We Can Say And Do Hard Things With Kindness

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[ohnopeh]

i find it incredibly funny and telling seeing ian's reaction to mickey going to a hipster concert with his 'boyfriend'

he's there making faces and describing them looking at mickey as in 'this is everything you hate, are you for real?'

i love how his reaction is to laugh and not to feel jealous at mickey ''trying'' to ''fit in'' for the guy, cause he knows he's just doing that to keep the whole ''i've moved on'' thing going and byron. it also made me think how this is what ian did with his other relationships, trying so hard to be loved. he knows that doesn't work and that mickey isn't like that so he doesn't feel threatened by ian's poundland's version. but ian? ian had to listen to trevor's music, tried to be ''cool'' and go to the club cause trevor kept pushing himself over ian i'mnotafraidofanything gallagher.

i feel like ian's need to fit where people tell him to increased with s4 when he was maniac and away from his family. him being at the club, having ''regulars'' and parties (e.x. the one he went with mickey) he had this whole life that he didn't like but kept on shoving on himself cause he thought that's what he has to do to be loved. but then he's with mickey and s5 has him move on from that life as he's with someone who doesn't make him feel like he needs to try and pretend being someone else. s6 happens and the whole EMT is amazing but still, ian is still being used in ways (making caleb's father's angry + fucking a girl) so people want him just cause he fits with their needs and not what they can share together. its always ian giving to others. s7 with the whole trevor thing felt so awkward, he made ian feel like shit for not being up to date with every lgbtq term. trevor's group was basically this

despite that, ian was never enough. trevor kept telling him off and showing how cool and superior he is compared to ian. which is why i love how ian can see through mickey's bullshit, knowing that doing so its just trying too hard, not being genuine. its not what mickey and ian are. ''can't we just be ian and mickey?''

and i think that also reflects on s11 arc for them. ian wants to make the marrige work, he doesn't want mickey to regret it so he tries so hard, but by doing so they struggle to understand each others at first. they both want monogamy but a misunderstanding makes them both think the other wants to include people in their sex life. debbie and mickey point out that ian gets influenced by lip and that he doesn't have other friends. he thinks they seem it as something bad, something he needs to change. so what does he do? he decides that he and his husband are going to have gay friends and do the whole 'sex with others' thing. what's funny is that they both know they don't want that so what does ian do to convince mickey to tag along? he makes him jealous

''...who knows what will happen?'' and mickey sees through his bullshit

he's like ''are you really pulling this shit on me?'' so when he reminds ian what their decision was, ian tells him ''then i guess we should make some friends together.'' he tags along, they hang out with other gay people just like the ones trevor was friend with. but this time ian is comfortable saying that's not going to do it for him. but mickey? he's is a little shit and wants ian to learn a lesson so they stay till the night and all that shit. but THEN

they come back from the shitty hang out and mickey knows! he knows that ian finally understands. ian didn't have fun, ian didn't want to be with them, didn't want to force that lifestyle cause this time he's not with someone who's asking him to do that. ian even says

mickey's face is a clear ''no shit, sherlock.'' despite being himself with mickey, he's still struggling to accept that mickey wants ''all of the fucking versions of me.'' so he tries to force what he thinks will be the best for mickey, for them. which is also why he regrets getting the house on the west side after mickey's breakdown. he did sign the paper cause mickey was the first one to suggest checking it out, he knows that mickey deserves more than being a ''southside trash'' but he pushed it without giving mickey a chance to elaborate it. once ian finally realises that, he's willing to take a step back go back to where mickey is comfortable. this time though, mickey knows that ian is doing it for them and to show mickey his life is so much more than being what his father wanted him to become. and then the anniversary day? i have this headcanon that ian didn't say anything first because he wanted to check if mickey still cared about it, if he didn't regret getting married to ian. after a year together ian tried and 'failed' to make things work the way he thought they were supposed to be. is mickey still 'fucking crazy' for wanting that? so he waits, tries to remind him. they go to the alibi and ian has given up, he doesn't want to go out, he wants to go home and he's so desperate for mickey to remember their anniversary before the day ends. so he tells him but mickey reaction is anything but hurtful to ian. patting him on the shoulder and saying ''that's great.''

he must be thinking, 'this is the same person that fought so hard for us to get married, went all crazy over it and planned to kill his father for ruining it-- and now that we've hit the one year mark he's forgotten and just pat me on the shoulder?' cause ian knows what it feels like to be loved by mickey and he doesn't see it in that moment, he's scared.

the face he makes once he realises that he planned a big surprise for him, for them. for their love? its like he can finally breathe, they're okay, they're going to be okay. because they're ian and mickey and they love each other and go through everything together. ''thick and thin all that shit.''

and finally he knows he can stop trying so hard to fit somewhere he doesn't want to be, because he's loved for who he is, with all of his flaws that others made him think he wasn't worth the trouble. but just like ian makes mickey free, mickey himself makes ian feel free.

bonus 'mickey's ''no way i would forget about that'' expression.'

