Flawless Sawdust

we try, we learn, we know

[incalescentheart]

[herricahyadi]

Mental dan Sikap Anak-Anak TK Jepang

何度も涙を拭きながら、園児の挑戦 感動の10段跳び

Ini adalah anak-anak TK di Jepang dalam sebuah festival. Kegigihan serta dukungan dari orang banyak yang membuat seorang anak tetap berdiri kokoh. Saya terharu bagaimana dukungan ini diberikan dari mulai kawan-kawannya, gurunya, sampai orang-orang di sekitar sana. Meski ia harus mengusap air mata berkali-kali, mencoba beberapa kali. Namun kegagalan bukan jawaban. Nilai-nilai positif yang seperti ini yang mampu membangun karakter.

Sumber: klik.

[fildzahamalya]

Anak yang didukung sepenuh hati akan belajar memberikan dukungan secara tulus. Begitu selanjutnya hingga karakternya tertempa.

Dan kali ini saya yang mengusap mata..

[acutelesbian]

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

[fat-thin-skinny]

this fucks me up every single time

[acutelesbian]

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

[conceitedtrash]

This is so fucking important and I think it’s something I needed right now

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

How to Deal with hurt and Pain

1. Try and put into words exactly how you’re feeling. Is it the pain of rejection? Is it an overwhelming feeling of shame and self-loathing? Is it a sense of disbelief that you’ve been treated so cruelly by others? Is it a sense of utter desperation?

2. Try and find a way of expressing the pain. Sometimes we can tell the person who has hurt us– but often we feel that they won’t be responsive. If that is the case, find someone you can open up to. It’s really important that you have the chance to honestly express what you’re going through. If you feel there’s no-one you can talk to right now, then perhaps try journaling, or using some kind of art, like music or painting.

3. If the pain’s related to something that happened, admit that you can’t go back and change the past. You need to let it go and keep your eyes ahead. You are not defined by what happened to you, and you have what it takes to live a rich, rewarding life.

4. Related to this, forgive yourself and don’t hold on to regrets. Learn what you can – and then choose to move ahead. Don’t be a victim of your past, or other people.

5. Reconnect with the person that you were previously. Think of who you might have been if this had never happened. You can still be that person: they are still a part of you.

6. Focus on the things that bring you joy and happiness, and focus on those people who love care for you.

[interior-design-home]

[kushandwizdom]

growth is never comfortable. it’s always painful, heart wrenching, bone breaking, earth shattering. but it’s necessary.

Unknown (via kushandwizdom)

[kurniawangunadi]

Tulisan : Melepaskan

Perjuangan yang mungkin paling sulit dilakukan bukanlah memperjuangkan apa yang ingin dicapai/dimiliki, melainkan melepaskan apa-apa yang disenangi dan dicintai. Perjuangan untuk melepaskan segala bentuk kecintaan pada hal-hal yang memang tidak selayaknya mendapatkan lebih banyak cinta selain kepada Tuhan.

Perjuangan untuk melepaskan orang yang didambakan demi meraih keridhaan, perjuangan untuk melepaskan pagi demi bangun dan berjajar rapi di barisan jamaah subuh, perjuangan melepaskan gadget demi lebih bisa memerhatikan orang lain. Dan aneka bentuk kecintaan dan kecenderungan manusia yang lain.

Semakin hari, semakin tumbuh pemahaman baru yang membuatku semakin menyadari bahwa makna perjuangan itu bukanlah diukur dari apa yang didapatkan, melainkan apa yang menjadi tujuan dan bagaimana cara meraih tujuan itu.

Aku hanya khawatir tentang niat dan tujuan, ketika ternyata aku salah meletakkan niat dan tujuan itu. Maka, bagaimana Dia melihat perjuanganku bila demikian?

Yogyakarta, 30 Maret 2016 | ©kurniawangunadi

[hilyarious]

astgahfirullah :( plese never leave us Ya Rabb :”

[islamic-art-and-quotes]

Given my privilege as a woman, I only degrade myself by trying to be something I’m not – and in all honesty – don’t want to be: a man. As women, we will never reach true liberation until we stop trying to mimic men, and value the beauty in our own God-given distinctiveness. If given a choice between stoic justice and compassion, I choose compassion. And if given a choice between worldly leadership and heaven at my feet—I choose heaven.

Yasmin Mogahed (via islamic-art-and-quotes)

[hilyarious]

Analogi Rindu (EP)

Analogi Rindu - Sekar Sriwedari

aku melihatmu dalam tiap sore yang diberikan malam

pada lagu persembahan cahaya untuk kelam

pada tiap memar dalam keluhan

aku melupakanmu seperti api yang terbakar abu

seperti musim semi yang merayu layu

seperti merah mudah dalam duka

aku membutuhkanmu untuk apa saja

seperti jantung yang penuh detaknya

seperti mata dan udara

kapan saja terasa

aku melihatmu dalam tiap sore yang diberikan malam

pada lagu persembahan cahaya untuk kelam

pada tiap memar dalam keluhan

aku membutuhkanmu untuk apa saja

seperti jantung yang penuh detaknya

seperti mata dan udara

kapan saja terasa

[floralls]

Christian Dior Granville home by  {this is glamorous}

[homedesigning]

(via Living Rooms With Great Views)

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

How to Start a Conversation when you have Nothing to Talk About

Starting a conversation to get to know someone or breaking an awkward silence can be very stressful. To start a conversation when you have nothing to talk about, use these guidelines.

