State of Mind.
When I first joined the Kingsman fandom after the first film I was warmly welcomed, despite breaking all the rules. I was playing a canon character (Percival) with an non-canonical face (tom hardy). But no one character. there was even an extremely problematic Roxy and no, it wasn’t Ally. She’s problematic only if you call her out on her shit. otherwise she’s not a problem. The only conflict we had was because she said some shit I didn’t appreciate and seems to never have separated me from my fc, but she never actually did anything that wasn’t easily solved by calling her out. The problematic Roxy was before most of you.
The problematic Roxy I’m referring to would follow back most people, but not colored characters unless canon. She only really was there to ship with white men. She made informative looking post with diagrams and shit about how ROXY WAS THE ONLY XX KINGSMAN ( a falsehood, Giselle was also a Kingsman Agent in the comics ), and how there wasn’t a place for OC agents based on the number of chairs ( another known falsehood as people have stood in both movies and not just been seated, and how it appears that seats are meant to be earned ). She would play with other female OCs just to drop or be passive aggressive towards them. She did this to @fearofmercy , my roommate and best friend. So, I took one look at the thread I had with this Roxy and deleted every reply to her. Then called her out on some of her hypocritical post. Oliver ( @kingsgentleman my Percival ) was not only an OC but an OC taking the place of a canon character and she had embraced him, and even tried to say how she wanted a relationship between them ( I know when someone’s here for the D, i pretend not to, so I can peacefully ignore it because I’m an awkward ace ) despite the fact that Oliver is a singleship character who had a wife already.
But there is a gross obsession with sex in this fandom, and by gross I mean unhealthy, is what lead me to leave then. It is not that I think sex is gross or even my naturally prudish view, it’s that often this fandom is merely the fetishization of gay men and ddlg relationships. We celebrate alcoholism, abuse, drug use, and sexual violence. It happens all over tumblr, but this fandom is the worst of it, because for some reason no one seems to find anything wrong with it. I know it sounds rich given @statesshitpost but she was literally made to be satire of how ridiculous we all were. I’m not saying it’s every blog, or that some of the friends I made are above this. @agentkahlua al-co-ho-lic, but she has the decency to know her character has a problem and treat her as such. It affects her relationship and brings her down, and fucks her up. @aliasgareth and @fearofmercy have a ridiculous connection and are both unhealthy people who suffer and think they suffer more. Atlas syndrome for sure.
But the point stands. This fandom excuses so very much, with no accountability. I made friends, really good friends. I met people I will love forever and I know that shit falls on all sides, but I cannot be part of a group that isn’t looking to better itself. I loved playing Darius, for a very short amount of time before people started just clawing to get to his dick, and when he made that difficult I was personally pestered. Even though he’s awkward, and serious, and reserved, and traditional, and not just going to jump into bed. Even though I was playing my character. And I loved Trina, I’d say I loved playing her in the fandom but she was hella complimented and then mostly ignored. And Oliver... well, I’ve moved him to @westaytrue and idk how much i’ll play him. I wanted to love something with people, but it just doesn’t seem like i love things the same way.
I went through issues with Moony/Ash, and somehow with Sun even though i’d never talked to them. I had issues with Ally, I had issues with Rocky. Some of them grander, some of them not. Ally I called out, and then she refused to even consider that something she said might have offended me, she blocked me. And she talked a little shit, but not a lot, and I commend that it was actually pretty civil. Rocky, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you about after the whole lying about self and then talking mad shit on Kira/Shiloh and Sev ( unwarrented, so don’t come at me about how maybe something happened okay? ). Sun dragged my name into trying to defend themself. Somehow enjoying other characters meant they weren’t elitist. Somehow it defended the vague post that Sun literally called vague post. And the shittest part was that people defended their bad behavior saying ‘oh, they’re just miss understood.’
Let me tell you something very important. There is no misunderstanding in being shitty to another person. If you have shamed someone else, if you have hurt them, if you vague blog about them because you don’t have the nerve to face them and tell them your problems with them, then you are the problem. And if you want a certain URL to be just for you and your precious baby friends, then save every variation you can think of. it’s not other people’s fault that YOU fucked up, mmkay?
Edit: as for the issues I had with Moony/Ash, it was manly the complaining about how no one wants to rp with them while ignoring every female oc who sent them anything. and TALKING A LOT OF SHIT BEHIND EVERYONES BACKS WHILE DELETING THEIR OWN COMMENTS.
But overall, this has been an eye opening and fucked up experience. I’m not sorry that i’m leaving, I am sorry that I don’t know how to help the community grow.
xoxo, Cara.
