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The instant regret and disappointment in both their faces for me
Do you think Bruce ever just forgets how many children he has? Like, okay, he has the six children heâs adopted, five sons and a daughter, but then thereâs Terry, and the two Helenas, and is Barbara his daugher-in-law, he distinctly remembers going to the wedding but it may have been wiped from history for all he knows, how the fuck does Stephanie fit into it, which one of his sons is Starfire with at the moment, and then thereâs Selinaâs adopted kidsâHolly and Karonâand she keeps calling the cats her children, like that isnât confusing, and just WAIT FUCK HE FORGOT ABOUT HARPER
Point is, everyone thinks he only takes 3-hour sleeps because he needs the time to be both Bruce Wayne and Batman. Truth is, he needs all that extra time to keep track of all of his children.
Carrie Kelley also
He can never quite remember if Carrie exists or if heâs having Elseworlds flashbacks again. He does remember one time he showed up to watch her baseball game and found out her team never existed, so that was disturbing
Eventually, he deliberately finances a baseball field in the section of Gotham she originally came from in her timeline, purchases uniforms with that team name for a team of the appropriate age, and the universe assumes that she was supposed to be there and works to correct the oversight, solidifying her existence and causing even more confusion for everyone, but especially the Justice League.
pls give me 1(one) reason aces have ever been oppressed, and 1(one) example of aces being a part of lgbt history(before 2004 at least) and then maybe iâll consider the idea that aces belong in the lgbt community lol
Proof of the existence of asexuals in LGBT+ communities before 2000:
The Golden Orchid association (1644-1949) - a group of women in China that included lesbians, bisexuals, and âwomen who wanted to avoid both marriage options, and any romantic or sexual partnershipâ that today we would call asexual or aromantic.Â
Another Golden Orchid association link (which, interestingly, describes what appears to be a poly relationship).Â
Personal experience of a queer-identifying person noting that aces were part of the bi community in the 80s and 90s.
A book published in 1999 supports the previous link of someoneâs personal experience, and notes that asexuals could be considered part of Kinseyâs âGroup 3âł (the bisexuals) because they were âabout equally homosexual and heterosexualâ and âhave no strong preferences for one or the otherâ just like bisexuals.Â
Another book that supports the personal experience source by noting that asexuals were considered part of the bisexual âGroup 3âł, which was published in 1999.
Another post of someoneâs personal experiences of asexuals being part of the LGBT+ community in the 90s.Â
A source from 1999 noting that, while some female-female relationships in the early to mid-twentieth century were obviously lesbian relationships, not all of them were, but that it would be a mistake to label them all âfriendshipsâ. It specifically notes that asexual partnered relationships also existed.Â
This book describes a series of interviews done in 1990 by Catherine Whitney who interviewed heterosexual women married to gay men, and found that they were often asexual. It also describes how, in 1990, Ann Landers (a very popular advice columnist) asked her readers if married couples could enjoy a full life without sex and was flooded with 35,000 responses from people of all ages who had little or no sex and didnât miss it. It also describes how âBoston marriageâ was originally coined with a not-necessarily-always-accurate implication that such a relationship between women was nonsexual, but that later on the assumption was reversed to imply women in a sexual lesbian relationship, and how that caused some women involved in such relationships to hide the asexual nature of their relationships for fear of being called frauds by the larger lesbian community.
This 1997 book that states âTo be a Kinsey 3 (bisexual) is to be equally attracted to men and women, i.e. completely bisexualâŠit is also to be equally unattracted to men and women, i.e. completely asexual. Bisexuality is never about two, only about one â asexual, or self-fulfilling â or three â continuously and equally attracted to both men and womenâ.
Proof of asexuality being considered as a concrete, distinct orientation before 2000:
One of the first online posts about asexuality in its current use, was made in 1997.Â
A study on anorexia and bulemia in gay and bisexual men done in 1999 found that 58% of anorexia patients were asexual.Â
The 1997 Australasian Gay & Lesbian Law Journal mentions asexual as a ârelevant sexual identityâ.
