HRH

Writings, Rants, and Backtalk

[hellyeahthomassanders]

Goals 🙇 by Thomas Sanders

[mycorrhizall]

I turned my frustration with myself into art.

[unfuckyourhabitat]

I feel like this is really important for people to see. I’ve been saying depression and mess go hand-in-hand for years, but so many people feel like they’re alone in it. You’re not.

[beckylouisethompson-deactivated]

I always get criticised for this - more people need to recognise this as a symptom of depression

[hrhosmer]

For me, I have identified it as a trigger for anxiety. If I try to tackle one of these messes, I get almost instantly overwhelmed and can’t even get started. It’s when these messes keep growing and I get burnt out from being overwhelmed every time I walk in that room that the depression starts kicking in. Pro-tip for dealing with depression messes:

Tell your household: It’s not JUST a mess! Get your household, be it roommates, parents, your partner(s), or whoever, to understand that this is a red flag for you, or that it is something that can set you off. Some people aren’t affected by messes so adversely, but getting them to understand that it is a mental health risk for you can help contextualize cleanliness as a high priority for the household.

Ask for HELP! It can be embarrassing to have to ask for help cleaning up after yourself, especially when you’re an adult and you’re supposed to have a handle on these things. But part of being an adult is being able to get help when you need it, too. A supportive friend or family member, especially one that is great at cleaning, can be a great advocate to help you get out from under those piles of dirty clothes and moldy leftovers. If you have the resources to hire help, go for it. But sometimes you just need the moral support of a friendly presence cheering you on as you do the cleaning yourself.

Create a cleaning PLAN! Once you’ve cleaned up, you’ll probably be feeling a lot more grounded. This is the time to make a plan for going forward, to try to avoid being in this situation again. Discuss chore assignments with your household, or if you live alone make a schedule of some kind to help you keep up with your chores. Identify bad habits that exacerbate the mess (for example, not rinsing out dishes before putting them in the sink) and work to eliminate them. Ask close friends to prompt you and ask you if you are okay if they visit and notice that your clutter is getting out of hand. Be prepared to revise your plan if parts of it aren’t working as expected or situations change. Don’t get discouraged if your maintenance plan starts to slip - change the plan or get more help!

I think the hardest part of this for me has been convincing my partner how badly I am affected by a messy house. It took YEARS to get him to understand how bad it was for me. But once we were able to get over that hurdle, everything else came a lot easier. I now do the dishes, but since I get easily overwhelmed by them (even when there aren’t a lot), my partner sits in the kitchen with me while I do them. This is enough emotional support for me to be able to do most of the work on my own. For some of us, there may be elements of trauma tangled up with this problem. Over-critical parents who expected chores to be done a certain way, or who may have been emotionally/verbally/physically abusive when chores weren’t done in a timely manner, these experiences can leave a mark and add an extra layer of stress to the experience. This kind of trauma can make it a challenge to keep up with household maintenance even into adulthood. Be patient with yourself, and figure out what works for you.

[marauders4evr]

HOW GRAVITY FALLS SHOULD HAVE ENDED:

We see all of the scenes where the Gravity Falls residences are enjoying their new lives, smiling and laughing, now that Dipper and Mabel have had such a positive impact on the town.

Everyone’s happy.

Everyone’s great.

And then, it shows Dipper and Mabel riding the bus and you hear someone singing:

How the gentle wind

Beckons through the leaves 

As autumn colors fall

Dancing in a swirl

Of golden memories

And it fades to Waddles playing the piano, singing:

The loveliest lies of all…

[sunwukxng]

i wanna see white people ripping into white people

i wanna see y’all roast yourselves

what about whiteness annoys you or pisses you off

what confuses you

what do other white people do that make you bow your head in shame and second-hand embarrassment

for once, i’m asking white people about their opinions

[kyoshigirl]

Literally everything honestly. Every. Little. Thing.

[endermen]

When they assume you sympathize with their shitty opinions, as if there’s some kind of white people solidarity pact

The whole being decent to other people thing being called ‘politically correct’ as if being mindful of others has anything to do with politics

“All lives matter!! Repost if u think cops lives matter!”

Their weird vendetta against nicki minaj and p much every other black artist

Music made by black people being shoved into some pigeonhole genre which leads to me not hearing them unless I stumble across it like five years after the damn song came out. I hardly hear Beyoncé on the damn radio these days. Isn’t she supposed to be a popular artist??

