Adoring surrender

Welcome to my little corner of the world. 18 yrs and over only please.

[philosophicalconservatism]

“To give real service you must add something that cannot be bought or measured with money and that is sincerity and integrity”

— Douglas Adams

[just-another-dumb-girl]

[homophoni]

[geoproxus4-deactivated20250908]

Know your place.

[nakedinasnowsuit]

Aren't you in a D/s relationship? How do you manage that without doing anything kinky in public? Or are you not 24-7? I'm not trying to be rude I'm genuinely curious

I am! We manage it easily, because Sir knows what he’s doing and isn’t an idiot or a creep! Without getting too into it here are examples:

I don’t open doors for myself

I don’t order my own food

I ask permission to do anything that requires me to leave his sight

If food needs to be dished out or something I serve him

I also arrange his napkin and utensils if necessary

[bush-league-junky]

As a (her) dominant, I would like to add that D/s is about much, much more than simply sex and/or the activities most people associate with being “kinky.” 

This is especially true for D/s relationships, like ours, which are 24/7.  When we are out in public, along with the examples she listed above, we have plenty of protocols, which, if/when observed by others, look mostly like the behavior of a regular couple.  Except, to us, those protocols are very deliberate, meaningful, and act as constant reminders of our dynamic.

Being kinky in public does not have to include anything sexual whatsoever.  This isn’t a fantasy novel, written by a thoughtless author with no regard to the consent of other people.  This is a 24/7, D/s relationship, crafted with the help of nearly 10 years of experience and learning from both mistakes and successes (as well as the un-learning of what most of the internet thinks about kink and D/s).

[keptmathilda]

^ This exactly.

D/s is independent from kink (in the sense of non-vanilla sexuality), is independent from sexuality in every form, is independent from the public, is independent from outdoor activities or publicity of any kind, is independent from toys and tools (like whips, plugs, cuffs etc), is independent from micro management (like rules about everything, asking permission for everything, total dependency etc), is independent from anything that is not necessary to establish a power-hierarchy between any number of people in some type of relationship.

You read and hear this so often, not only on Tumblr but everywhere online and offline, that people mistake the tools and techniques that are used in an individual dynamic for the Dynamic itself. D/s, ie Domination/submission, is a relationship-dynamic, in which the involved partners don’t have equal power over some or (almost) all things. D/s means “power-hierarchy”. Someone is dominant, has more power, and someone is submissive, has less power. That’s it.

What exactly you do with this power, or allow to be done, is individually different and there are literally as many possibilities as there are D/s Dynamics in the world.

You can have sex or no sex, kinky sex or vanilla sex, use sex toys or not, do rules and punishments or not, S&M or no S&M, wear a plug or cuffs or never wear anything at all or only wear normal clothing, do domestic service or pet play or nothing like this at all, and so on. This all only describes what you do with the power inequality, how you express it, but it’s not constituents for it, it’s not necessary to have one, to “be D/s”.

D/s isn’t what you DO, it’s who you ARE and where you stand in relation to your partner.

[daddys-naughty-babygirl20]

This. ☝🏻

[katsdom]

Yes!

[instructor144]

What a great discussion!

[hisvivaciousgirl]

Well said!

[princeturtogo]

Johnny Cash’s letter to his wife June on her 65th birthday

Source: Mirror.co.uk

[tradcatfem]

[blackbulls-whitegirls-bliss]

Everyone, and I mean literally EVERYONE, needs to stop and watch this short but extremely important and timely video essay from Millenial Moment. I fucking love it!!

[hisvivaciousgirl]

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“Don’t be mad when someone else starts to appreciate the person you took for granted. What you won’t do, someone else will.”

—

[submissiveinclination]

True words.

[vintageinstepford]

Her Anxiety Is Your Problem.

Let’s be honest, girls have anxiety.  Studies have shown that women have a higher likelihood of having anxiety and have it more severely than men.  And if your girl has panic attacks, they can devastate her.

It’s your responsibility to help her avoid them.  So let me give you an example of how I dealt with my girl’s imminent panic attack last night.

My girl dances for a major ballet company where I live, and it’s Nutcracker season.  She had a major part in front of a huge audience last night, and she mentioned that she felt like she wanted to run to the nearest exit.

So I took her by the arm and literally dragged her to the nearest private bathroom.

When we got inside, I said, “put your nose in that corner and breathe deeply until I tell you otherwise.”