A 1983 issue of the Journal of Sex Research studied the Mental Health Implications of Sexual Orientation among heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, and asexual people.Â
The article âAsexuality as Orientation: Some Historical Perspectivesâ describes different historical studies on asexuality, including a study from Johnson in 1977 where the word asexual was used to describe women âregardless of physical or emotional condition, actual sexual history, and marital status or ideological orientation, [who] seem to prefer not to engage in sexual activityâ. It also describes a 1980 study by Storms who included asexual as one of four orientation categories when mapping out sexual orientation. It also describes a 1983 study by Nurius that found out of 685 participants, 5% of males and 10% of females were asexual. It also describes a 1990 study by Berkley et al. that included questions ârelated to homosexuality, heterosexuality, and asexualityâ and included four items (out of 45) that were specific to asexuality.Â
This book published in 1922 contains a lot of what I personally would describe as narcissism and pseudo-science, but acknowledges asexuality nonetheless:Â âIn addition to the ordinary distinctive males and females, we have asexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, and old women of both sexes.â
This book from 1996 that notes âA transsexual may have a heterosexual orientation, a homosexual orientation, a bisexual orientation â or an asexual orientationâ and clarifies that âa very small number â are asexual or bisexual.â
This book mentions a study by Malyon in 1981 that noted the options available to gay and lesbian teenagers choosing whether, or how, to come out by â[describing] three possible modes of adaptation in adolescence: repression of sexual desire, suppression of homosexual impulses in favor of heterosexual or asexual orientation, or a homosexual disclosure.â
Kinds of oppression that asexuals face:
Eunjung Kim wrote a chapter titled âHow Much Sex Is Healthy? The Pleasures of Asexualityâ that describes how âthe absence of sexual desires, feelings, and activities is seen as abnormal and reflective of poor healthâ in Western contemporary culture âbecause of the explicit connection between sexual activeness and healthinessâ and argues that âmedical explanations of asexuality as an abnormality that has to be corrected constitute a large part of the stigmatization and marginalization experienced by asexual people.â It also discusses the ways in which some groups, specifically Asian American males, that are desexualized can erase the space for asexual Asian American men to simply exist.
Asexuals also face sexual harassment, rape threats, corrective sexual assault, and corrective rape (which, no, is not a lesbian-only term according to actual South Africans) specifically because they are asexual.Â
There was a recent study by the AAU to identify sexual assault on college campuses, and broke down the responders to their survey by sexual orientation, including asexual. The results clearly show that asexuals are not immune to unwanted sexual contact, stalking, intimate partner violence, or sexual harassment.
A chapter of âAsexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectivesâ that notes the specific way that asexual people are talked to/about: âBecause asexual difference cannot be iterated in the linguistic field where sex and a sexed position dominate the discourse of sexuality and desire, the asexual subject is linguistically and visually dismantled and reconstructed in the position of a fetish object. This fetishistic conversion happens because the asexual person is made into an image, or spectacle, for consumption.â and âThe difference between the unassailable asexual (someone who lacks all of the traits commonly blamed for asexuality such as past history of abuse, disability, etc.) and the spectacular asexual is that while the unassailable asexual allegedly makes asexuality digestible for a skeptical public and presents an accessible image, the spectacular asexual is always consumed as a fetish object, regardless of mental health, ability, and gender.â
The study âIntergroup bias toward âGroup Xâ: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination of asexualsâ is exactly what it sounds like. The articleâs abstract states: âIn two studies (university student and community samples) we examined the extent to which those not desiring sexual activity are viewed negatively by heterosexuals. We provide the first empirical evidence of intergroup bias against asexuals (the so-called âGroup Xâ), a social target evaluated more negatively, viewed as less human, and less valued as contact partners, relative to heterosexuals and other sexual minorities. Heterosexuals were also willing to discriminate against asexuals (matching discrimination against homosexuals). Potential confounds (e.g., bias against singles or unfamiliar groups) were ruled out as explanations.â
The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality describes many issues that asexuals face, including: how asexuality is seen as âinvisibleâ and lends to people thinking it does not exist, how asexuality is actively erased as âunimportantâ or not its own identity, the explicitly and implicitly negative messages associated with a lack of sexual attraction, the fear asexuals face when they believe there is something physically or psychologically wrong with them for being asexual, the belief asexuals face about how they must be deeply flawed since they do not conform to other sexual identities, how asexuals face cultural ideologies that sexuality is biologically based and ubiquitous (that all humans possess sexual desire) and that donât acknowledge asexuality, that to describe oneself as asexual is a statement of moral superiority or purity or failure to find a suitable partner, that asexuality is an immature state they will âgrow out ofâ, that asexuality is a description of action or a preference, that asexuality is unnatural or unhealthy or has to be a symptom of something else, etc.