[ohnopeh]

i find it incredibly funny and telling seeing ian's reaction to mickey going to a hipster concert with his 'boyfriend'

he's there making faces and describing them looking at mickey as in 'this is everything you hate, are you for real?'

i love how his reaction is to laugh and not to feel jealous at mickey ''trying'' to ''fit in'' for the guy, cause he knows he's just doing that to keep the whole ''i've moved on'' thing going and byron. it also made me think how this is what ian did with his other relationships, trying so hard to be loved. he knows that doesn't work and that mickey isn't like that so he doesn't feel threatened by ian's poundland's version. but ian? ian had to listen to trevor's music, tried to be ''cool'' and go to the club cause trevor kept pushing himself over ian i'mnotafraidofanything gallagher.

i feel like ian's need to fit where people tell him to increased with s4 when he was maniac and away from his family. him being at the club, having ''regulars'' and parties (e.x. the one he went with mickey) he had this whole life that he didn't like but kept on shoving on himself cause he thought that's what he has to do to be loved. but then he's with mickey and s5 has him move on from that life as he's with someone who doesn't make him feel like he needs to try and pretend being someone else. s6 happens and the whole EMT is amazing but still, ian is still being used in ways (making caleb's father's angry + fucking a girl) so people want him just cause he fits with their needs and not what they can share together. its always ian giving to others. s7 with the whole trevor thing felt so awkward, he made ian feel like shit for not being up to date with every lgbtq term. trevor's group was basically this

despite that, ian was never enough. trevor kept telling him off and showing how cool and superior he is compared to ian. which is why i love how ian can see through mickey's bullshit, knowing that doing so its just trying too hard, not being genuine. its not what mickey and ian are. ''can't we just be ian and mickey?''

and i think that also reflects on s11 arc for them. ian wants to make the marrige work, he doesn't want mickey to regret it so he tries so hard, but by doing so they struggle to understand each others at first. they both want monogamy but a misunderstanding makes them both think the other wants to include people in their sex life. debbie and mickey point out that ian gets influenced by lip and that he doesn't have other friends. he thinks they seem it as something bad, something he needs to change. so what does he do? he decides that he and his husband are going to have gay friends and do the whole 'sex with others' thing. what's funny is that they both know they don't want that so what does ian do to convince mickey to tag along? he makes him jealous

''...who knows what will happen?'' and mickey sees through his bullshit

he's like ''are you really pulling this shit on me?'' so when he reminds ian what their decision was, ian tells him ''then i guess we should make some friends together.'' he tags along, they hang out with other gay people just like the ones trevor was friend with. but this time ian is comfortable saying that's not going to do it for him. but mickey? he's is a little shit and wants ian to learn a lesson so they stay till the night and all that shit. but THEN

they come back from the shitty hang out and mickey knows! he knows that ian finally understands. ian didn't have fun, ian didn't want to be with them, didn't want to force that lifestyle cause this time he's not with someone who's asking him to do that. ian even says

mickey's face is a clear ''no shit, sherlock.'' despite being himself with mickey, he's still struggling to accept that mickey wants ''all of the fucking versions of me.'' so he tries to force what he thinks will be the best for mickey, for them. which is also why he regrets getting the house on the west side after mickey's breakdown. he did sign the paper cause mickey was the first one to suggest checking it out, he knows that mickey deserves more than being a ''southside trash'' but he pushed it without giving mickey a chance to elaborate it. once ian finally realises that, he's willing to take a step back go back to where mickey is comfortable. this time though, mickey knows that ian is doing it for them and to show mickey his life is so much more than being what his father wanted him to become. and then the anniversary day? i have this headcanon that ian didn't say anything first because he wanted to check if mickey still cared about it, if he didn't regret getting married to ian. after a year together ian tried and 'failed' to make things work the way he thought they were supposed to be. is mickey still 'fucking crazy' for wanting that? so he waits, tries to remind him. they go to the alibi and ian has given up, he doesn't want to go out, he wants to go home and he's so desperate for mickey to remember their anniversary before the day ends. so he tells him but mickey reaction is anything but hurtful to ian. patting him on the shoulder and saying ''that's great.''