1. Introduce yourself if necessary. If you don’t know the person, breaking the ice is very simple: look approachable, tell the new person your name, offer your hand to shake, and smile.

2. Comment on the location or occasion. Look around and see if there is anything worth pointing out. Examples of location or occasion comments include: “This is a gorgeous room!”, or “Great dog!”

3. Ask an open-ended question. Most people love to talk about themselves, and open questions can help with this. These require an explanation for an answer rather than just a simple yes or no. Open questions tend to begin with who, when, what, why, where, and how.

4. Keep the conversation going with small talk. This keeps the conversation light and simple, and helps to establish similarities.

5. Synchronize. Once the other person has started talking, follow his or her cues to keep the conversation going smoothly. Use active listening to reflect what they’re saying and, perhaps, feeling.

6. Helpful techniques and cues to convey your interest include: Say the other person’s name from time to time; give encouraging feedback (by nodding, saying “ah-ha”, “wow’, “oh” “That’s amazing!”, etc.); keep your body language open and welcoming; and make comfortable, genuine eye contact with the person.

7. Be aware of your internal monologue. When you suddenly feel that you’re not able to engage in conversation with someone else, it’s likely that you’re saying negative things to yourself. For example, you may be worrying that you’re boring, not good enough, too unimportant, intruding, wasting their time, and so on. Try to keep in mind that everyone has these self-doubts from time to time.

8. Respond thoughtfully to someone who remains awkward or uncomfortable. If he or she appears withdrawn and uninterested, don’t persist for too long. Try a bit more, and then make the decision to move on and talk to somebody else. Also, be careful not to ask too many questions as they may feel shy discussing themselves.

Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About (Adapted)

[hilyarious]

Just found this from fb 😊

Ada benarnya juga untuk tidak terlalu memaksa anak agar pintar akademik. Apalagi kalau mereka sudah menemukan spesialisasi yang dari situlah mereka bisa melejit :)

Jangan paksa mereka untuk selalu bisa meraih nilai yang bagus. Bikin stress juga sih dan takutnya, mereka akan menghalalkan segala cara hanya demi nilai bagus which is mereka nggak akan kena marah orangtua ketika berhasil mendapatkannya. Kalau hal itu selalu dibiasakan, bukankah malah membunuh karakter anak?

So, for all parents and future parents in this world, appreciate what y(our) children have done. Berilah motivasi untuk tetap berusaha semaksimal mungkin dan pasrahkan hasilnya. Yakinkan mereka bahwa kami -sebagai orangtua- lebih menghargai proses yang baik daripada hasil bagus namun prosesnya tidak baik.

Semoga bermanfaat 😋

[productivemuslim]

Your habits will determine whether you reach your goals. This is because habits are actions that are repeated regularly. Most goals require you to perform a behaviour many times before see the result. For example, you won’t become excellent at time management after using your calendar for one day. You need to follow time management principles consistently in order to realise the benefits.

Your current levels of productivity are also a result of your habits in this area. Highly productive people have developed habits such as waking up early, being organised, planning their day in advance and using a time management system – all of which lead to increased productivity.

These new behaviours may seem difficult to learn, however once you have established them as ‘habits’ they will then feel natural and normal, and become ‘automatic’ for you. At this point, you no longer need to think about the activity or motivate yourself to perform it.

The same is also unfortunately true for bad habits. For example, wasting 1 hour per day on TV or surfing the Internet might not seem like much but it adds up to 365 hours per year which is equivalent to 15 full 24-hour days or 45 8-hour work days!

Therefore, it makes sense to establish good productive habits and eliminate unproductive habits as the effects compound over time.

Source: ‘7 Steps to Create Productive Habits in 21 Days’ – http://proms.ly/1QFG27O

[hilyarious]

it has a big reason why i could find this, in this current situation :’)

[islamicrays]

As parents we have to avoid the following ten things when dealing with our children: 1. Cursing them and calling them names. 2. Comparing them with their siblings or other children 3. Conditional love e.g. I will love you if you… 4. Giving them incorrect information e.g. Why are you crying? Men don’t cry! 5. Humiliating them 6. Mocking them 7. Threatening them 8. Always saying no and not explaining why 9. Making duaa against them 10. Exposing their faults and secrets. From an article by Dr. Jaasim al-Mutawwa’

(via islamicrays)

Baik-baik ya kamu! (ngomong ke lisan sendiri)

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[hilyarious]

Thank Allah for all the worst part i’ve been, and You’re still here. guiding me :’)

[tulisanadia]

Apakah dunia memang begitu? Kita tidak akan pernah mendapatkan sesuatu jika kita terlalu menginginkannya. Kita tidak akan pernah mengerti hakikat memiliki, jika kita terlalu ingin memilikinya.

Sunset bersama Rosie - Tere Liye (via akatsukkii)