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[rainformation]

formative years? aren’t they all?

[binturong-of-the-day]

The binturong of pride

[shamebats]

Most of those iPad babies you're seeing are probably sick of that fucking tablet too.

[shamebats]

A lot of parents are very bad at parenting and don't like their children. They don't want to talk to them, be around them or do anything with them. You know, the things kids need and will remember the most once they're grown.

So they train them from an early age that they should always be distracting themselves with something as to not be in the way or annoying the adults.

For me it was books and TV when I was little, and computers later on. That's all I did because it was all I could do without getting yelled at, and it was the closest to human interaction I could get most of the time.

[shamebats]

Everyone loves to make fun of & complain about iPad kids but nobody thinks about the struggle of navigating life as an adult when you were forced to spend your entire childhood keeping yourself distracted so your parents didn't have to acknowledge your existence.

[lemonylemus]

This was reposted to YouTube shorts and I would like to point out some comments in the video

[flip-this-table]

Please give your children some damn playdoh and crayons and oversized bits of craft paper to color on. They need something more concrete and tactile than smooth glass.

[themainspoon]

Maybe they do need something tactile, but you've missed the point of the post. It's not the Ipad itself that's bad, it's the fact that the children are being neglected. You could hand a kid a whole library of books, several kilograms of play dough, a mountain of crayons, and all the craft paper in the world. But, if you don't spend time with them and you simply expect them to use those things to keep themselves busy so you don't have to deal with them, you're still neglecting the kid, and they're gonna end up with the same issues.

[angstandhappiness]

IMPORTANT

[thebiscuiteternal]

Running across this post almost immediately after reading the article about how some parents are letting fucking ChatGPT tell their kids bedtime stories now feels serendipitous in a way.

[shamebats]

#so this is actually what i wrote my final thesis about for my bachelors in psychology #i ran an exeriment on kids below 5 that measured their social cognition levels (eg. understanding others emotions and needs etc) #and i also asked the parents about their kids screentime habits #and there was obviously a negative correlation between the two - so more screentime meant lower social cognition on average #BUT there were quite a few outliers with high amounts of screentime but also a higher level of social congition #and the explanation for that is that for these children screentime isn't there INSTEAD of interacting with the parents #screentime only affects the child negatively if parents use it as a distraction for the kids instead of interacting with them #so if a child watches some cartoon then the best a parent can do is sit with them and watch with them and talk about it with them #and then (limited) screentime can actually be beneficial for the development of other cognitive skills #so there is a large amount of scientific research out there that proves what ppl said in this post

That's really it. You'd probably have gotten similar results 30 years ago if you studied kids who are left to read books by themselves alone in their room for multiple hours a day vs kids whose parents read with them, or at least in the same room and talk to them about what they're reading. Because the former are most definitely also being neglected in other ways.

It's not as much about the tablets, it's about the fact that these children aren't being played with and talked to enough. Parents are using them as a get out of parenting tool instead of a parenting tool.

[theslowesthnery]

🥹🥹🥹

[bifauxnenarmand]

I love him so much what is his problem 😭😭😭

[cyndaquillover1074]

Something so funny about Armand genuinely being a weird guy. Like vampirism and immortality and traumatic past aside he is genuinely so odd. Hilarious. Even to other vampires he is super weird. Why is he like that.

[borderlinereminders]

One of the hardest things I had to learn with BPD was that feelings being valid didn’t automatically mean my conclusions were accurate. Because I do always say ‘your feelings are valid’ but I want to be clear on the fact that it doesn’t mean they’re facts.

For a long time, if I felt abandoned, I assumed someone had abandoned me. If I felt unloved, I assumed someone had stopped loving me. My emotions felt so intense and so real that it felt impossible they could be pointing me in the wrong direction.

And sometimes the feeling itself makes complete sense based on what happened, but the conclusion I draw from it is more extreme than it needs to be. If a friend cancels plans, it makes sense to feel hurt or disappointed. That feeling is valid. But it doesn’t automatically mean they secretly hate me or that I’m being abandoned.

What recovery taught me wasn’t that my feelings weren’t real. It taught me that feelings are experiences, not always evidence.

Sometimes my emotions are telling me something important. Sometimes they’re touching old wounds. Sometimes they’re reacting to fear instead of reality.

Learning to slow down and get curious instead of immediately acting on them has probably changed my relationships more than anything else.