he must be thinking, 'this is the same person that fought so hard for us to get married, went all crazy over it and planned to kill his father for ruining it-- and now that we've hit the one year mark he's forgotten and just pat me on the shoulder?' cause ian knows what it feels like to be loved by mickey and he doesn't see it in that moment, he's scared.

the face he makes once he realises that he planned a big surprise for him, for them. for their love? its like he can finally breathe, they're okay, they're going to be okay. because they're ian and mickey and they love each other and go through everything together. ''thick and thin all that shit.''

and finally he knows he can stop trying so hard to fit somewhere he doesn't want to be, because he's loved for who he is, with all of his flaws that others made him think he wasn't worth the trouble. but just like ian makes mickey free, mickey himself makes ian feel free.

bonus 'mickey's ''no way i would forget about that'' expression.'

[mickeygifs]

[mickeygifs]

[hella-cious]

I had a dream last night about shameless and dream logic mixed up the whole “Terry’s Jewish fiance and failed attempt to convert” thing. And so in dream logic Mickey finds out he’s Jewish cause his mom was Jewish (was it the fiance? Another hook up of Terry’s? Who knows!). And then somehow there was a sweet story of Mickey getting to know his Jewish neighbors and embracing that part of his heritage while hiding this from his neo-Nazi dad.

I read a fic about Terry’s frustratingly written backstory with the line “maybe he'd been caught up in the romance of it as well; maybe that Nazi’s son really did belong on Mount Sinai. Wouldn't that be kind of beautiful?” And wouldn’t that be beautiful if it was Mickey?

(Incredible fic is “I could recite the Torah on one foot” by makeapointofhavingfun).

Like maybe he grew up knowing his mom was Jewish because his dad used it to insult him when he was in a drunken rage. So he grew up with it as a source of shame/a problem/something he disliked about himself. (Definitely his bio mom was not the mother of the household).

But for some reason he winds up at a neighbor’s house on some holiday and is invited to sit and eat. He becomes something like friends with the family, which he has to hide from Terry. When do they discover who his dad is/what Terry believes? Does Mickey tell them his mom was Jewish (he wouldn’t consider himself Jewish at this point) and he’s not just a gentile accepting their hospitality?

There’s just a lot of potential here for Mickey to find some source of family or identity in something positive and meaningful.

[hella-cious]

ACAB for all the normal reasons but also cause once a cop stopped to watch me struggle at parallel parking and finally wrestle it somewhat okay. Then he pulled up and rolled down his window and laughed at me.

[infectiouspiss]

you have to stay alive. you're going to be such a beautiful middle aged freak. young freaks will see you in the street and know that things can be okay.

[arsenicalikat]

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Maybe we should dump him in the river?

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I wouldn't have said it if I knew he was here.

Summary

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I don’t exist without you!

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Let's see if we can do it better this time around?

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"There is some crazy bitch running up and down the road with a gun. She keeps saying I tried to kill her." Ian looked around, confused. "Go inside; Sammi has a gun."

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He's just a kid, man!

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Have you talked to Mick about it?

Summary

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It's Going to Kill Me

Summary

"You don't get to fucking do that." He shook Ian with all his might. "You don't get to say things like I love you and fucking leave." "Mick," Ian started. "No! you fucking listen. I have done everything I can to keep you safe." Ian shoved him, "You don't get it! It's going to kill me! I can't stay here; I can't pretend I don't love you." "Then don't." Mickey had convinced him to stay, and they built a family together with Svetlana, and the three of them raised a beautiful boy named Yev. Everything was going great until Ian got sick.

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Times Remembered

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Broken Nose and Uttered Words

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The day you were born, you were etched with your soulmate’s first words. For many, that sparked joy and filled them with excitement, but Ian stared at his with disdain. He knew exactly who his soulmate was, and he wished he could hate him. Most people’s parents looked at soulmate marks with love and care, but not his. The only thing his mother had ever done right was cover his mark from day one. Sure his father still knew what it said, but no one else did, and that was a good thing. Because his soulmate obviously hated him.