Asexuality has been shown in the media in a negative light for decades, reflecting the idea that (for various reasons steeped in classism and racism) any woman who wasnât willing to marry and procreate was a threat to the status quo, as seen in this 1955 book that notes:Â âWomen who did not marry incurred political and social scorn for another reason. The influx of eastern and southern European immigrants in the United States pushed the question into eugenic termsâthe wrong people were reproducing. Educated women came primarily from white middle- and upper-class stock, the most desired element by dominant social norms. When these women refused to marry and reproduce, they forced a new concern into the public discourse. it is not a coincidence that the stereotypical asexual unmarried older woman emerged at this time as a source of popular humor.â
Some people in some religions are very explicit about hating asexuals specifically because they are asexual, seeing asexuality as âa perversion akin to homosexuality and bestialityâ.Â
Other religions see asexuals as actually sinful if they choose not to have sex with their spouse.
While not every member of every religion looks down on asexuals, many people in portions of various religions choose to view asexuals negatively.Â
Some people even recommend asexuals avoid being in a relationship with non-asexuals and assert that âpromoting and trying to spreadâ asexuality, or behaving in an asexual manner, is wrong or unhealthy.Â
Because of these religious beliefs about asexuality, that also opens up asexuals to discrimination in various legal ways, including (but not limited to) things like the new adoption bill in Texas.Â
Asexuality was implicitly pathologized until very recently, and even now, the DSM-V states that a diagnosis of HSDD may not be given only if the patient has a preexisting knowledge of asexuality and chooses to ID that way.
TL;DR:Â
Asexuals have long been considered part of the bisexual community. When people used to talk about bisexuals, it included asexuals because asexuals were the bisexuals too. Bisexual history is asexual history.
Asexuals have also long been considered as a stand-alone orientation that was part of larger non-straight communities and could be studied in comparison to other sexual orientations.Â
Asexuals face many of the same issues that other marginalized orientations face as well as issues specific to their orientation. These include erasure, medicalization, misidentification, harassment, rape specifically targeted at them for being asexual, and religious intolerance, to name just a few. Â
None of this is exhaustive. There are more sources to be found and studied.Â
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I have to note as a historian that refusing to marry and have kids has been pretty much frowned on in virtually every society. A few socities had some kind of out, but that usually meant being bound in other ways (being some kind of holy ascetic and cloistered). This pretty much runs from the moment we know anything about any society to the present.,
Thereâs always been pressure on asexuals to conform to that norm. Â
Sometimes your bad coworker will be like "I can't do anything right & I ruin everything I touch :(" and you can't even comfort them because like damn. Yeah. You really can't do anything right and you do ruin everything you touchâïž
HE'S GETTING FIRED. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS!!!!!!!!!!
you can't say "hey has anyone noticed that M/M fic outnumbers F/F like 100:1â or âit feels racist that only 3/202 characters on the ao3 top 100 ships list are Black and two of them are Alastor HazbinHotelâ bc some ppl will start going like âoh so you think we should FORCE people to write about things they DONâT CARE ABOUT for WOKE????â and youâll be like âno, iâm pointing out that the conditions that created this disparity are informed by racism & misogynyâ and ppl will say âitâs not BIGOTED to only care about WHITE MENâ and then the gargoyle king appears
Working on my Worm character playlists again and I keep coming into conflict with myself because when listening to a lot of the Stomp Clap/Indie Pop stuff from around 2011 ish (generally any song you could find on a "Millennial Hopecore" playlist) it really makes me think of Taylor Hebert. However I also cannot really believe in my heart she's listening to that. Can I really picture Taylor Hebert fighting Lung and then going back to her house and home to relax listening to Foster the People? I don't know.
But then UGH deep diving into the lyrics there is something intrinsically Taylor Hebert here. Someone with an actual expertise on music history would have to chime in to really articulate this, but there's a through line in most of these songs about "life is a nightmare but we are all going to get through it because we are together :)". And I think about how other music movements of the time have completely anti Hebert philosophies, like recession pop is always talking about "Don't worry about the bad stuff! Lets just dance and go clubbing! We can't do anything about it anyway let's party!" And in the alternative space there were still the last echoes of new metal and post grunge that really lyrically capitalized on hating the world, hating yourself, or hating the people around you.
So there's something about the indie scene really focusing in on themes of "Things ARE bad BUT we can make them better." "Things might get worse BUT we can come back from it" "We just have to rely on each other and life will work out" is so so Taylor Heberts block party coded. Even the viral Ok Go music videos kind of play into it with their vibe of No budget just a bunch of people doing fun stuff in perfect sync.