[mbari-blog]

Pretty, pink, and surprisingly fierce 🌸🍴🪸⁠

Tritonia tetraquetra is a relatively large sea slug or nudibranch that can grow to 21 centimeters (over eight inches) in length. The two horn-like structures on Tritonia’s head are rhinophores that allow the sea slug to “smell” chemical signals dissolved in seawater and help find its prey—deep-sea corals. They crawl onto corals and eat the soft polyps with a rasp-like tongue called a radula. These perfectly pink predators get that rosy hue from the color of their prey.

[jellogram]

I should be doing more to appreciate the lack of marvel movies in today's popular culture. I once yearned for marvel movies to have this level of irrelevance. They used to feel almost ozymandian, like an empire that had no beginning and no end. and now tony stark iron man is naught but two vast and trunkless legs of stone.

[aminocodeji]

[welshfaerie]

When they ask "What about your legacy?" I'm just like erm, I don't care? 100 years from now nobody will remember me and I'm cool with it. Very few people are remembered long after their passing, such is the way of life, death and time marching on. I don't care now and won't care when I'm dead.

[tlirsgender]

Writers have something wrong with us cause I feel like every single writer who's like good at it is like "why am I doing this to myself" on a regular basis. I think writers who are kinda bad at it enjoy it more. Where is Kafka's little self portrait of him sitting at a table with his head in his hands

[onyxmustdie]

[imsobadatnicknames2]

I rarely bring this up because it feels like fairly silly and low-stakes compared to all the other effects of american imperialism, but one of the funniest things when Americans deny that living in the imperial core and the center of global cultural hegemony confers them any sort of privilege over people from the imperial periphery is that like. In order for this conversation where you tell me you have no privilege over me to even be able to take place one of us had to learn the other's language, and it wasn't you.

I think the fact that by default the onus of learning the other's language to enable communication is always put on the other side is a pretty significant privilege on the cultural front.

[imsobadatnicknames2]

Someone commented this post with "So if I learned, say, Hawaiian and talked to a hawaiian person, then the hawaiian would be privileged? Come on, think about what you're writing, man" and then blocked me as soon as I tried to reply, so.

Monolingual anglophones are a deeply solipsistic people unable to think about international power dynamics on any level beyond the individual to comprehend that "one guy making the individual choice to learn your language" does not represent the same level of linguistic hegemony and privilege as "millions of people all over the world learning specifically your language because they're expected to be able to speak it as a near-universal requirement for any kind of upward mobility while learning a second language is never expected of you"

[mamawasatesttube]

the thing about media literacy is that understanding why the author chose to specify that the curtains are blue is the same skill set as understanding that the way the author characterizes all black characters as angry or all chinese characters as meek and silent is racist. it is the same skill set as being able to identify when a news source is biased or when someone is feeding you propaganda. the ability to ask "why did this person choose to present this premise in this specific way?" is a critical skill in a world full of misinformation. why are the curtains blue? maybe it's a characterization detail. maybe it's extraneous worldbuilding. why is this character written as being right all the time? maybe you're intended to disagree with them. maybe it doesn't matter. maybe you should still ask why.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"Clearly I wasn't talking about disabled people-" yeah part of the problem is that the existence of disabled people just isn't considered in your worldview like that's the problem we're criticizing not a get out of jail free card

[la-vie-en-lys]

No, that's not the problem. Not everything is relevant to disabled people, nor does it have to be.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Disabled people are the world's biggest minority group and a part of every other marginalized community. Thinking that you can do progressive activism without ever engaging with the subject of disability is in fact a problem

[ofools]

not gonna say it again!!!!

a BOG is a wetland that is acidic

a FEN is a wetland that is alkaline

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

FINALLY someone said it!!!!!!!

[quasi-normalcy]

a SWAMP is a wetland whose vegetation consists of trees or other woody plants

a MARSH is a wetland with other forms of vegetation

[lesbianshepard]

#A LITTLE LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[villainessbian]

a MANGAL is a swamp whose soil concentrates high amounts of salt and very low amounts of oxygen, supporting little else than mangrove trees

a PEATLAND is a wetland whose soil concentrates decaying organic matter, becoming peat

[big-smiling-monkey]

Oh yeah baby, keep coming at me with watery environmental states

[cerastes]

I don’t think we ought to normalize or justify bullying as a means to keep people from being annoying — a sentiment that in and of itself could make for a whole article’s worth of conversation — but I do think we should make a habit of politely but directly telling people “hey I didn’t like that”, “that wasn’t funny”, “you are mistaken”, and the like if it’s called for, and more importantly, you should be able to take a “that wasn’t funny” for instance without taking it personally, because protecting a polite harmony where no one can criticize each other, not even politely, is also really, really bad.

[reejindeed]

Some well-meaning and absolutely horrifying life advice