was with her pointed out that I had been waiting in line.

She looked around, said a little flippantly, “No, she wasn’t,” then thought better and asked me, “were you?”

“I was, actually,” I said, “but it’s fine, you can go.”

She immediately left her place and opened space for me. “Oh, my God, I’m so sorry, I didn’t notice, please go ahead. My head is not right these days, I’m so worried about-” how she is sick and taking some new meds, etc, and still insisted that I check out before her when I said again that it was fine.

She was not malicious, she was distracted, but as soon as she was made aware of her mistake she apologized and took the steps to fix it.

I payed for my stuff, said, “don’t worry about it, hope you get well soon” and went on my way, feeling a bit better about humanity in general.

If you found you’re in the wrong, knowing that mistakes are an inescapable part of life makes it easier to admit them and fix things with grace.

But in general, assuming ignorance/incompetence instead of malice dials situations down from offenses to simply annoyances.

It’s not that humanity sucks. It’s just that people make mistakes, which is a much less cynical way of approaching life.

[pmamtraveller]

UNHELD — Lina Poluna, 2026, Oil on canvas

[majchic]

[mihail-71vnblog]

Apollonia Saintclair.

[remanence-of-love]

[stillmybeatingmind]

[finelythreadedsky]

obsessed with the way epic manhood is defined as being remembered– doing great deeds that will be the stuff of song for generations to come, dying in glory and being memorialized by tombs that inscribe greatness on the physical landscape– and epic womanhood is defined as keeping memory alive– helen weaving the images of men about to die, penelope weaving laertes’s glory into his shroud, cassandra raising the cry and andromache the lament for hector–

something about manhood as passive and womanhood as active in relation to memory is just… such an incredible way of framing things

[finelythreadedsky]

oh and the way it’s helen who calls it κακὸν μόρον, ὡς καὶ ὀπίσσω ἀνθρώποισι πελώμεθ᾽ ἀοίδιμοι ἐσσομένοισι (a terrible fate, that we will become the songs of men yet to be)!

because helen wants to be a storyteller, helen is meant to be a storyteller. helen wants to encode men’s lives in tapestry and eulogy. that’s how we see her when she’s left on her own: striving for domesticity and simplicity, not fame. she is, in homer, the ideal woman, not just beautiful but devoted to her family, modest and hardworking, and so very aware of the responsibility of carrying the memories of those who die.

but her curse is to be the stuff of stories, not a storyteller. the very epitome of woman, yet cut off from the purpose of womanhood within epic.

[menstars]

[devils-queen]

666

[devils-queen]

666

[devils-queen]

666

[kosmogrl]

[fuzzbby]

Ye Mao.

[queenluciusgaga]

Miss Lucylicious Malfoy about to go and release the Dark Lord’s sex tape before snorting a few lines of coke and hitting the muggle clubs xx 💋

https://archiveofourown.org/works/77830376/chapters/203905426

[mlobsters]

merlin (1998) tv miniseries, dir. steve barron