I still don't know if I think Taylor actually listens to it but there is a piece of her soup I can feel when Sweet Disposition by Temper Trap comes on
So one of my big issues with this sort of thing is that music is like religion. Itâs not just about whatâs fits you, what matters more is where and when you grew up, what the people around you are into.
Taylor probably grows up listening to dad rock mixed with old school protest songs and feminist anthems, because thatâs what her parents listen to. Then she borrows CDs from Emma, who is definitely the most generic pop girlie. No music at all after that falls apart, until Lisa makes her a mixtape, Iâd guess female singers and pop punk, which informs Taylorâs taste for the next 2 years.
Like, there are plenty of people who are out there experimenting with their musical taste and trying new things. But pre-Gimmel, Taylor is not one of those people. And that makes it very hard to balance âwould she like thisâ with âwould a poor 15 year old from a New England port city know this band exists?â
zendaya wearing real 3000-year old ancient iranian earrings with no known track of provenance to the odyssey premiere. nasty work. even worse than the kim kardashian marilyn dress to me. they could have promoted modern greek jewelry designers but chose to do this instead. very tacky at best. especially in this geopolitical climate
Like. Look. Listen. I have taught introductory quantum physics at a university level, and I need you all to incorporate this into your trans advocacy: There are situations where you need to make a decision to prioritize being comprehensible to your target audience above being The Most Unassailably Correct.
You can try to teach a toddler about germ theory or you can get them to wash their hands because "yucky"
Teaching a toddler to wash hands because yucky when the Ethics Understander crashes through the roof. "STOP RIGHT THERE," the Ethics Understander shouts at me. "The disgust response is not a legitimate substitute for a considered value judgment, and in fact, weaponizing disgust instead of grounding those judgments in a more rigorous framework is fundamental to reactionary rhetoric!"
The toddler looks at me. "You are a fascist, auntie. I have seen the light and will now go eat chewing gum from the pavement, unless you can educate me on a rigorous framework on the microbiology of pavement chewing gum this very instant."
This is a hyperbolic example but here's a more real one:
You are trying to explain the trajectory of research on trans issues, and how the informed consent model came about as a wildly successful alternative to the gatekeeping model because time and again, people with clinical experience who actually cared about their patients found that just letting trans people transition was easier and the fear that it would lead to something bad was unfounded.
The Principle Understander is shouting at you that the medicalization of trans people is inherently unjust, and even the informed consent provider is still a gatekeeper, just a more lenient one.
You are already aware of this.
You are talking to someone who, as a first priority, needs to know what the worse gatekeeping model looks like.
The person you're talking to is asking "but isn't it good to give patients more time to think before making irreversible changes?" because they didn't hear the part where you explained that asking patients about their masturbation habits has nothing to do with anyone's safety. They missed it because the Principle Understander was on a tangent about the necessity of abolishing capitalism because paying for medication is bad, which again, yes but this is really not the time or place for that.
This has the funniest name btw.
There's an Emily Dickinson poem about this:
Tell all the truth but tell it slantâ Success in Circuit lies Too bright for our infirm Delight The Truth's superb surprise As Lightning to the Children eased With explanation kind The Truth must dazzle gradually Or every man be blindâ
This can also be understood as "speaking their language" or "meeting them where they are." And not to sound like I'm shitposting, but you want to know one of the best examples of this that's ever been posted on tumblr.com?
"What the fuck do you think freedom MEANS, Earl?"
Earl could have gotten an earful about gendered clothing colors being a social construct or how the queer community has its own clothing subculture, and he wouldn't have heard or internalized a word of it. But for the kind of redneck who goes to tractor-pulls? Yeah, "what the fuck do you think freedom means" really only touches the most superficial layer of Mister Pink John Deere Hat, but Earl heard that. And maybe next time he sees a guy dressed like Daisy Duke chilling at a tractor-pull he'll remember it and think "isn't it great to live in a free country" and mind his business. Maybe he'll even ask where the guy got his pink hat and learn something more.
No person who ever said âmy beliefs come from Godâ was ever moved left by âGod doesnât existâ.
