Ok while we are talking about treating trans people as humans and not as sexual objects can we talk about assumptions of what genitals we have?
Yeah trans people get the “what’s in your underpants hehe” questions from cishet people all the time but like.. some of y’all also make assumptions while trying to be supportive? Like, I really need y’all to understand that there are trans women with vaginas and trans men with penises. You simply cannot treat all trans women as though they have a girldick and you cannot treat all trans men like they have a boypussy. Gender Affirming Surgery has been around longer than most of you were even a twinkle in your daddy’s eye (literally the 1950s, making bottom surgery 70 years old) and some of you still act like there isn’t a significant portion of trans people who have had it or have a goal to get it.
It’s totally fine to not want to get it/be no-op, but I have also met trans women who have confided with me that they have severe bottom dysphoria but do not want to undergo GAS because they are worried partners will be disappointed by it. And that’s fucking sad. I just feel like the commodification of trans bodies as a fetish has led to this idea that what genitals you have determines if you are trans or not, which is just ridiculous. It’s the same transphobic rhetoric that people use to justify not dating trans people because of “genital preference” when they literally have no clue what genitals a trans woman or man has.
All vaginas are good vaginas, and all penises are good penises. There aren’t more real or more fake genitals, just the ones you have.