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One Broken Nose Too Many

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Summary

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Scenes that could have happened in 11'08 and after

Summary

This is my take on what could have happened after everything went down on 11x08. with Terry and Frank and Ian and Mickey.

Series

Part 1 of Gallavich angst/comfort snapshots

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Summary

After Frank punched Ian in a booze-fueled confused state, they had fallen asleep before Mickey asked any of his burning questions, and Ian was glad for it. He dreaded to imagine what his nightmare had been if he had to talk more bout it if he had to tell Mickey about Frank shoving him from a moving car as he screamed evicted. Frank had never beat him like Terry beat his kids. It was always little stupid things, like shoving his face towards a hot eye on the stove or kicking him in the back of the knee while he was on the stairs.

Series

Part 2 of Gallavich angst/comfort snapshots

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We're moving to the West Side

Summary

Frank had left him in the basement for three days. He had only heard bits and pieces, but he knew Frank was a shitty dad. He was drug back to prison, watching Ian pace like a caged animal. He never really thought about it. Mickey sipped his coffee, lost in thought. He was thinking of the nights Ian would wake up in a cold sweat and hop out of his bunk to run his fingers along the cell door. It had been irritating, but Mickey never said anything. Prison made people claustrophobic, so he never thought it could be something else. He had more burning questions, though. How often was he locked up? How young was he when it started? Was it always at this house?

Series

Part 3 of Gallavich angst/comfort snapshots

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Let his ashes float away in the wind

Summary

The pain Ian felt in his chest made no sense to him. He wasn’t sad or hurt, or he shouldn’t be. He didn’t feel anger; he knew that for a fact, but he couldn’t place the emotion he did feel. Ian scoffed to himself. Is he supposed to grieve a man who wasn’t his father? A man who had hurt him and neglected him? He wasn’t sure, but it seemed like he was. None of it made any sense, but at least he hadn’t cried. He was strangely numb until Mickey asked him if he was okay. Then that stupid emotion had bubbled in his chest.

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Panic at the Whole Foods!

Summary

Ian has a panic attack at Whole Foods, and Mickey doesn't know why. Ian tells him about a time where he was hurt, and Mickey makes him feel better.

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I’m a damn good f*ck

Summary

Ian froze. Lip had just called him fat. Never had he been anything other than a skinny twink, or that’s what most of the men he’s met had said. He looked down, noticing his stomach was not flat anymore. He had lost his abs in prison, but he had been fit, muscular even. Mickey shows him that he is sexy as f*ck, and he loves him no matter what!

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Fucking Mother's Day

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Mother’s day. Fucking Mother’s day was coming up. The year before, they had skated past it without thinking about it. They had just gotten married, and Ian didn’t realize that they had missed it until a week later. The guilt ate him alive. He hadn’t been there when she died. He had betrayed Mickey and left him at the border, and all had had to show for it was a felony and a dead mother.

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Summary

Ian had burned every bridge there was to burn. He no longer had any dreams or aspirations with his future ruined and Mickey in prison. He was numb, and there seemed to be only one answer. There was one more bridge, but it wasn't one to burn; it was a final stop. When all hope seems to be lost, one phone call changes everything.

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Juvie Blues

Summary

Ian didn’t owe him anything, but it had been nice to see him every week. He hadn’t realized how close they had gotten until that pedo walked in on them. He had gone to Juvie instead of outing himself, but months later he saw something he had never expected. Ian Fucking Gallagher in Juvie. What the fuck?

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[hella-cious]

In the weirdest version of appropriation:

Stanley mugs were made for blue collar workers to last forever and a day on the worksite. They became a trend and a tiktok thing.

And now I get embarrassed having one at my blue collar job.

[sunlian]

your honour my client merely just got a little bit genghis khan

[hella-cious]

Something I’ve noticed a couple times and is a bit under my skin.

The shameless fandom knows that Ian wasn’t bipolar in season 1, right? It’s not that he wasn’t diagnosed/didn’t know. He just wasn’t bipolar.

It’s not something you’re born with. It’s something that develops or is triggered.

He inherited a genetic predisposition, but it’s not the same thing as inheriting sickle cell or a widows peak.

In season 1 and season 2 he wasn’t bipolar. There’s an argument to be made all the awfulness of season 3 brought it on, or maybe that’s just when his time was due.

[milk-o-bitch]

Mickey was screwed

The first time you do it is always a bit awkward specially if you're doing it with someone who wanted to beat you up hours ago.

