You Can't Say You Can't Play
Discussion Questions:
- What predictions did you make about this book before you started reading?
-- From the title and title of our class, I thought the book would be more focused on play itself not being "allowed" in the classroom -- more technical -- didn't expect so much focus on feelings associated with play and "play relationships" between kids in class. Thought "You Can't Say You Can't Play" would relate to the negatives of play disappearing from the classroom, not a classroom rule.
- Paley's running is her play; what is an example of your play?
- "Is it fair for children in school to keep another child out of play? After all, this classroom belongs to all of us. It is not a private place, like our homes."
"Angelo: I think that's pretty sad. People that is alone they has water in their eyes."
"The way we do it, exclusion is written into the game of play. And play, as we know, will soon be the game of life." -- How would you address this "exclusion" in your classroom?
p. 27 -- teacher's role
-- Rejection
"The subject of rejection touches a universal sensitivity."
- Thoughts on Magpie stories?
- Thoughts on Paley questioning the students of other grades and reporting back to her K's? [she does a great job of treating them like people instead of five year olds -- also really dedicated to making a "big deal" out of an issue frequently overlooked -- dedicated to making things right for her kids]
"Seven year olds seem to like the notion that children ought to be strong enough to handle bad feelings, yet they remember being rejected and worry about the least hurtful way of rejecting someone else. It does not occur to them that rejection itself is the problem."
p. 56-57 -- What do you think of Paley's approach to the rule? Seems advanced/revolutionary for Kindergarten...but awesome. How (or would you even) would you do something like this in your classroom? Taking great care regarding all implications of the "rule" -- hesitant/reluctant to just declare the rule.
Is it fair? Will it work?
- Examine the difference in the students' opinions about the rule per grade.
p. 60 boys vs girls
p.68 outsiders
p. 70-72; analyze Magpie story - last line, "Why, Magpie, father is just like you. When he finds out that Beatrix is lonely, he'll probably invite her to tea every day."
"So much of teaching straddles the moral fence."
Compare and contrast Magpie stories with Paley's class








