I came across this post in instagram about the 7 circles of whiteness and found it helpful. Itâs a tool created by a mental health therapist, Alishia McCullough and I think itâs supposed to be American focused but applies everywhere
Circle 1 (white terrorist): brutal violence against Black bodies; racist and derogatory slurs; white nationalism; white separatism; actively targeting Black bodies;police brutality; lynchings; hate crimes; alt-right; most likely to be seen with a gun in a public location I.e a restaurant if their kids birthday party; maga; intimidation tactics; confederate flags; rigid patriotism; anti-take a knife; blue lives matter; kkk; founders and supporters of the prison industrial complex; uses white evangelical rhetoric to justify racism
Circle 2 (the post racial believer): talks about racial tolerance; âI have Black neighborsâ; polices those Black neighbors; using language such as âcoloredâ to describe Black people in the U.S; bootstrap theory folks; uses terms like âboyâ to describe grown Black men; expects Black women to be the mammy; never feel âsafeâ around Black people; âI donât see colorâ; âObama fixed itâ; believers of the âAmerican dreamâ; constantly downplays Black excellence and uses the affirmative action card; white Eurocentric Christianity values, âwe are all the same in the eyes of godâ; white women clutching their purse or locking their cars when a Black person walks by; victim blaming; superior pity complex; may have a multiracial person in the family, that is they have white washed; expects Black people to jump and do things like carry their groceries to the car; uncomfortable around topics if race and thinks that talking about race issues creates division
Circle 3 (the oblivious instigator): cultural appropriation; loved white washed Black people; fetishizes and sexualizes Black men; white tears/fragility; micro aggressions; all lives matter; âreverse racismâ; white saviorism; plays âdevilâs advocateâ and invalidates experiences of racism; social justice issues related to things that centre what they are going through; have no loyalty to Black people and will often sell you out if presented with the opportunity; âif you say it nicer, I might listenâŠyou are pushing me awayâ; tone policing; âall white people are not badâ; elitish; entitlement; calling the police because they donât feel âcomfortableâ; thinks that biracial children excuse them from racism; âI am a good white personâ; big on authoritarianism/rule following; often uses the ânâ word as a âjokeâ and calls you dramatic for getting upset about it; feels entitled to Black bodies, âI donât know why youâre offended that I touched your hair without consent, itâs just hairâ
Circle 4 (the needy ally): focused on âgetting anti-racism rightâ (perfectionism); read âwhite fragilityâ, has not addressed their own; âI am above other white peopleâ; white distancing to be an exception; arrival at anti-racism mindset; bragging on the few times they fought back against racism in order to gain approval; needing to center themselves in topics about race; need constant validation and emotional investment from Black people; often has white terrorist family members that they are struggling to change or convince; co-opting the work of poc and trying to make it their own I.e. white women and yoga; can admit to holding privilege, but refuses to be held accountable; race splaining; considers the trump election to be the epitome of when things âgot badâ; needs to collect Black friends/tokenization; good âwhiteâ ally mentality; impulsive around racial justice often causes more harm; will often vent to Black people about their frustrations with politics, usually takes up a lot of space and leaves Black people emotionally exhausted and depleted
Circle 5 (the passive aggressive oppressor): white feminist; values white research and experience over the lives experiences of Black people; divisive and often tries to turn Black people and poc against each other; manipulative; intent versus impact; not paying for Black labor; abuses power to silence and control Black women; victimizes self when challenged around topics of race; degrades Black people who donât agree with them; tokenizes poc and Black people; white narcissism; no accountability and very skilled at deflecting and gaslighting; loves whitewashed poc and Black people; comes across like they âget itâ; expert versus listener/learner mentality; implements respectability politics; does not value building trust and rapport, but expects it from Black people; gatekeeper mentality; typically the face for anti-racism in their social circles; often loses the trust of Black people in their lives
Circle 6 (the do âgooderâ): can be invalidating and engage in silver lining talk, âwell at leastâŠletâs look at the positivesâ; still supports harmful white people in their lives to maintain their social status/comfort; listens to certain Black people, but still do not center trans and cis Black women; overcompensating in allyship; speaking on behalf of communities; thinking they know whatâs best for a Black person of community; views Blackness as a monolith; may be complacent in issues that cause discomfort; does not challenge institutions/problematic white people; âomg you are my Oprah or Michelle Obamaâ; uses political correctness/academia terminology; intellectualizes our lived experiences so that it has more âcredibilityâ; plays up their marginalized identities to excuse their racism; seeks approval and self advancement; âyou can always come to meâ but does not have the tools to effectively support Black people
Circle 7 (the lifelong student): pays for all forms of labor performed by Black people; centres the most marginalized; actively engages in introspection and simantling racism in themselves; address racism at every institutional and systemic level; centres learning and research of Black people especially those with the most marginalization; knows that they never arrive; honors Black liberation and healing; not imposing on Black time (Black people need to be in spaces without white people as often as possible); strong understanding of racial trauma and their ancestral, historical and current impact; deals with white fragility with fellow white people; listens and challenges white saviorism; accountability/changed behavior; understands that reconciliation does not mean you are allowed back in that perosnâs life; uses privilege to be key makers versus gate keepers; constantly unpacking white supremacy and challenging white culture without approval; not expecting Black people to show up a certain way; knowing their mere presence is harmful; understanding that they will never fully be trusted by Black people, making peace with that
I do wonder why this is something you were worried about sending anonymously đ