Help Guinea Pig

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I've been dating a girl for a month, and she's extremely clingy and I feel like she likes me a lot. Problem is I'm very apathetic and don't care about romance at all ( possibly aro but I can't tell yet ) I know breaking up with her will be messy but this relationship is just too much energy for me to keep up. Any tips?

Just explain it. “Hey, listen, this relationship is still pretty early, and I’m not feeling comfortable with it. I thought I’d be okay, but I’m not. I think it might be relationships in general, it’s something that I have to think about. But I can’t do that while in a relationship. I’m sorry but we have to break up.”

-Lou the Lobster

Don’t fill your head with worries.

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tthematics

lately there have been little things throughout my day just reminding me that I’m beautiful and that I’m lovely and that I’m allowed to take up space and that I’m allowed to be loud and I’m allowed to be soft and I’m allowed to think positively about myself and I’m allowed to not want negative people in my life and I’m allowed to feel everything all the time and its just really nice to have reminders that life is lovely and there is good in everyday and I’m allowed to love myself

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To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with the people, places, and things that create all the noise in your life

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i started referring to my intrusive thoughts by my dead name but people still refer to me by my dead name which makes it kinda worse. What can i do to fix this?

I actually heard it’s better to attribute your deadname to a happy thing?I read a post on here about someone playing pokemon and naming their favourite pokemon their deadname. (Here it is!!) Then when they heard their deadname they thought about their pokemon that they loved very much instead of themselves and it helped them not feel awful about hearing the name anymore.You could also get a stuffed animal you really like and call it that, or something?Calling your intrusive thoughts by your deadname is just going to make you feel even worse about hearing or seeing the name, and is gonna be super counterproductive! Especially if people still call you by it - it must feel like people are calling you something even more inherently negative?I can see how awful it must feel. I’m currently in the “I’d prefer to just never see or hear my deadname” phase because if I focus on it, it hurts a lot. Luckily my name is nearly legally changed.

- Solar the Sea Turtle

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When we invest ourselves in deep personal relationships, we take a risk. We could always get hurt. The more we expose ourselves, the greater the potential for pain. No one can hurt us like someone we’ve trusted with our heart. No one.

Dave Earley

Don’t take them for granted. No matter how much someone loves you, everyone has their limit of feeling unappreciated.

Charles J. Orlando

CHO and Charlie love you all. CHO encourages all of you to seize the day and power through. It’ll be a hard day for them and they’ll be thinking of you and your struggles.

#positivity

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i have a crush on this boy but my friend also does, and i feel like he likes me as well but i dont want to hurt my friend.

I suggest talking to your friend about it. Ask if they would be okay with it if you asked him out, or dated him. If they say no, then don’t do it. If they say it’s okay, then that’s up to you.

Talk, always talk. Keep communication open and clear. That’s the best way to avoid hurt feelings.

-Lou the Lobster

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Hi sea fam, I just got the news that a relative of mine passed away in the night. She was really young so this came as a shock to everyone. I wasn't particularly close to her, as she lived multiple states away and was at least 15 years my senior, but I still don't really feel sad. Like at all. It might not have fully hit me yet, but it is kind of concerning to me because I am usually an emotional person. Any advice?

Hi baby~

Considering you weren’t very close with her, no, I wouldn’t say it’s unusual to not have a big reaction. I’ve, unfortunately, lost a large handful of family members the last few years, some i was very close to and some I was not, and I too am a very emotional person (i’m extremely reactionary and will cry ant the drop of a hat for no reason ugh).

My reactions to the losses were all different, I’ll give a couple examples. When i lost my maternal great-grandmother i was very upset and a little disoriented for a few days as i tried to process and understand the loss. Whereas when i lost my paternal great-grandmother my reaction was a little underwhelming considering i’d spent a majority of my childhood with her vs. my other great-grandmother. I was almost unfazed to be completely honest. And when I then lost my maternal great-grandfather and my mom’s older sister i was a damn floodgate of emotion that could not be stopped. I sobbed heavily for DAYS after we lost them and i’d spent about the same amount of time with the two of them as my maternal great-grandmother.

I wouldn’t worry yourself over the non-reaction, Baby, it doesn’t mean you didn’t care for her or anything like that, our brains just sometimes process grief different ways for different people.

I hope I could help <3 <3

Love,

Sebastian the Sea Otter

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I have my second dose of my newest treatment, Stelara, coming up, and it’s left me feeling quite powerless.

Because of this, I decided to choose something medical that I had control over and do it and explain it to people to sort of liberate myself from the helplessness that I’m feeling.

So with that said… WHAT’S ON YOUR FACE!

Reblog if you want to raise awareness about NG tubes and Crohn’s Disease in general!

helpguineapig

CHO made this in an attempt to cope with medical stress! Charlie and CHO just wanted to share this with you lovely humans!

- Charlie

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Stay away from people who make you feel that you are hard to love.

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I will breathe. I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level control me. I will simply breath. And it will be OK. Because I don’t quit.

Shayne Mcclendon