"we cut the nobody scene from the odyssey" "we cut the religious trauma and parental abuse from carrie" i'm starting to think that studios barely funding original films is starting to have an effect where directors make up a story and then slap an IP on it in order to sell. or maybe some bitches just can't read anymore idk it's one or the other
everyone in the tags adding the fennell wuthering heights is correct btw
I feel lied to. This is where the bugs bunny NO meme cokes from
Ah lads they fucking rotated him
Me, reading this whole post:
NOW itâs you
Oh yea? Well guess what bro
Best post I've seen all day
LEAVE ME FOKINâ X-AXIS ALONE
"Cokes from"
in grade 12 we were reading romeo and juliet and we were at the romantic-ass balcony scene and this hot girl in the class volunteered to read julietâs parts and i put up my hand to volunteer for another part and the teacher goes âoh do you want to be the nurse, amanda?â and i was like âno i wanna be romeoâ and the hot girl swiveled around in her seat to give me a Lookâą
she and i later ended up making out at a bunch of parties in university lmfao
in retrospect this moment was absolutely pivotal to my butch awakening but it was also just a lesbian power move
I too got a girlfriend over this play. In grade 10, I was reading the balcony scene to study with two other people (one guy and one beautiful girl) and I insisted point blank I had to read as romeo, because he had the most lines and Iâm a dramatic little shit.
So the other two in my group are used to my antics by now. Weâre all friends, so the pair of them decide that the one guy in our group gets to be the nurse. Now, my Juliet and I have been friends for a couple months by this point, so I decide to be a little more dramatic.
We put Juliet on a spinny chair, and pump it up as tall as it goes, and my baby, closeted lesbian ass crouches on the floor, ready to be as melodramatic as possible. Like, Iâm about to do a rendition that makes William himself walk into the class and tell me to take it back a notch or twelve.
And then I look up.
And holy shit.
There she is, Juliet, haloed in the worst fluorescent light known to mortals across the globe. Light just streaming down around her, that weird off-green colour that it always is. And sheâs the most beautiful girl Iâve ever seen. My little gay soul is barely holding on as the words barely leave my lips, breathlessly. âBut soft⊠what light from yonder window breaks?â
And Juliet was the sun. Romeo was not exaggerating that line at all.
Juliet and I have also been together for more than 4 years now. Sheâs every bit as spectacular as she was when I was a lovestruck teenage Romeo, kneeling on the yellowed linoleum floor of second block english.
honestly I hate âcan you pet the dog?!?â not for any of the common reasons but because it was initially interesting as a proposition of âcan you interact with the world in a way that is not within the primary mechanical loopâ and that very quickly fell away to being âwell now any indie developer making a game has to have a pet the dog button or theyâre going to get lettersâ
One of my dream projects has an NPC with a dog, and if you try to pet it, the owner tells you not to do that. If you try again, it bites you and you take damage. I want to do this entirely because I genuinely believe that this would make me feel way more grounded in the world than any âclick button to see cute animationâ would ever do, and also it would be really funny to have a game where people lose their runs because they tried to pet a dog they were told not to pet
Diversity win! Spiritual successor to the Folgers incest comercial is gay!
How is that incestuous? Me and my sisters are that close. When my older sister was working and had to travel a lot and I'd look after her kids and house she called me her sister wife. Yall are just mean.
As a person from the south I canât judge yâall but like itâs giving certain vibes yâall
#The thing is there's nothing terrible in this#going on your vacation with your sister who loves and supports you instead of your shitty ex-boyfriend sounds like a nice time#UNFORTUNATELY#'My sister's the best boyfriend I've never had' is certainly a sentence#it's even something that I could see maybe a REAL PERSON saying kidding around#but this isn't being said by a real person - it's a script for a commercial#so a company CHOSE to associate that sentence with their product#On purpose!#and many people along the way had to approve this! (via @jabberwockypie)
1. the close-up of the sister's lips when she says "pick me" in a whisper, followed by a sensually lit shot of her hair being blown in the wind
2. "sure we were the only sisters on that... romantic cruise..."
3. them both watching a guy make out with a girl (locking eyes with him) then giggling at each other before finding each other's gaze
4. the already legendary "my sister is the best boyfriend i've never had" really is up there with "you're my present this year"
bonus! "do more" being the motto of the brand is unfortunately juxtaposed here tbh...
just in case anyone was still not seeing it
[nods in elsanna]
How is this the first time I've seen this
As someone who is both trans and has a child, absolutely hilarious to me that society presents one of these as absolutely only to be done if you are 110% certain and have proved to several people that you want it bad enough and are ready, and the other is like. You might as well everyone else does. Just do it nobody feels ready. You donât want to? Yes you do
Especially since one of those is pretty reversible if you change your mind after a couple years and the other one, well, technically but thatâs pretty frowned upon
Can anyone explain wtf is going on here especially a Korean speaker
someone on reddit explained đ