Their first time wasn't the exception, it was also fast and angry. Ian was angry with Mickey for taking the gun from Kash and Mickey was angry with himself for letting the heterosexual facade fall. Plus they couldn't take their sweet time because Terry was napping in the living room.

Ian tried to put his face in Mickey's neck which earned him a smack on the head, and the same thing happened when he tried to hold Mickeys hand. They opted to not face each other which was far less intimate, something that Ian hated.

The second time was really uncomfortable because they were in a freezer. The cold didn't bother them that much (both of them at some point have had to shower with cold water) but doing it while you're standing up can get a little bit exhausting. This time Ian didn't get his head smacked when he placed his hand over Mick's, but touching his chest was a big no.

The saying goes third time's a charm and their third time was perfect. They wanted to go somewhere where you could get a little more privacy, so the abandoned building Mickey hanged out by himself when he needed time to think and de-stress was perfect. The coats were no blanket but it was puffy enough to lay on them.

It was getting cold but the heat of their bodies made it feel like summer. This time they did hold hands (for a brief minute) and Ian could touch him wherever he pleased. He would dare to think that Mickey was starting to like him.

What Ian didn't know was that Mickey craved his touch more than oxygen, he wanted to be caressed by Ian, hold his hand and even tenderly kiss him, but he would never admit it. Because that would change everything, it would be more than a hook up and the word relationship scared Mick (more than Terry).

After they finished he told Ian to go, to avoid being seen with him, but the truth was he needed some time to think. And the conclusion was that he was fucked, because he was falling in love with the freckled dork. He would do anything to stop feeling warm every time Ian looked at him, to stop feeling butterflies every time he touched his hand, and to stop the need to kiss him every time their faces got too close.

Mickey was screwed.

[hella-cious]

At some point Ian must have said “I’m not going to fuck you if you don’t shower” and then lo and behold the dirtiest white boy in America became squeaky clean

(That or Noel was tired of the makeup department painting dirt on his face)

[xxshamelesslovexx]

Mickey kissing Ian for the first time in S3E5 'The Sins of My Caretaker'.

[sweetperversiongirl]

[hella-cious]

You ever think about the fact that the first word their kid will sound out will probably be fuck? Mickey will be sitting on the couch with a kindergartener on his lap, reading books cause “Ian says it’s good for their development and shit”. (And because he adores watching them learn and become a person). He even does the whole putting his finger under the word he’s reading thing! (Ian had to teach him that one, and he wonders what it says about his own development and shit).

But the little one is snuggled up on daddy’s lap as he traces each line. And then starts stuttering out “Ff-uh-ss-kuh”.

“Huh?”

“Ff—“ they tap his pinky finger. “Uh—“ then his ring. “Ss-“ on the C, and then “Kuh”.

Mickey’s heart melts all over again, like the first time he held them and like it’s done a hundred times since. “The C and the K make one “kuh” sound together.”

Little one nods and sounds out again “Ff-uh-kuh. Fuck!” Then beams up at him.

“Yeah, fuck! Holy fuck did you just read?!” He’d scoop them up and run over to Ian, “Gallagher! Our kid is a genius!”

[agro-carnist]

I wonder if my love for parasitic worms but readiness to kill them with drugs would be considered speciesist. Can I love these animals while I kill them? 🤔

[hella-cious]

Guinea worms my love and also thing I want to help eradiate….

[myfandomrealitea]

Honestly you people need to start thinking about fanfiction like a restaurant.

You do not have to order the salmon if you don't like salmon.

If I order the salmon, I am not forcing you to eat the salmon. Nor are you obligated to order it just because I am.

If we are going with the intention of sharing food, that's okay! I happen to like steak too. I don't need to order the salmon. I'm capable of going to the restaurant and not ordering the salmon. We can order the steak.

There is a whole menu of things you can have. The salmon is just an option. We can even find a restaurant that doesn't serve salmon at all.

Yes, I know some people are allergic to salmon. But I'm not going up to them and force-feeding it to them. The only way my salmon can hurt them is if they come to our table and take the salmon.

The only way you'll expose yourself to my salmon and the unpleasantness of eating it is if I tell you my dish has salmon in it and you insist on having a bite anyway.

You're midway through your meal and realize it has salmon in it? Okay. Lets send it back and order something else. Maybe you didn't see it in the ingredients list. Or maybe the chef didn't put it down.

Its really that simple.

[daniwib]

Excellent analogy