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[sunthoon]

Project Hail Mary fans after finishing the book and the movie

[saltwater-goldfishy]

ok I know everyone’s considered Ryland grace wearing an “I put the ace in space” t shirt but. have we considered the infinitely funnier option of putting this shirt on eva stratt

[raviolireptile]

I had to draw this

[puppyrex8]

Summarized most of the different Rocky fanart styles

He varies intensely but he’s still the same ol Eridian!!

(8/9 of me posting most of my PHM art at once)

[tribblefarmer]

The Bird has been reading up on the human custom called "bowing."

Template by the hilarious @justcakethanks

[alienatedartt]

working on the petrova problem 💕

[patricia-taxxon]

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

[patricia-taxxon]

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

[patricia-taxxon]

im gonna try explaining myself, cus im a gambling addict and im waiting for the day that it actually works.

"forgiveness" is personal, that's why I said in the post that you might inflict harm on people for which they can never forgive you, but that's their quest. if you abuse someone, you can't go no-contact with yourself. you actually keep living in your own head indefinitely, and ultimately you need to learn to live with yourself in order to continue living a full life without further harm. this is not necessarily an anti-carceral thought, although i am generally anti-carceral myself. I simply want people to like, fix their heart and atone for real with measured accountability & self love instead of dissociating, self-marking themselves forever and guaranteeing their recidivism.

You and a remorseful abuser would both think I'm giving the easy, coddling path. It's actually the tough pragmatic path in disguise.

[dark-fire-thoughts]

Ok. I see where you going, but I strongly disagree. The one person who can't be allowed to forgive ones crimes is oneself.

Even if everyone else has forgiven you for the abuse you did, you must never allow yourself to let what you did be forgiven. Once you've done that, you've gotten to the point where you might do it again.

Never let up. Always strive towards improvement. Never let yourself live down the horrors of the past. Only by comparing ourselves to who we were can we grow.

[patricia-taxxon]

this is called OCD

[yuyurana]

It’s so fucking frustrating to argue about this on tumblr.com. Because people might pay lip service to the idea of criminal justice reform or even prison abolition. But deep down they always come back to the Calvinism of it all: there are good people (victims) and bad people (abusers) and once someone has revealed themselves to be an abuser they can never be forgiven, never be part of society again.

And if you believe the world works like that one other thing also has to be true: You know you are a ‘good person’, so nothing you ever do could be truly abusive. You could never truly harm another person. And if you did they must have deserved it. Because you are a good person.

And wow, does that not just sound like something abusers usually say, when confronted with their own behavior?

I would leave the rest up to the reader but because we are on the piss on the poor reading comprehension site here, I’m going to spell it out: get comfortable with your own fallibility. Acknowledge that you could indeed severely harm someone else. And that means that you NEED to learn to forgive yourself.

[runcibility]

Learning, and applying self-forgiveness also means doing the work of understanding the how of how you hurt others. And that doesn't just mean "I did bad things" - it means understanding the course of actions that led you to think doing something that hurt others was the most reasonable course of action. Sometimes that's out of sheer ignorance - doing the filthy work of fully understanding what you did will ensure that you learn. Sometimes you hurt others because you yourself were hurting - doing the work means you understand you can't perpetuate misery as a means to rid yourself of it. Sometimes you hurt others because you were deluded - doing the work means you strip yourself of maladaptive reasoning or self-serving lies and learn to listen to your actual feelings and accurately read the truth of what's going on for you and others.

All of these steps towards self-forgiveness require fucking work that fundamentally changes the person seeking that self-forgiveness. That is the fucking healing process.

If you don't allow people the grace of self-forgiveness, then there is no room for self-improvement. If there is no room for self-improvement, then there is no way to heal. And people that can't heal will inevitably do monstrous things. Pointless shame just makes hurt people more volatile.

Allowing self-forgiveness isn't transactional. Allowing self-forgiveness doesn't steal from victims, it just makes people live in a jail of shame.

[butterflyinthewell]

👆🏻

This!

If someone who did something shitty is doing everything to be better so they won’t do that harm again, and all people do is throw their shit in their face forever, they’re not going to bother to change because that’s all they’re being seen as.

The people they hurt don’t owe them forgiveness, but the hurt people also shouldn’t follow the abuser around and destroy them as they try to do better so they don’t repeat the harm.

It’s a different story if the person tries to brush the harm off, hide it, act like they weren’t in the wrong and continue to cause harm, then by all means warn about them everywhere.

[hgedits]

Eva Stratt:

[galacticsabc]

I don't even know the tone of this comic. Is it funny? is it sad? is it both? who knows!

[sonoftheria]

✴︎ BETRAYED STRAYS ✴︎

[recurring-polynya]

never lose hope. somewhere, a middle-aged, gender ambiguous person with an advanced degree in an esoteric field and a fiber arts hobby could be crashing out and pinning all their remaining mental health on getting obsessed with your otp. any day now, the most elegantly written 100k fanfic you have ever read is going to hit ao3. it could happen. it has happened.

[nesleepng]

He just misses his mom

[skullfragments]

i crocheted a couple sillies for my friend’s birthday gift! i’m really happy with how they turned out🥰

they’re thedopplegangercosplay on instagram! they do some amazing cosplays, including good omens, so check them out!!

[hiphop-jay69]

Realising whenever I look at literally anything I'm just seeing a past version of it. Me no likey.

[hiphop-jay69]

Let's fucking gooooooo!!!!

[mothermishy]

You guys just have to trust me on this one and click here okay?

[abracazabka]

[feralrookie]

OH MY GOD I NEEDED THIS

[prismatic-bell]

For the chronically anxious and/or otherwise mentally ill:

This is not a screamer, jumpscare, or any other kind of horror link I don’t know the name of. It will not cause you to question reality and as far as I’m aware, there is no reason it should cause any kind of hallucinations or psychosis. I don’t want to spoil the surprise because it’s DELIGHTFUL but I am happy to tell you it’s very sweet and gentle and also great lowkey stress relief. This is a cinnamon roll link appropriate for all ages (yes, all the way down to babies) and you will enjoy it if you click it. ❤️

[thornethenorn]

I have OCD! It is safe! :]

[bmwiid]

autism - is safe!

[hiphop-jay69]

This is joy incarnate - my dopamine levels have never been higher

[hiphop-jay69]

Every now and again I'm scrolling through here and am blinded by a screenshot taken by some maniac in light mode

[hiphop-jay69]

I need Ao3 back right now I got a fic rec and I NEED to read it or I'm going to combust