She was confused.  She didn’t understand why she was getting a time-out.  But, being the submissive little thing she is, she complied with a sheepish, “yes, Sir.”

She stood in the corner for two minutes.  Every time I didn’t see her breathing deeply, I just commanded, “breathe deeply, I said.”  As the seconds passed, I kept gently reminding her, “I’m still here.”

At the end of four or five minutes, I commanded, “face me.”  She spun around.

Her face was colorful again.  Her panic attack had been averted.

“It’s gone?” I asked.

She nodded with a smile.

Just because she has an affliction, doesn’t mean she has to handle it herself.  On the contrary.  When she has any kind of issue, particularly anxiety, it’s the man’s job to bring her down to earth.

That’s your job.  That’s why you’re the man and why she’s the girl.

-VIS

[a-womans-natural-place]

Reblog if you are an Anti-Feminist and believe in Traditional Gender Roles so we can find each other!

Bonus points in you live in NYC! 

[vintageinstepford]

Gentlemen: Traditional girls are usually WAY kinkier than modern girls.

Don’t be shocked when your home-making, apron-wearing girl turns into an absolute freak in the sheets.

-VIS

[patriarchal-preachings]

As a Man and Dom, who is married to a traditional girl, I can genuinely confirm this!

@innocent-traditional-femininity

[cherishedproperty]

Submissive Does Not Mean Passive

“I want someone who initiates sex every once in a while.”

“I don’t want some doormat with no opinions.”

“I want to be with someone passionate, not submissive.”

I see phrases like this all the time when people reject having a submissive partner. And I’ll admit—once upon a time, I rejected my own submissiveness based on the same misunderstandings. So let me try to clear it up.

When I say I’m submissive, it doesn’t mean I’m a robot awaiting instructions. It doesn’t mean that I’m dormant until a Dominant’s needs and desires activate me. It doesn’t mean that I expect my Dominant to take all the actions while I merely respond. 

I am submissive, but I am not passive. I am strong-willed, passionate, and energetic in pursuit of what fulfills me. 

I initiate sex with my Dominant. It’s different from how a Dominant initiates, but it’s not all that hard to read. I will straddle their lap and nibble their neck and talk about what a needy little girl I am. I will say that I’ve been thinking all day of the way they taste. I will lay their favorite implement on the bed with a sticky note that just says, “Please?” I will strip and kneel, and then I’ll beg for what I crave. 

I have strong sexual desires and needs, and I share them openly. But I don’t dictate what happens or when. And however my Dominant chooses for me to serve, I will pour all my energy into it. I will curl up between their legs for hours, lost in the joy of exploring them. I will moan and whimper and push back against them as they use me. I will ride them as long as my poor cardio fitness holds out. Being submissive does not make me quiet or passive. I am deeply passionate and completely unafraid to show the one who owns me.

And it’s not just in the bedroom. I have strong opinions about what I think is right and how things should be done, and I will 100% make those opinions known. But with the right partner—someone I can trust to put my needs first—I will defer to them on the final decision. With the right partner, I accept that they may make a decision I disagree with, but they won’t make a decision that harms me. And sometimes I do disagree. Vigorously. Sometimes a decision will make me angry enough to want to shoot lasers from my eyeballs. But if I submit to this person, then I trust them to do what’s right for both of us, and for the relationship. So I make my feelings known, and then I actively choose to follow. 

I am submissive, but I am no doormat. I know exactly who I am and what I want, and I am unafraid to share it. My submissiveness is full of boldness and fire and passion. Never, ever mistake me for passive. 

[instructor144]

This. ^^^ Some D types want a submissive who is an eyes-downcast Geisha, a passive vessel, sometimes even a SubBot™ who responds only when the Dom chooses to push the buttons. Fuck that. There is nothing more heady and intoxicating than when the girl makes it unambiguously clear: “I am hungry for what only you know how to give me. I’m aching for it. I need it. Please …” 

[daddys-loyal-sub]

[ohmyangelbaby]

[britishsb]

BDSM PROBLEMS

When you’re around you’re vanilla friends and you have to act like a blowjob is as naughty or as kinky as it gets, and act as if you don’t call you’re boyfriend “Daddy” and have a whole closet full of chains, dildos, floggers and butt plugs.

[staypuff4-deactivated20240713]

Love this!!

[staypuff4-deactivated20240713]