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Distraction Grounding SOS
1. Scream as loud as you can
2. Punch a pillow
3. Throw a cushion against a wall
4. Kick a football against a wall
5. Squeeze ice really hard
6. Tear up newspaper or a telephone directory
7. Draw on the place you want to cut or harm
8. Play loud music and dance
9. Write words on yourself in pen
10. Do some exercise: walk, swim, jog etc.
11. Write a list of your achievements
12. Write a letter
13. Make a wish list
14. Make a gratitude list
15. Call a helpline
16. Allow yourself to cry
17. draw, paint, finger paint, sculpt how you feel
18. Write a poem/story/diary
19. Scribble a word again and again graffiti it
20. Deface a magazine
21. Draw yourself on paint
22. Photoshop an image
23. Take some photos
24. Play an instrument/sing
25. Make a memory box/scrapbook
26. Write a different ending to a story
27. Watch a foreign language channel and make up your own words or interpretations
28. Create a secret code
29. Create your own cartoon character or superhero
30. Have a nice bath
31. Wrap yourself up in your duvet
32. Use aromatherapy oils
33. Eat your favourite meal
34. Buy something special
35. Massage your arms/hands/feet
36. Stroke a pet
37. Have a cigarette
38. Paint your nails
39. Yoga/Meditation (You can get smartphone apps for these!)
40. Watch TV or a DVD
41. Play on the computer
42. Browse the web
43. Learn a new skill (Knitting, sewing, crochet etc.)
44. Make jewellery
45. Go through a photo album
46. Design your dream house
47. Have a debate
48. Build a house of cards
49. Make a paper chain of how many days you are clean
50. Make a t-shirt
51. Look for pictures in the clouds
52.Do some gardening
53. Wash the car
54. Go for a drive
55. Go to an arcade
56. Make a kite
57. Go shopping
58. Look at the stars
59. Catch up on some DIY/Housework
60. Rearrange your room
61. Redecorate your room
62. Give your pets a bath
63. Do some volunteering
64. Read
65. Study
66. Think about what you would like to change about your life and set goals and make a plan
* I know many of these are repeats but you never know when you might need reminding of things to do to ground/distract!! <3
Grounding
WHAT IS GROUNDING?
Grounding is a set of simple strategies to detach from emotional pain for example (cravings, self harm urges, emotional eating behaviour etc.) Grounding can also be a way of returning your attention to the outside world and away from yourself. In the case of dissociation.
WHY PRACTICE GROUNDING TECHNIQUES?
When you are overwhelmed with emotional pain, you need a way to detach so that you can gain control over your feelings and stay safe. As long as you are grounding, you are more likely to be able to overcome urges. Grounding ‘anchors’ you to reality.
Many people with PTSD and dissociative disorders struggle with either feeling too much (overwhelming emotions and memories) or too little (numbing and dissociation). In grounding, you attain balance between the two—conscious of reality and ability to tolerate it.
GUIDELINES:
§ Grounding can be done any time, anywhere and no one has to know.
· § Use grounding when you are: faced with a trigger, having a flashback or dissociating.
· § Keep your eyes open, look around the room, and make sure the light is good to stay in touch with the present.
· § Rate your mood before and after to test whether it worked. Before grounding, rate your level of
· § emotional pain, or your level of dissociation. Then re-rate it afterwards. Has it gone down?
· Try not to make judgements or think negatively. The idea is to distract from the negatives.
· § Stay neutral—no judgments of good or bad.
· § Focus on the present, not the past or future.
· § Grounding is much more active than relaxation exercises and focuses your attention.
Grounding is deemed to be a better way of coping with PTSD and dissociative disorders than relaxation practice. As during relaxation the focus is too much within the body, which at the worst may bring on flashbacks.
