What do I need to know about dating with herpes?
Some people feel like their love life are end when they are confirmed to have herpes, but itâs just not true. People with herpes still have romantic relationships with each other, or with partners who donât have herpes.
Talking about STDs isnât the most fun conversation youâll ever have. But itâs super important to tell your partners the truth.
Thereâs no one way to talk about having an STD, but here are some tips that may help:
 1. Keep calm and carry on.
Millions of people have herpes, and plenty of them are in relationships. For most couples, herpes isnât a huge deal, try to go into the conversation with a calm, positive attitude. Having herpes is simply a health issue-it doesnât say anything about you as a person.
 2. Make it a two-way conversation.
Remember that STDs are very common. Your partner might have herpes too. So start by asking if theyâve ever been tested or had an STD before.
 3. Know your facts.
Thereâs a lot of misinformation about herpes out there, so read up on the facts and be prepared to set the record straight. Let your partner know there are ways to treat herpes and avoid passing it on during sex.
 4. Think about timing.
 Pick a time when you wonât be distracted or interrupted, and a place thatâs private and relaxed. If youâre nervous, you can talk it through with a friend first, or practice by talking to yourself. It sounds sily, but saying the words out loud can help you know what you want to say and feel more confident when you talk to your partner.
 5. Safety First.
If youâre afraid that a partner might hurt you, telling them in person might not be safe. Youâre probably better off with an e-mail, text, or phone call - or in extreme cases, not telling them at all.