“I don’t know why but I feel like white doctors are more trustworthy. is that racist?” bitch ending your racist sentiment with ‘is that racist’ doesn’t make you any less racist. White ppl acting like they can confide in me with their racist/ableist/transphobic thoughts/opinions and thinking I’m going to not call them out

Feminism lacking heavily in focus on issues that deal with women of color and feminism somehow still being this thing only hippie women are into

Ppl who collect nazi/kkk memorabilia??? Why??

Somehow I’m also apparently not supposed to care about activism of any type either? Or I’m some sort of extremist if I do??

[kwenni]

White people who can’t handle spicy food. Even the least bit of spice. Shameful, tbh

[nutellamolotov]

white people who dress up as other cultures as a costume and think it’s perfectly okay

white people who dress up as other cultures or specific POC as a means to mock those people

white people who appropriate from other cultures and think it’s perfectly fine and cool for THEM to wear or do such things but apparently the people of the actual culture it’s from doing it is some how not okay??? like they think white people do it better or something

white people who ignore or steal the excellence of poc

white people who go “why can they say it but i can’t??” about racial slurs

“white is the default”/”no one’s going to be able to relate to your main character if they’re [insert any ethnicity not white]”

[mahounekos]

“Black people are the most racist bc they are outspoken about not liking white people”

[sunwukxng]

i got white people going in on themselves and i am enjoying this

[hrhosmer]

Oh man, no one touched on the worst part: Dealing with ignorant white family members. Like, you’re friends with them on fb because they’re family, and you have to look at their stupid racist comments and memes. And they call black people niggers in casual conversation and when you balk at them for it they’re like “Oh no, it’s okay, that’s just how we talk. It’s okay, we have black friends.” When they live in a town that is white as FUCK, completely oblivious to how racist they are when they open their mouths because they don’t have minorities to balk at them instead of you. And then these are the people who babysit your kid. And your kid plays with their cousins who spew just as much ignorant shit out their mouths like a bunch of retarded parrots. Like, fuck man... I swear if my kid ever comes home and drops an n-bomb, I’m slapping my uncles.

[matt-smiths-deactivated20150324]

why are people so against negative character development? characters don’t need to improve and become better people they can get worse and make mistakes and end up in a worse state than when they began and it’s just as interesting and entertaining as characters developing positively

[gaydelgard]

no its not its annoying and incredibly frustrating and i dont wanna read about it if i wanted negative character development id take a damn look around me

[hrhosmer]

No, I'd say this is a completely legitimate way to write a character. If it's not your taste that's fine, but it can make for a very compelling story if done right. I think it's commonly known as a "tragedy".

[punk-polygems]

Polyamory and SU

Steven Universe is a show that has broken several different boundaries, in both presenting queer characters in a children’s show and breaking traditional gender roles. This has drawn many fans from the LGBTQ+ community. If we look closer, we can see how people from the polyamorous community are drawn to this show.

So, first of all, there is a CANON polyamorous relationship that is presented in the show. It is the connection between Pearl, Rose Quartz, and Greg Universe. Their relationship is depicted as the polyamorous “V” dynamic, in which Pearl and Greg are in love with Rose Quartz, but Pearl and Greg are not in love with each other. This is a legitimate poly relationship, but because of the fact that a lot of people don’t consider Pearl and Rose to be together (which they are, cmon dudes, get with the times) people too often look past Pearl, Rose and Greg’s partnership.

Polygems. Why is this such a popular ship? Is it canon? It’s true that Garnet, Amethyst and Pearl show many different forms of affection towards each other, but rather or not this attraction is platonic or romantic is up to interpretation. But either way, the Crystal Gems raise Steven in an environment that resembles a polyamorous child-rearing family. With four parents (Garnet, Amethyst, Pearl and Greg) Steven is surrounded by all sorts of support and love, which is exactly what a polyamorous family is all about.

Another popular poly ship is Poly Cool Kids, which is between Jenny, Buck and Sour Cream. I think people really like this ship because of the differentiation in the characters and because it’s between three cool kids. I mean, what more could you want? Sassy Jenny Pizza there to run the show, Buck there to be artsy and cool, and Sour Cream bringing the music. They would be perfect for each other.

Lastly, this is a children’s show. Sexual subjects are not talked about. Poly people are too often fetishized and seen as “a sex thing”, so seeing polyamorous relationships represented in a non-sexual light means a lot to non-monogamous people.

So with the canon “V” ship between Rose, Pearl and Greg and the interpretive Polygems and Poly Cool Kids Ships, polyamory can and is represented in this show. I hope to see many more boundary-breaking things from SU in the future.

[hellyeahthomassanders]

Coming Up With a Good Comeback Too Late 💭 by Thomas Sanders

[thatsthat24]

Dominic: Well, your breath stinks.