WAYS TO GROUND
MENTAL GROUNDING
o ♣ Describe to yourself in detail your surroundings: For example “The walls are white, there are three pink chairs and a blue sofa. There is a picture of a brown border collie on the wall with a gold frame around it.” You can do this out loud if appropriate, or in your head if you are in public.
o ♣ Play a game like “Scattergories” in your head or with a friend or family member. Choose a letter of the alphabet and try and come up with as many examples of a category you choose as you can. For example C … Boys names: Christopher, Curtis, Carl, Charles etc.
o ♣ Do an age progression. IThis can be particularly useful if you have dissociated or regressed to a younger alter or state. For example in my experiences I have an alter who is three. So I might say… Now I am four, I am at home with Mummy and Daddy and I can do (an example of an age appropriate activity) alone. Work your way up until you are back to your current age. This may not always work for little alters, but can help.
o ♣ Describe an everyday activity in great detail. For example if you like gardening “I open the shed door and pull out the lawn mower, I connect it to a power supply and climb on. I turn the key and put it into drive….”
o ♣ Imagine. For example make up a nice little story in your head, or out loud. “I am putting some roller skates on, and I am slowly gliding away from all my emotional suffering down a beautiful smooth lane, having fun listening to my favourite music LOUD!”
o ♣ Say a safety statement. ‘My name is _________; I am safe right now. I am in the present, not the past. I am in _____________ the date is _____________.
· ♣ Read something, saying each word to yourself. Or read each letter backwards so that you focus or the letters and not on the meaning of words.
· ♣ Use humour: For example have a “Funny Memory Bank” where you store up your favourite witty moments for those detached, rainy days.
· ♣ Count to 100 or say the alphabet very slowly or very fast.
· ♣ Repeat something meaningful to yourself, such as a prayer or quote. For example you could use the Serenity Prayer.
PHYSICAL GROUNDING
û Run cool or warm water over your hands.
û Grab tightly onto your chair as hard as you can.
· û Touch various objects around you: a pen. keys, your clothing, the table, the walls. Pay close attention to colours, weights, textures etc.
· û Firmly stamp your feet on the floor, literally grounding yourself. Feel the tension of your feet against the pressure of the floor.
· û Carry a ground object in your pocket—a small object such as a rock, stone, crystal, bead, piece of string or cloth, or a stress ball that you can touch whenever you feel triggered.
· û Jump up and down.
· û Stretch reach upwards and pull yourself tall. Extend your arms, legs, fingers and toes.
· û Walk slowly, noticing each footstep.
· û Eat something yummy. Notice the flavours, textures and feelings that come up for you.
SOOTHING GROUNDING
· ♥ Use Cheerleading statements, as if you were talking to a small child. For example “You are having a difficult time adjusting to these chanes, but you are doing so well. You should be proud of yourself.”
· ♥ Think of favorites. Think of your favorite color, animal, season, food, time of day, TV show.
· ♥ Picture people you care about. Even get a photobook made of positive pictures or pictures of people you love! Such a simple nice way to ground, and you can get A4 photo books at the moment from GroupOn for under £7!! (I in no way endorse them I just thought it was a good offer!)
· ♥ Remember the words to an inspiring song, quotation or poem that you like or feel positively about. Maybe write out the words and decorate it for your wall.
· ♥ Remember a safe place. Describe a place that you find very soothing it could be when you went on holiday to the beach, or walking in the woods. Or just a time you felt safe and peaceful at home in your living room or in bed.
· ♥ Plan out a safe treat for yourself, such as a trip to a coffee shop with a friend, making a nice dinner or a bath with some nice toiletries or candles if you feel safe to use them
· ♥ Think of things you are looking forward to in the next week. Perhaps schedule your time so you build some structure for chores and pleasurable activities. It can help to know what you are doing and also not just sit at home with nothing to do. This can cause difficulties.
WHAT IF GROUNDING DOESN’T WORK?
♠ Practice as often as possible. Even when you don’t feel overwhelmed or dissociative. This way it will come more naturally to you when you are struggling.
♠ Practice faster. Speeding up the pace gets you focused on the outside world quickly. ♠ Try grounding for a Ioooong time 20 mins at least, and then repeat !! ♠ Try to notice whether you do better with physical or mental or soothing grounding.
♠ Create your own methods of grounding. Any method you make up may be worth much more than those you read here because it is yours.
♠ Start grounding early in a negative mood cycle. Start when you begin to feel the early warning signs of dissociation or when you have just started having a flashback.
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But what if it’s true
it still doesn’t help. you can call yourself as many names as you want, but it won’t make you a better, happier, healthier or kinder person.
punishment doesn’t work. only positive reinforcement does. be kind to yourself and get better.
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A Singlet’s Guide to DID/OSDD
This post is written from the perspective of an Singlet, and is made with the intention of sharing the dos-and-don’ts of interacting with systems.
