My Elsanna Haven

@glittering-snowfall

Welcome! 31. Trans woman. Been here nearly a decade. I love to write fanfics and, by a quirk of fate, became enthralled with Elsanna. Here, I can shamelessly indulge in it and other things. If Elsanna offends you, I respect that and hope you can extend a similar respectfulness towards me. Thank you so much for your understanding.

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TME people have no idea the damage that the constant state of living under transmisogyny does to our mental health. Before I show any any amount of strength, physical or emotional, before I ever be assertive or confident, before I ever stand up for myself, before I ever do any of the things that cis women get rightfully praised for by other feminists, I have to wonder if its going to get me violently misgendered and used as proof of my "male socialization" by those around me.

But then if I do the opposite by making myself smaller, meeker, quieter, when I don't stand up for myself, when I be the model form of femininity that's supposedly expected of me, I get accused of "wearing femininity as a costume" or "perpetuating misogynistic standards for women."

We are constantly, every minute of our lives, subject to a catch-22. And being around TME queer people doesn't change any of this.