Thomas: Well– (Stumbling over words)

Lightning Strike Sound

Second Thomas: I’m from the future… to tell you it stinks cause of your mom’s cooking!

(Simultaneously) Thomas: Oooooooo!

Second Thomas: Ehhh? I just thought of that!

[hrhosmer]

Literally the premise of Steven Universe pilot

[cheese24k]

What happens when you scream out of your window in Sweden at night

[laughbro]

I’m swedish and you probably think this is a joke, but its true

[drtanner]

This is easily one of my favourite things and I wish it was something that happened on campuses here.

[princezane-deactivated20151205]

Like is there a reason though

[hrhosmer]

“... the Flogsta scream starts every night at 10 PM across campuses in Sweden, but no one really knows why it happens. Some say it’s toremember a student who committed suicide in the 1970s, others say it’s to calm the nerves of exam season.” What an awesome tradition. A little existentially terrifying if you’re looking at it as a individual action, but as a community, this is actually super psychologically healthy.

[juelzsantanabandana]

I’m bout to move to a different state man I swear to god you can’t make this shit up 😭

[hrhosmer]

Dude, give it up. I DID move to a different state.

[odinsblog]

Talk about speaking truth to power…

I want to applaud Ashley Williams, the #BlackLivesMatter protester who confronted Hillary Clinton and demanded an apology for Clinton’s use of “superpredators with no conscience and no empathy, who need to be brought to heel” when she used dog whistles to refer to Black youths as little more than animals, as she advocated for Bill Clinton’s notorious 3-Strikes crime bill (which disproportionately targeted and imprisoned Black people).

Clinton replied, “You know what? No one has ever asked me about this before. You’re the first one to ask me about it.” 

Besides noting the obvious problem with Ms. Clinton apparently needing to be publicly prompted before it ever even occurred to her to apologize for saying something so casually racist, if there are people who have spoken to her about this, then I hope they feel sufficiently empowered to step forward and make Mrs. Clinton have to explain her obfuscation.

I find it very hard to believe that no one at all has ever spoken to her and never asked about this before.

And once again, all respect to Ms. Ashley Williams. Disruptive action protests take a lot more than planning and coordination - it also requires guts. I’m a soon to be 32 year old Black man who is an inch shy of 6 feet tall, tipping the scales at 185 pounds, and I seriously doubt that I would have had even half the courage needed to do what Ms. Williams so bravely did.

From Bree Newsome to Sandra Bland, my people are stepping up and speaking out, and I am so proud.

Thank you.

[hirmu]

so a few weeks ago i started women’s studies / gender studies at uni. i was excited but also a bit worried; i thought, for sure, i would have to unlearn some things i’ve learned from tumblr about feminism and social justice. i’ve seen so much hate towards “tumblr feminism”, how all feminists on tumblr are extremists and whatever. so what do they teach us in gender studies? it turns out, the exact same things i’ve learned on tumblr. privilege, intersectionality, representation, pay gap, violence against women… they’re all there. even some quotes they’ve shown us are the same i’ve seen on tumblr. i’ve had to unlearn nothing. also it was cool to realize not everyone in the lectures knew what, say, intersectionality meant. thanks to feminists on tumblr i did. now i’m sure i haven’t wasted my time on this website. does this mean i encourage you to believe everything you see on tumblr or on the internet in general? no. ((though apparently it’s very easy to believe things anti-feminists or anti-sjws say because even i began questioning whether my feminism was valid.)) i’m saying that for me, personally, tumblr has been one of the ways to educate myself on these matters and also become more aware of my privileges, and i’m sick of all those anti-feminism and anti-tumblr(??) posts going around.

[anti-feminism-pro-equality]

Tumblr infected college. This is sad.

[ferventfox]

Um…no? College is where tumblr got it. This shit has always been coming straight out of whiny academics. 

[siryouarebeingmocked]

OP, some very sincere feminists told me that I should stop getting my impressions of feminists from Tumblr! Are you saying they were wrong, and Tumblrfems actually are representative?

[lejacquelope]

Pretty much.

[hrhosmer]

If you spend enough time on the internet in the right places these days, you can pretty much skip your bachelor’s level degree program in some fields (though I think having an academic lens to view those feminist concepts through is very important. Some of them are very easy to warp into angry nonsense if you don’t really know what you’re talking about.). You might want to skip out on the women’s studies degree if you already know most of that stuff, and take lots of classes in stuff you haven’t learned about yet. Personally, if I were in your shoes I’d feel like I was wasting my money. Not that a women’s studies degree is useless.... just that there’s no point in studying redundant information when you have the opportunity to learn about new fields.