A lot of people don’t know about DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder), and can we really blame them? I mean, unless you study psychology or have a friend with DID/OSDD your most likely sources of information is going to be movies, shows, or an article for “Top 10 Strange Mental Illnesses That Actually Exist” that happened to show up on your news-feed.
Not only that, but when we do find a source that has some good information they don’t actually call it DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder); instead, they call it by it’s old-name like we still live in the 90s. Like come on at least address it properly, it’s been out as a dissociative disorder for 26 years!
Anyways, all jokes aside, here is a list of what singlets should know about DID/OSDD and interactive with those that have it:
It isn’t called MPD (Multiple Personality Disorder).
It isn’t called having a split personality either.
It isn’t a personality disorder at all and please, stop saying it is.
No, you don’t have “multiple personalities” just because you act different around different people. Also, your jokes aren’t funny.
No, you don’t have a “split personality” because you attacked your ‘friend’ once or blacked out from anger.
A collective of alters is called a system.
It isn’t like the movie split, stop asking.
Also, stop asking if someone’s alters are dangerous.
No, they’re not going to hurt you and are actually more likely to hurt themselves because of the nature (and cause) of the disorder.
Not all systems can decide when they switch with their alters, and even if they can, it isn’t for your entertainment.
That means, don’t ask if they can switch to ‘prove’ anything.
Also, don’t ask about a system’s trauma and abuse. It isn’t cool to ask a singlet that is an abuse survivor that, so don’t ask a system.
You don’t have a right to their personal information.
You aren’t entitled to this information just because an alter decided to share their memories with you. Also, not all alters will share.
Just, don’t assume an alter owes you anything. Period.
Just because one alter likes you, doesn’t mean they all do.
Don’t get angry if an alter you’re friend’s with can’t front at the moment. Your friend isn’t the only one that exists.
You should try to get to know all the alters, not just one.
There are different kinds of alters, including littles, fictional introjects (fictives), factional introjects (factives), and non-human alters.
Littles are child alters, and are actual children.
They are not adults pretending to be kids.
They are in no way associated with ddlg/clg/cgl-re.
If you wouldn’t do it to a kid, don’t do it to a child alter.
Fictives aren’t actually the character they’re based off of, and should be treated as real people, rather then part of their source.
They aren’t created just because someone really likes a character, and a lot of the times, isn’t even the host’s favorite.
If you start gushing over how they’re your favorite character, stop. I can tell you that you’re just going to make them uncomfortable.
A dissociative system cannot occur naturally.
It is not related to a spiritual experience and is trauma-based.
If you’ve spoken to an endogenic (natural/spiritual) system, don’t assume that a DID/OSDD system functions the same.
If you’ve spoken to another dissociative system before, don’t assume the next DID/OSDD system you talk to functions the same.
Just, don’t assume anything about someone’s system.
If you want to know more about DID/OSDD make sure you’re getting information from a credible source, please.
Listen to those with DID/OSDD about their systems.
Do I Just Not Care or Am I Dissociating Myself from all My Feelings Again: a novel by me
Positivity For DID/OSDD Systems
Shoutout to the people with DID/OSDD that are still hurting
To the people that live with their abusers
To the people who can’t afford therapy
To the people who can afford therapy but are struggling to find the right therapist because being with the wrong one can do more harm than good
To the people who don’t live with their abuser(s) but still see them daily
To the people who are trying to get away but can’t or don’t know how to
To the people who’s abusers still harass them even after they got away
And to anyone else with DID/OSDD out there that is still hurting, you deserve support, we believe in you!
To anyone who has DID/OSDD:
You are not faking. You are real, your alters are real, your fragments are real.
You are a real system if you’re active every day, you’re a real system if you have activity once a month, and you’re a real system if you’re active once a year.
You have a dissociative disorder no matter what anyone says.
We all are individuals in our own mind, and that means we heal and accept ourselves at completely different paces.
With love, The Chaotic Collective 🔅
Them: you shouldn’t be learning about it, or telling anyone about it!! multiple personalities??? you shouldn’t be glorifying it!!
Me: [who constantly deals with the negative stigma against mental illness, struggles daily with insomnia, nightmares, flashbacks, amnesia, fear, isolation, who tries to seek out happiness and friendship and community in any way I know how] …..why not?