[thingstolovefor]

New York Courthouse Criticized for Including Student’s ‘Black Lives Matter’ Poster in Black History Month Display

Offended court officers have questioned the slogan’s placement in a court of law, as retired cops are speaking out because active-duty officers are prohibited from doing so.

There court has no plans to take the controversial artwork down, and the poster will stay up for the remainder of the month. #Love it!

[literallygoth]

white people stay making everything about them smh 😒

[hrhosmer]

Having recently moved from Florida to Massachusetts, this is super embarrassing. It is so white up here, the people get away with so much passive racism (not just against blacks, but hispanic minorities, too) and they seem pretty clueless about it. The kind of racist shit that spills out of their mouths in everyday conversation is, frankly, shocking. And Florida is by no means a racism-free paradise, but I honestly wasn’t expecting this place to be worse.

[brutereason]

Because we live in such a monogamy-centered society, it makes sense that many people can only conceive of non-monogamy in what ultimately still amounts to monogamous terms. There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one. Many of us have deeply committed relationships with more than one partner, with no hierarchy among them and no core “couple” at the heart of it all. To me, this notion that there must be one more important relationship, one true love, feels a lot like people looking at same-sex couples and thinking that one person must be the “man” in the relationship and the other must be the “woman.” After all, both of these misunderstandings result from people trying to graft their normative conceptions of love and relationships onto people who are partnering in non-normative ways. It seems that it is somewhat easy for many people to acknowledge that humans are capable of loving one person and still enjoying sex with others (assuming, of course, that the terms of their relationship make such behavior acceptable). But it is much harder for people to think outside the fairy-tale notion of “the one” and imagine that it might be possible to actually romantically love more than one person simultaneously.

Polyamorous Relationships Are About More Than Just Couples (via brutereason)

[themysteryoftheunknownuniverse]

You’re too old to still be watching cartoo-

[hrhosmer]

[itsjaxterbitch-bye-blog-deactiv]

things about cuddling that fanfictions often fail to mention:

“move my arm is falling asleep”

“i can’t breathe”

“just jam your knee right up my crotch. this is fine”

“omg get up you’re taking up the whole bed”

“did you just fart” “yes” “it’s okay. release your demons”

“did you just fart” “yes” “okay.” *ten seconds later* “AUGH”

“you’ve got bad breath” “omg do i really” “yes” “i’m so sorry” “it’s okay”

*hand is accidentally on a boob/nipple/genital* “omg don’t move”/”omg i’m so sorry”

*can hear the other’s tummy gurgle*

“i’m hungry” “i’m not moving”

“i have to pee” “nooooooo”

*right as one person is about to fall asleep, one of their body parts jerk and it scares the poop out of the other person*

*hours later when they’ve both fallen asleep and are no longer cuddling, one person stretches and softly punches the other in the face*

bonus:

“do you remember when you used to think you were straight”

“do you remember when we thought we were just friends”

[hrhosmer]

Don’t Forget:

“omg mOVE YOU’RE LAYING ON MY HAIR OW OW OW!”

[micdotcom]

Oxford Dictionary accused of sexist word examples

Oxford Dictionary is under fire after Michael Oman-Reagan, an anthropologist and Ph.D. candidate, pointed out these instances of sexist example sentences accompanying words like “rabid” and “shrill.” At first, Oxford Dictionaries responded with the above flippant tweet — but later apologized and vowed to change at least one of the words.

[genderfuckt]

WOW this is so not okay

[jadelyn]

This is what we mean when we talk about invisible sexism. Each of these makes perfect sense to most people, fits perfectly with our social context and our cultural worldview. Only when they’re put together do you see the pattern all at once and go “oh…yeah that’s actually kinda fucked up, isn’t it?” Because tiny, invisible things create a cultural context which builds into an overall attitude of mocking, minimizing, and dismissiveness towards a full half of the population.

[ruffleshaveridges]

This is also a good example of why “but the dictionary says-” isn’t a valid argument when discussing racism, sexism, etc.

[hrhosmer]

iirc, the dictionary examples aren't made up by the OED - they usually pluck those examples from other popular literary pieces, to demonstrate it’s actual usage in modern language. So if people are saying and writing sexist things, yeah, some of those examples are probably going to be sexist. So rather than stirring up a shrill of rabid feminists and nagging the OED, maybe a better solution would be to FIND non-sexist examples in modern writings that demonstrate the proper usage of the word and offer those as an improved alternatives.

[diane-truc]

Gimme your best stuff.

[chocopad]

oh, my god MY PEOPLE

[hrhosmer]

Literally me

even the resemblance is unnerving.